Need to shift my text game to kill my neediness right now, post suggestions please

imaloserbaebay · 2017-10-23T15:58:25+00:00

Have you kissed or shown any sort of affection to let her know your intentions? Don't assume she knows if you haven't.

Just stop texting her about her day or whatever. Use texts to arrange dates and keep the small talk to a minimum.

I am chasing a girl who was leading the chase forever, she still is primarily but I've put enough distance between us that she actually hits me up for dates now, rather then me being the only initiator. IMO best tools to my success was distance/time/space and not being readily available at drop of a hat. Cancel on her, albeit don't be rude or do it short notice. Bet she'll be clamoring to see you after.

daygamer0911 · 2017-10-23T16:28:51+00:00

Even if you were successfully able to "shift the chase" you would eventually revert.

Your issues run deeper than "text game"

2017-10-23T19:09:26+00:00

Two steps:

(1) Don't text too much. (2) Get a date via text, then stop texting. Be mysterious, girls like it.

NoRiceForP · 2017-10-23T17:08:12+00:00

You must be pretty good looking. I mean it's been this long and she's still the one chasing. But I'm a little confused... Why can't you just sit back and let her chase you?

Synacku · 2017-10-23T18:56:19+00:00

Some of you are saying to stop texting or wait til I get back from vacation. This girl is likely to hit me up today or tomorrow, or potentially multiple times before I get back from vacation. At what point is it rude to ignore texts/calls? How much contact does she have to establish before I should clearly respond?

I'm just trying to get her to chase me more, not text/call me a bunch of times and then I ignore all of them for almost a week and she get angry and move on.

UoAPUA · 2017-10-23T23:15:38+00:00

Just stop texting her unless pure setting up a date. Boom, neediness gone.

dreams2wish · 2017-10-23T15:56:35+00:00

There is no issue feeling needy but acting on it can be. In my own personal experience females chase after men that doesn’t show to much interests but she knows that he’s in to her. If you’re a social media person post pictures of you having fun and living life. Even take a picture with another beautiful lady with an interesting caption. However don’t make it seem like you’re a player. Say or do things to see where her mind is at. Also, you don’t want to jump to conclusions. She should feel like you’re the catch as well.

NunoHimself · 2017-10-23T16:14:32+00:00

"I'm going on vacation, will not have a lot of time to talk to you". Then just send her updates, like pictures you take to the buildings and shit. Done. (Also, I read the other comments, learn how to deal with LMR, looks like you need it).

blargo1 · 2017-10-23T20:49:12+00:00

Don't text her the entire time you are on vacation. Not sure if you are connected to her on social media but if you are, post pics of you out having a good time. Show her that you lead a full and interesting life and she isn't the only thing on your radar. It sounds like you have prioritized her but now its time to show her that you are also just fine without her.

throwawaylata · 2017-10-23T21:13:17+00:00

Yo, stop texting her for a couple of days. It will make her think about you more.

midnight_toker22 · 2017-10-23T22:19:38+00:00

I have been showing far too much neediness

Appearing needy is really easy to do when you text her all the freaking time.

We have been texting every day, multiple times day in between dates.

Surefire way to kill any aura of mystery surrounding you.

And you increase the odds of you saying something that's going to turn her off and totally blow your chances. Sometimes all it takes is one wrong thing...

I am going on a 5 day vacation starting tomorrow

So enjoy your vacation and don't worry about texting her all the time or responding to her texts immediately. You have a perfectly valid reason for minimizing your communication without it being the kind of abrupt shift in your behavior that will cause her to question why you suddenly changed.

You want to give off needy vibes? Spend your entire vacation - when you're supposed to be relaxing, enjoying yourself, and getting away from your normal life - texting her incessantly, the way you would if you were back home. You know, just to make it really obvious that you cannot live without her...

a_nus · 2017-10-23T22:37:36+00:00

Easiest way to fix text game and shift the chase, after already having been so needy, is to not text. If she doesn't take initiative in texting you, she's not into you. Anything you send right now will seem needy unfortunately.

rdpislove · 2017-10-24T11:59:23+00:00

Radio silent then only text for LOGISTICS

stargazingtrek · 2017-10-23T18:29:02+00:00

Stop texting. Just stop

MarkArrows · 2017-10-23T23:18:39+00:00

If she drops you, who gives a shit, there's always another. You don't need this specific girl. If you can tell yourself that honestly and truly believe it, you'll be pretty clear in the long run.

Also, stop playing power games at this intensity. Like seriously,

She has far too much power over this situation

^ This shit is bonkers to read. It's a just a relationship, not a multi billion dollar negotiation. You'll constantly see everything as some game of chess where it's you vs your girl for months on end. Does that in any way sound like a fun relationship? Fuck no, get rid of that mentality asap, even if it costs you dates. Who gives a shit if you go out with like twelve less girls over your lifetime. Getting a few more cheap flings is not worth being miserable with panic attack like this one each time you talk to your girl.

Title	Need to shift my text game to kill my neediness right now, post suggestions please
Author	Synacku
Upvotes	46
Comments	44
Date	October 23, 2017 3:37 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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