3️⃣One Approach Every Day Challenge - Day 3

RuthlessAndMotivated · 2020-02-27T15:22:14+00:00

dont push for it.

As friends is a bad line, if she wants to spend time with you then she'll either...

A. agree and not mention the boyfriend

or

B. tell you "sure as friends"

or

C. "I have a boyfriend but we could as friends" (I would avoid this since you wont get anywhere)

magnetradio · 2020-02-27T18:57:54+00:00

"Maybe" and "sometime" needs to be taken out of your vocabulary when talking to women. Let's see how this would sound without these two words:

"Do you want to grab a coffee?"

See how this one sounds more direct and confident? When you say maybe and sometime, it makes you seem uncertain with your self-confidence. Women hate uncertainty. They love spontaneity, but hate uncertainty.

Practice leaving these words out of your vocabulary when you ask women out and you'll notice you'll appear more confident, which can lead to better results.

robbie-uk · 2020-02-27T19:15:10+00:00

“That’s okay your boyfriend can come with us”🙂

wccAWeek · 2020-02-27T20:57:41+00:00

Dude, every post of yours is the same. A girl says she has a boyfriend and then you make it weird. It's not a fucking shit test, it's also not some game, it's straight up rejection. Next time a girl tells you she has a boyfriend, say "no problem" and move on. Don't get their instagram, snap, etc. Just move on, holy shit lmao

deadshot_191 · 2020-02-27T15:22:43+00:00

Did you ask for her social afterwards?

lemikistu · 2020-02-27T16:58:14+00:00

This doesn't look like a success.... Regardless of whether she has a bf or not she is not interested. You should of dropped it and not insist that is creepy. She didn't even wanted to be friends so i don't see the point here. She probably just wanted another Instagram follower and hoped you won't bother her lol.

Joel1471 · 2020-02-27T19:16:45+00:00

Asked her essentially on a date straight off the bat, got to build rapore first and get her interested before arranging anything after.

Logical_Bones · 2020-02-27T19:12:27+00:00

I have noticed that girls tend to be ready to reject approaches. Since it’s the norm for us to approach women, they are used to guys coming up to them. If they gave every guy who asked the time of day it would be crazy. If you rush it, she is likely to reject it. I’m just now starting out in this so I have realized myself from experience that asking a girl if she wants to go out sometime too quickly usually leads to her claiming she has a boyfriend. Unless you’re just some hot dude, your chances are way better if you have a good solid conversation before asking.

Dizbobble · 2020-02-28T00:17:29+00:00

First off, great job in deciding to put yourself out there. That being said...

Don't push and don't backpedal. If she turns you down for a coffee date, don't tuck your tail between your legs and act like you would be okay with friendzoning yourself.

Just acknowledge her response, optionally wish her a good day, and go about your business

I got her Instagram

Delete it. She isn't interested in you at all, so don't become an orbiter in the hopes that one day she will. Don't validate her at the cost of your dignity.

Edit:

Looked through your approach history. You REALLY need to back the fuck off with pushing. If you ask her out and she says no, acknowledge it and GTFO. You are pushing WAY too hard, and you are creeping girls the fuck out and making people uncomfortable. Take no for an answer and move on and find someone who says yes. Backpedaling and suggesting going as friends is weird, pushing 4 or 5 times after she says no and she is worrying about her safety. Back the fuck off

STD_Tyler · 2020-02-28T00:11:47+00:00

Bro you gotta have a conversation first before asking her out. And stop parroting the same opener in ALL situations...

IvoTailefer · 2020-02-28T00:45:24+00:00

after ur approach if she says: oh i have a boyfriend you look her n eye and say: well hes a lucky guy. then leave it alone.

other than that good job and i like ur Approach everyday approach. i do that when im hungry. i dont right now because im fat with steady great sex thx to my sexy fwb, but i have her spending time with me because I APPROACHED her first. it started with the approach!! now i just treat her well.

eitherbakedorbaking · 2020-02-27T19:42:19+00:00

Definitely need to build rapport with a girl before asking her to hang out. As a girl, there's no way I'll accept a guy buying me a drink unless we're vibing and having a good conversation. You need to give girls a reason to want to hang out with you.

nnnm_33 · 2020-02-28T03:04:45+00:00

Dude, like good for you, but like don’t count that as an accomplishment. That’s was a total fail and you should have executed way better. Like good for getting out there, but like, get better... that’s cringe for everyone

anteriorcar · 2020-02-28T18:54:19+00:00

Good stuff. I'd like to do a similar challenge

Infynatics · 2020-02-27T20:48:47+00:00

Could keep staking her instagram and wait for the day she announces they broke up. Good game bro lol.

From what I’ve seen, sometimes it’s just to let things go and don’t always push for it. Great that you at least tried.

NightTerror6 · 2020-02-27T21:28:24+00:00

Don’t be friends with girls you approach. Especially if she LJBF rejects you. That’s submitting yourself to her will and you will lose in the long term.

Why did you get her Instagram? Don’t use buffers. Accepting a friendship or any kind of contact in hopes that someday she’ll be interested in you is a waste of time. If she gives you a clear no, then you bid her farewell and move on to the next girl.

Furthermore, you completely screwed yourself by failing what could have been a shit test. If she says “I have a boyfriend,” (keeping nonverbal signs in mind) she may be testing you and looking for a confident response like “he doesn’t have to know” or “not one like me” or something.

SouthernOhioRedsFan · 2020-02-27T23:26:41+00:00

Trampoline park?

r3x333 · 2020-02-28T01:31:34+00:00

I'd say avoid using "maybe". It shows lack of confidence. You know what you want, be confident in it. "We should go get coffee sometime". You know you want it, and if she wants it as well, she'll say yes.

BleechYung · 2020-02-28T01:39:17+00:00

Sometimes, "I have a boyfriend" is a defense mechanism.

Next time follow up with, "Wanna make him jealous?"

2020-02-28T03:28:51+00:00

This was too rushed, it came across as unnatural. I understand you don’t want to be friend zoned but .. ya

Revenant_911 · 2020-02-27T23:13:31+00:00

Your correct reply would have been “oh i didn’t know girls with boyfriends couldn’t get coffee with strangers ahah, that’s ok tho I just wanted to have fun just talking 😊” she would say yes then

INFPUserLearning123 · 2020-02-27T18:33:04+00:00

bro you gotta start taking pictures so we can have better engagement with posts haha just a thought

Title	3️⃣One Approach Every Day Challenge - Day 3
Author	Azyme1
Upvotes	205
Comments	75
Date	February 27, 2020 3:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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