tl;dr:

  • 3 hours
  • 27 approaches
  • 1 number scored
  • 1 number given (= 99% BS)

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Intro

After My first daygaming session I still knew it's possible to approach and not die in the process. Since more numbers is better than less, I decided to go for it.

My thoughts before the action

Some general fear before arriving in the city but I knew all of that BS was to be ignored. I'm not even sure if the fear was less than the last time. I just know how to get over it quick.

First approaches

The first 5 weren't as bad as the first time. I probably mumbled and stuttered a bit, also talked too fast. After the first 5 or so I was more or less warmed up.

First good approaches

Some approaches resulted in quite lengthy conversations up to 5-10 minutes sometimes. The vibing was good and the number seemed like a formality. Compared to my previous session it was a boyfriend day, they all allegedly had a boyfriend.

First good lessons

Some key insights received from the players

  • approaching from behind: make a full circle and start talking when you're in front of rather than next to her
  • following the girl: a BIG DON'T, once you stand in front of her you stop and talk to her. If she doesn't stop, let her walk away.
  • tease play: ALWAYS with a smile on your face so she for sure knows you're joking. Both being only very nice or only an asshole don't work.
  • boyfriend excuse: ignore it and don't talk about it. You're here for "the nice chat", "not to steal her away". Keep talking.
  • group approaching: when opening directly give the compliment to the girl you like, not to the whole group. Your focus is on the girl you like but keep the group entertained (this is obviously when I struggle).
  • strong frame: learn to pass the shit tests. Either ignore her excuses about the age, your height, etc or amplify them.
  • quality above quantity: try to make the best out of every approach rather to think there will be another one in a second.

Some other lessons I realized myself or were given to me on the reddit

  • I'm just bad at matching clothes. Will never learn it, gotta use some help.
  • During the conversation ask about her availability and schedule a date right on the spot.

Questions

Vulnerability: It's generally hard to hurt my feeling unless the other person is generally much more experienced in the matter and or life in general. I don't give a shit about any rejection but I sometimes playfully pretend to get hurt if the girl says something stupid or offensive. While the guys told me to rather not do it, one source I used before for seduction claims that the ability to show vulnerability is a good thing. It seems rather interesting to me to be with a person who can play all the emotions rather that the type of no matter what you say, it always splashes.

Being picky: Another thing I'm wondering is getting much more efficient with my approaches. Instead of approaching anything I like, it's obvious it would be better to talk to the girls that seem interested right from the spot even before talking with them. On the other hand one never knows whether they're really interested or not so I could possibly been missing plenty of opportunities that way.

My thoughts

Generally piss poor results. While the approaches were much better than previous sessions, the results weren't, even considering the fact that the previous session was much longer. I might have screwed up my outfit a bit but it shouldn't have been that much of an issue. There may be something fundamental going wrong.

Final words

Please tell me what you think about the lessons I got and especially about the questions I have.