My Beginner Blueprint ( Classic information in the way I wish it had been presented to me )

I wrote a huge comment that I think is worth posting on it's own. After doing hundreds of day game approaches here is the same old information prioritized and explained in the way I wish I could have had it presented to me before I started, instead of having the importance of different subjects clouded by information overload. Here is the post verbatim (from the 28 year old virgin thread):

You sound so much further along than most people in your position. I guarantee with all your socializing there are girls in your life right now that want to sleep with you. 'The Game' is "technically non-fiction" and won't really help you except to maybe get you out there. Don't fill your head with too much information, most of it is re-hashed anyway (here comes the hypocrisy my own re-hash which is hopefully clear and covers only the most important fundamentals).

First you need to be in abundance. How can you be in abundance if you are a virgin? You can't be in abundance of sex at first of course, but you can be in abundance of approaching, and you can be in abundance of competence in the first five minutes of interaction with a stranger. How do you approach? There is lots of info out there, but really all you are trying to do is get her attention. That's it. Tell her she's gorgeous, make a statement about something around you, compliment her on something she's wearing, whatever. These may have somewhat different outcomes but you can't know what is going to work ahead of time and definitely not without calibration, so just get her attention.

How can I be in abundance of an approach when I'm fighting AA? Break it down and ignore the 'get out there and do it pussy' sentiment. This leads to a do or die, sink or swim approach and that is not a reliable way to learn. I also don't believe you can logic yourself out of an emotion, so I don't believe from my experience that you can magically stop caring and flip a switch to turn off emotions holding you back. Jordan Belfort - Wolf of Wall Street (despite not being a role model in all areas) said something I found incredibly insightful, even after being exposed to plenty of self help material. To accomplish anything you need four things, with the last being the most appropriate here:

A vision (to feel competent and confident with women), The ability to manage your state (sound familiar?), A helpful belief structure (women want someone like you, want to meet you, and you are not your past), and To Act In The Face Of Fear. http://dangerandplay.com/2014/01/14/success-tips-jordan-belfort-wolf-wall-street/

1. Online dating is a decent start. I remember being nervous about just sending girls messages. That seems crazy now. Send me a PM if you have trouble getting replies.
2. Get out in public. The first step to a live approach is to just be out.
3. Walk over to a girl, but you don't have to say anything. Run to catch up with a girl but you don't have to say anything or look at her. Yes this might seem a little strange, but it is for yourself, not to accomplish anything socially. Do it until you are used to it and less nervous, but don't wait for fear to go away completely, it probably never will.
4. Make eye contact with everyone you pass. You don't have to do anything more than that.
5. Make eye contact and smile. A lot of people will smile back at you. Remember to keep practicing and move on when the fear has decreased and your competence has increased. At this point some people won't smile back simply because you are now more outgoing and friendly than average, and not everyone is having a good day.
6. Add a 'hey' to your passing eye contact and smile. Repetition at every stage, do it over and over.
7. Now start saying 'hey' with a downward tonality and try to stop people / get their attention and ask a question or complement them or whatever.
8. Now start actually stopping girls / getting their attention with something that can lead to a conversation. Pretty much anything with more than a one word answer (what time is it) can be used as a jumping off point. Anything goes. You can honestly say 'you're cute and I want to get to know you but my mind is blank, I haven't really done this before'. At this point you are off to the races. Try to read signals from the girl (smiling, twirling hair, legs crossed while standing meaning she isn't planning on walking away etc). End on a high note or move her somewhere. Now you are on a date and you can do it multiple times in a couple of hours. Take that internet dating! (though internet dating absolutely works, it is a slower process and the beauty will have a lower ceiling).

Mark Manson's book simplifies things down to the (on the surface) paradox of eliminating neediness and maximizing desire. The love systems magic bullets book has a triangle of escalating emotionally, logistically, and physically. These are abstract, and of course reading will get you ideas not girls, but it's a good start without filling your head with too much.

So how about a few outward things. For neediness and desire you need to communicate and demonstrate that you are not needy but you desire the girl you are interacting with. Saying the actual words outright can work, but most of the time it is better to sub-communicate.

So all of that boils down to some basics.

Smile. Smile with your eyes like the world and everyone in it is wonderful, or smile like you and her have a shared secret that you are going to fuck the first chance you get.

Eye contact. Holding eye contact shows dominance, emotional strength and control of the present moment, dominance shows abundance, abundance implies a lack of neediness. It also implies desire and can't help but activate an emotional connection or response. Hell yeah, all of that comes from something so simple.

Touching. Start to touch, and take it where you think is too far. Its effects are similar to eye contact, so you get so much from a simple one second palm on the elbow or one second hand on the shoulder (and push away very slightly for extra credit).

Voice tone. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QS36bpEi1qI This video literally took me from getting blown out to stopping girls in their tracks (day game in malls for the curious). Go harder than you think you should to calibrate.

Groom yourself well, wear clothes that fit and are context appropriate. Even add some contrast (dark bottoms and light tops most of the time probably, but could be light bottoms and a dark top). Most guys dress like total shit, don't pay attention to their hair, are overweight and even have horrible scraggly facial hair. Poor ladies, they must wonder if some guys are trying to make it difficult to be attracted. If you are overweight, cut out as much sugar from your diet as possible. Eating fat doesn't make you fat. This is an idea/belief that makes some people argue passionately in opposition. Watch this video and see what you think, to me it has been convincing and worked extremely well in practice. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBnniua6-oM To build muscle you have to intensely lift weight and push yourself as hard as you can (not unlike exercising your comfort zone above). The good news is that you can do this relatively quickly (30-45 minutes per session) once or twice a week since your muscles will be healing, getting larger, and sucking up glycogen with all the time you aren't at the gym. The bad news is that building muscle takes a lot of time, give it 8 solid months before you or anyone else notices a difference. Take a before picture. Weight loss on the other hand can be way more rapid and transform someone in a handful of months.

If you are doing all this, girls will be attracted. Sure you can do more like tease and put in some DHVs of the classic attraction switches (women are radars, you can be subtle, they'll pick it up). Your large social circle is a enormous and potent DHV. When you are out talking to lots of people and having fun, women notice and I guarantee have been getting attracted. Learn their signals, assume they are attracted. Doing even 30% is devastatingly effective. Doing things even 30% right can make a girl fall in love with you. Game is that powerful, other guys are that bad at it.