I've been lurking on r/seduction since a few months. I've read a lot about all that you guys post, you guys are wonderful!

This post is about what I experienced today. I have a girl friend (Please do notice the space) who I vent to about anything and everything. She does the same with me. We both have no feelings for each other, so it doesn't make anything complicated. So anyway, she recently broke up with a guy. I know she was in love with him. He lived in France so she has started learning French for him. Lots of other sacrifices, you get the drift.

A couple of weeks ago, they broke up over something. She still has feelings for him. But he has started trying hard to get her back. Chasing hard, guilt tripping her about his sacrifices, trying to logically make her understand why she needs to be back. She showed me his messages, and wow, they were horrible. And she said something to me that I will always remember: "I've started to lose respect for him."

Never, ever, ever beg someone to come back to you. There's a difference between fighting for them, and begging. Also, you lose respect, you are done. She will never feel for you the same way she did. Once you have broken up, evaluate if she is important to you. If she is, try to get her back, but only once. If it isn't working out, there is no point in blasting your self-esteem and self-respect to smithereens. Accept it, and move on. There's other fish in the pond.