Keep taking Ls with women?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-04-09T18:40:26+00:00

Making out publicly will usually lead to that being the last time you go on a date with them.

Leave them wanting more, or go all the way to sex. Pick one. Avoid the middle ground (like just making out)!

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-04-09T18:55:12+00:00

Tbh, it sucks but it's part of the game.

When i started to actually try after years of not trying and feeling sorry for myself. It took some time but then i was going through a stage where i was just kissing girls at bars every other weekend but not getting anything after that.

After talking to a few female friends somethign i learned was this. The way women think of going out is really different than men. Like one time a female friend of mine was excited she got 2 numbers from guys, and she literally said "i pulled 2 guys". Becuase for her it was a done deal, me and my male friends explained that pulling is not getting the number, it's getting laid. ANd she just didnt understand why that was the case and we had to explain to her, women decide the sex we dont so getting the number could lead to us just getting ghosted. Women go out for fun we go out to get laid. So for women they live the moment, they want to dance, kiss someone, etc. They are perfectly fine with the night ending there. It's on us to take it further than that. Ive had many female friends tell me that for them when they ksis a guy they really do like him but the next day they wake up, realize it was just a nice fun drunken night and that's it. They dont care to make the effort anymore because they just leave it as the fun night.

So sometimes it's important to keep it going even after you get the number. I dont know what youre doing to get the kisses, etc. But to get a callback you need to make an effor tto be more memorable. Hell, you might need to suggest getting laid that night (but you got to do it smoothly and respectfully).

Something a friend and i advised was this. Finding a way to lead but also letting the girl know that it's her choice. So first once you kiss someone, give them a good night. Dont think "oh i got a kiss so we are fucking or getting a date". No continue the fun night. Let's say you got that kiss at 11 or midnight and it's clear people still want to have fun annd arent ready to go. Dont rush it to go home, live the moment. Keep the fun going, get everyone drinks, keep the dancing going, kiss her, etc.

Then once people are kinda ready to go, there's a moment where this girl is ok to just go home but is also open to keep it going. She wont say that because as women they get shamed for ONS, so you gotta be the one to lead in that moment, but also it's how you lead. So a friend and i devised a system in these situations. So if that's me i go up to the girl i was vibing with, kiss her, hand on her hip bringing her close, and i say "so what's the plan?". If she is down she will say "idk what were you thinking?" and then ill say something like "i got a bottle of wine at my place we can play some games if your down for it?" and i give her another kiss. The point is making her feel like she can leave whenever that it wont make or break you if she says no. Dont say something like "come to my place" or be forward like "let's fuck" you are making her feel like a ho and girls already get slutshamed for it. But if you present it as "let's continue the fun and it can end whenever you want it to end." in her mind she will be like "well i am having fun and we dont need to do anything at his place that id ont want to do".

Girls will never just say yes, you gotta read the body language. If it's a cute little "IDK" then suggest the idea, but make sure that your body language is "im ok if you say no this night ends whenever you want it to end". If it's a hesitant "IDK but im scared youd be upset if iwanted to go home" then let go and wish her a goodnight. That's why you do the whole, hand on hip, kiss, etc. If it's invitive then you know she is more than likely down, if it's not than you know you should just give her space and walk away.

If she ends up at your place, you slowly increase the physical contact, sit her next to you, etc. Again, if she decides to leave at that moment, then let her go, get her the uber even. But if she doesnt and she seems very comfortable, you slowly increase it to kisses, leg rub, etc. Once you feel pushback, stop. Dont be afraid of pushback be respectful if it happens. She might just respect it enough to give you a callback.

Dont get the number and just call it a win, keep it going. Make yourself the most memorable dude ever. Impress her friends too. You want her friends to be like "you gotta call OP he's such a cool dude".

YSLMangoManiac · 2026-04-09T18:55:18+00:00

Is making out really an L? I’m inclined to say no

vertascend · 2026-04-09T20:30:26+00:00

Buyers remorse from women… that’s what is happening… it was a spur of the moment thing, not real attraction…. If you were on night game then you should’ve sealed the deal, that’s the only way… the girl probably regrets her decision or feels rejected… one of the 2 and while neither are true… she will still overthink

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2026-04-09T18:39:20+00:00

Ls means

No-Wolverine7793 · 2026-04-09T20:50:28+00:00

Good best way to learn is from failure and figure out what went wrong kinda like building a race car

Total_Obligation_371 · 2026-04-10T12:33:49+00:00

That's not an L, that's completely normal. Some girls just want to make out with a guy and that's it. Anyone who's done a decent amount of nightgame has made out several girls that just immediately leave, don't hookup, or didn't call/text back. 2 could just be a random bad streak having nothing to do with you. The only thing I can tell you is that making out with a girl is not necessary or beneficial most of the time unless you're ready to go all the way to sex. If it does happen though, try to pull the girl and escalate to sex. Don't try to build more attraction or tension or whatever, don't try to get her number, just try to have sex with her.

Title	Keep taking Ls with women?
Author	Dry_Fun_8328
Upvotes	16
Comments	23
Date	April 9, 2026 6:32 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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