The headline is totally true, and I owe it to many of the things I've learned in this sub....but I actually have something to offer to guys who are in their late 30s and recently divorced.

1) You will say the wrong thing....fuck up....embarrass yourself...but I would give yourself permission to do that. The more awkward you are, the better. It means you're trying and working and learning. You'll get better.

2) Just be you. Don't be the young DJ, the soccer star, the CEO. Just be your best you, whoever that is. That doesn't excuse bad hygiene, clothes, career, or fitness. Those things are absolutely mandatory and there are no shortcuts. Go to the gym every morning like it's your fucking job. Don't eat shit....moderate drinking...buy a new wardrobe. But at the end of the day, just be you. You're a dad...fine. You drive an SUV with a car seat, fine. The wrong girl will weed herself out and the right girl will adore you for it.

3) There's more to life than getting laid. Sex won't solve the hurt from your marriage, but making good friends who call you and invite you places and genuinely like you will definitely make your world go round when you don't have your kids. Having your phone blow up with invites to socialize will heal you faster than 100 dates with women.

4) There are millions of hot women....if it doesn't work out with one, move the fuck along and find the next one. Eventually you'll find one who thinks you are her dream boy. Don't chase the wrong one. It's way too painful.

5) Develop a life, then chase women. It's much, much easier. Work first to get your shit together, then take good pictures and get on Tinder.

6) At our age, Tinder is super, super easy. Women message me first. If I swipe 30 times, I'll get 5 matches....of those...1 date. It's way better than it is for younger or older guys.

7) Read Models and No More Mr. Nice Guy.

That's it. That's all that I've learned. Good luck out there! I'm rooting for you!