One Approach Every Day Challenge - Day 5 5️⃣

Joel1471 · 2020-02-28T13:17:30+00:00

Boom, relaxed confident conversation. Great that you are putting the building blocks in place. Keep up the good work.

lemikistu · 2020-02-28T13:24:57+00:00

Congrats, glad you fixed stuff based on feedback.That is how you improve. Honestly you might not sense it yourself but not using words like maybe would make you look much more confident. Expecting anything more after rejection such as being friends is sign of neediness so when you ditch that you go for so what if you reject me I find someone else attidue. You just drop it soon as you don't have same goals. Having that mindset makes you more calm and you look more confident. Opposed to insisting on same person and feeding her ego further which would make you look needy and lower your chances as your status drop below hers. Not doing that would give you a confident look which women can sense and find very attractive which would tremendously increase your chances. Also make sure when you talk longer you let her talk about herself and keep yourself more reserved. You listen more because 1) Again you don't want to keep talking about yourself to look in need of validation 2) People love to talk about themselves more than they listen. 3) You won't reveal all your cards in first hand so you would allow her to wonder a bit about you until first date. Hope this make sense. So don't talk too much as it can lower attraction. If you want to talk longer be mindful about the length and who talks more. Direct conversation to her interests by asking open ended questions.

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-02-28T20:04:35+00:00

Actually talking to her longer could backfire on you. You played it well and built rapport, but didn't linger and overstay your welcome. Good job, glad to see you're learning from all the feedback. Fuck people who just talk shit and don't suggest ways to improve.

Bogdan2021 · 2020-02-28T13:02:53+00:00

Congratulations and continue to do game!

You've got some balls, unlike most people here

NinjaSwag_ · 2020-02-28T15:28:00+00:00

We were chatting about raving and DJing since I'm also into that stuff

My man!

fenlx1906 · 2020-02-28T13:15:37+00:00

Good for you 😀

flanker34 · 2020-02-28T20:10:49+00:00

Good job there. I would recommend not chatting for too long. It may project that you don't have nothing else to do. Remember ABUNDANCE is everything to keep the attraction.

STD_Tyler · 2020-02-28T22:20:02+00:00

Good job man, I guarantee you will get 1 date from 30 approaches a month..

recyclablebanthas · 2020-02-29T01:07:34+00:00

1

Cut out the "maybe" - I know what I want

Being more definitive is good. Being too rigid is not.

So it really matters what you mean by "maybe" here.

2

Do more smalltalk before the close

How do you define "smalltalk?"

3

No "well maybe a coffee as friends" anymore. Fck that.

You're taking a wrong turn if anyone is saying this at a first meeting.

If she's saying this at the first meeting, it means that something happened earlier in the interaction that made things go off the rails.

4

So today I was at the shopping center again. Alone.

Something that can make seduction easier is when you connect on something. Like being in the same class or going through the same experience.

The difficulty curve goes up if there's anything manufactured about the experience though.

Like if someone who didn't attend college tried to hang out on campus and chat students up while they are about their business of going to school, it is awkward and requires whole lot of advanced game to overcome. Sometimes the deficit is too much to make up.

So if you don't have something you're actually shopping for, then don't keep going to the shopping center.

If you're trying to build your foundation of skills here, then there are social events where people are actually going to meet new people.

It's honestly the best training wheels I could recommend other than something like social partner dances like salsa, Argentine tango, west coast swing, lindy hop, etc.

5

To get a little bit of social momentum I asked the workers in the stores for specific things.... I ended up having a little chat with them and so on.

You can also get this throughout the day if you're focused enough on what happens around you and simply make observations to people around you.

Like if you're in line at the bank, simply commenting on the line you're in and how you'd rather be eating lunch or dinner or whatever..... This can warm you up socially and it. Can be done anywhere.

6

Me: "Hey excuse me, I saw you standing from over there and I noticed your very charismatic look.....

If you're observing the situation, it's easier to connect (build comfort) by using something you've observed in the opener, like directly speaking to what she's doing or what's going on around her.

For instance, commenting on what she's looking at. Or on something unusual going on around her.

Starting off by telling her that you were standing there watching her and making the whole reason for the conversation basic about you wanting to talk to her, is too thin and hollow.

She'll be able to tell you want to get to know her because you started the conversation in the first place. You don't need to state this.

There's a lot of talk out there about stating intent, but this is completely unnecessary. You don't need to state it, you need to show it.

You're showing it by opening her. You're showing it if you suggest meeting up later. You're showing it through physical escalation. And so on.

7

During the smalltalk I was paying attention on what she was interested in and excited about. So we talked about that.

It's good that you were trying to pay attention to what she was interested in.

What was she interested in? Anything besides raving?

How did you segue to smalltalk after the opener?

8

Today was a success. A thing I could have done better would have been to talk to her even longer.

Sometimes it's good to get out while things are going well. There's such a thing as wearing out your welcome.

It sounds like you left at a good time.

RunOrDieTrying · 2020-02-28T22:33:10+00:00

What if you start going out with her? Will you quit / pause the challenge?

Yur47 · 2020-02-28T16:12:43+00:00

Don’t say your name on reddit

1-d4d5_2-c4 · 2020-02-28T17:05:14+00:00

I love your challenge! Dont stop doing it, and keep us (well, at least me) informed, okay?

shanuv12 · 2020-02-28T17:20:10+00:00

Good going bud and its good you are not getting discouraged by negativity

Syracuse1118 · 2020-02-28T17:32:12+00:00

Love to see progress in anything. Great job bud

earthwarrior · 2020-02-28T15:16:41+00:00

Where have you been going? Just stores and malls?

ItsTooCorny · 2020-02-28T20:38:29+00:00

You are the man bro! Keep us updated on that date with the girl! Good luck

K_Leany · 2020-02-28T22:21:45+00:00

You got this HOMIE

iluvreddit · 2020-02-28T15:19:02+00:00

Congrats. Maybe try to change it from coffee to cocktails.

abbehardy · 2020-02-28T16:17:32+00:00

One approach a day keeps the doctor away :)

A_solo_tripper · 2020-02-28T18:01:49+00:00

Good job

Duck_Specialist · 2020-02-28T19:09:24+00:00

This is honestly motivating

WarDiaz209 · 2020-02-28T17:09:24+00:00

Good job man but charismatic look? lol just tell her you thought she looked nice. Be honest, you didnt think she looked charismatic you liked what she looked like. Being honest will make you much more at ease too

gandalfdawizardd · 2020-02-28T14:07:06+00:00

Less goooo

mr_Tobbor · 2020-02-28T17:54:01+00:00

I have a sincere question: What is you league 7 - 8? What is the league of girl you hit today?

mr_Tobbor · 2020-02-28T20:26:47+00:00

Then you have to be 8+

bistek19 · 2020-02-28T20:46:57+00:00

Pussy is pussssay hahahha

Title	One Approach Every Day Challenge - Day 5 5️⃣
Author	Azyme1
Upvotes	375
Comments	36
Date	February 28, 2020 12:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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