People talking over you?

Sublomino · 2010-05-24T04:33:49+00:00

A lot of it has to do with your voice, and I don't mean how loud you are. I mean your voice tone, and your voice tempo. Speak with more passion, more enthusiasm, more emotion, and vary it up. When you're speaking about something exciting speak with excitement. When you're talking about something sad, speak sadly. Use your voice to express emotion. Speak slowly and clearly. Use.... pausing..... when..... you.... speak. Use pauses at just the right...... time. People's attention becomes captivated when you pause, because they're trying to guess what you will say next.

CuilRunnings · 2010-05-24T03:59:28+00:00

Be interesting. I hate it when people try to talk over people and they have nothing cool to say or take too long to get to the point. All these gimmicks don't matter if people don't think what you have to say is interesting.

Box-Monkey · 2010-05-24T05:43:35+00:00

If you're feeling really ballsy, show him who's boss by telling him you weren't finished yet and to wait his turn to bring up his little, limp life.

2010-05-24T08:48:17+00:00

Get the eye contact of the person you want to listen. If you have their eye contact, it's as if the other person isn't even talking. If the guy keeps talking, the other person will realize that he's being a douche and still respect you.

It is good to ignore the person that is talking over you. Don't look in their direction. Shut off your body language from them.

Sublomino · 2010-05-24T19:38:26+00:00

Just thought of one other thing. You can say this, referring to the person who is over-talking you (let's call him Steve) "hey everybody, listen to Steve. He's talking right now, please pay attention! Steve has something he wants to say."

This can be done in a dumber of ways. One way is to make it funny and silly, like you're teasing the guy for being unnecessarily loud. Another way of doing it is to be genuine about it, like you're really doing your best to help out the guy who has to over-talk. This places you in the leadership role because you're directing who everyone is listening to, even if it's not you directly. But don't do it in mean, sarcastic, or rude way, like you're venting frustration. Better to keep it funny and lighthearted or sincere.

irsmert · 2010-05-24T03:10:58+00:00

Depending upon the situation either isolate or close and move on can be options as well as what you've already suggested.

Abbottizer · 2010-05-24T19:25:39+00:00

Body language. Turn your back or side slightly to your interrupter and they're physically not in the conversation anymore. Besides, you've just isolated yourself from the rest of the group and made the conversation a little more personal.

Title	People talking over you?
Author	Li0Li
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	May 24, 2010 3:04 AM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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