My first date game is awful

quickjump · 2019-12-11T12:02:27+00:00

Couple things I do everytime:

If it's the first date, I like starting early, around 7-8ish with the intention of taking her to multiple places because I go from the dude she met up with to the dude she arrived with, it establishes comfort pretty well and this move has helped me smash on first dates when I plateaued.

I tend to be the one to end the date, I do this on a high note when we've spent a decent amount of time together but not too much. It will leave her wanting more, if not, at the very least she's not sick of me and also knows I'm not needy or desperate for attention. She knows I value my time.

As for convos, this is somewhat of an alley oop off the backboard that I need to set myself up for and it starts when I'm choppin her up. If she's off the internet like tinder, I don't share too much about myself, I just game her enough where I know a few specific things about her and she only knows a few general things about me. I keep like 5 bullshit open ended questions in my head in the event i run out of things to say but most of the time I don't need to reach for those because I make it a point to tease her during the texting and then bring it up again as a call back if she exhibits the same tendency during the date. It's usually a good way to loosen her up if she doesn't seem comfortable but remember, she can only be truly comfortable if you are. Once you are truly comfortable, you two can go a good 20-30 seconds without saying a thing and it won't be weird.. Even tho that sounds weird.

I would probably just focus on all the attraction killers and how they can apply to dates and try to avoid those because no matter how good you manage the date, if you burp out a little beta, she's gone.

clarko271 · 2019-12-11T11:19:49+00:00

Be genuinely interested.

axe122 · 2019-12-11T14:16:26+00:00

Generally rule of thumb to follow is your gonna have to ask some questions or make some statements about her to find out about her and build comfort so tease her on 1 out of 3 of her answers. Also don’t explain yourself and lose the word sorry from your vocabulary even if it’s sarcastic, it turns women off fast if they aren’t super enamored by your looks and are unsure if they are into you. If a girl is on a date with you she likes you enough to have sex with you or she wouldn’t be going on the date. Basically you just have to have fun with her sexually escalate and not act like a pussy in any way shape or form and you’ll get laid or be able to date her 90% of the time.

They aren’t going on a date with you hoping you don’t fuck them...... they are hoping you have what it takes to lead them to the bedroom successfully but they aren’t just gonna make it easy for you unless they already really really like your looks. They wanna make sure your a confident assertive and fun guy before they allow themselves to engage their emotions and open up to you physically.

FloydOtisRuthie · 2019-12-11T13:53:58+00:00

If she’s on a date with you, she’s interested in you. Make a connection to something you’ve talked about in the past (like when you met on a dating app or wherever); if you can’t remember, look back through messages and take mental (or literal) notes.

It could also be that you’re nervous/anxious and putting a lot of pressure on yourself to make her like you. If you view a date as getting to know someone as a friend, you may feel less worried about how it’s going. Friendship is the foundation of any great relationship. Good luck! 😊

Umbran_scale · 2019-12-11T16:52:37+00:00

kinoing?

Hubblenobbin · 2019-12-11T17:46:43+00:00

Focus on laser eye contact, the rest of that stuff will typically fall out naturally as a result. Kinoing is a learned skill though, you just gotta make yourself do it.

NorthVilla · 2019-12-11T14:43:01+00:00

Are you nervous? Or calm?

Br00dlord · 2019-12-11T16:24:39+00:00

So I'll give you my 2 cents, for me the problem is getting dates. Don't have the time or social circle to meet enough women, but when I get on a first date my conversion rate is super high!

The two things that work very good for me are:

1) A game that makes it really easy to break the ice:

Say 2 truths and 1 lie about yourself, the other person has to figure out what's the lie. Making assumptions is a lot more fun than asking questions.

Other than that easy tip for kinoing is tap her leg or shoulder to make a statement, then you go into "Let me check your manicure" and you touch her hand for a bit, for the last step - I'll give you my special! If she's wearing a scarf (you're fucked if you live in a warm place), say that you're going to show her a special way to tie her scarf, and while being very close, place it on her eyes and go for the kiss. It's a risky move, but if you're picking up signs and you can feel the vibe, it should work.

Good luck!

Goofydoodle · 2019-12-11T16:39:42+00:00

Sounds like you know the good things to do, believe it or not if you know what you need to do it just happens quite naturally if you FEEL confident.

Work on that. Learn inner game ma dude, all other techniques are manipulative bullshit.

Wazzzock · 2019-12-11T19:42:16+00:00

I find that its not about what your saying its HOW you're saying it, talk slow, good eye contact, smirking, feeling and looking confident in the situation etc.

I tend to talk about family, interests/ life aspirations.

Attraction is a feeling not a sentence or a word, dont overthink

Paarth_r · 2019-12-11T11:47:31+00:00

And take a look at your MBTI personality type

I_fail_this · 2019-12-11T11:16:20+00:00

Fuck game look for common ground. What are you interested in. What is she interested in

WIA20XX · 2019-12-11T12:07:43+00:00

If you know what your problems are, what question are you really asking?

Title	My first date game is awful
Author	_zyzyx
Upvotes	22
Comments	17
Date	December 11, 2019 11:11 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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