PSA: Remember, rejection is okay.

PM_ME_HEALTH_TIPS · 2018-04-06T16:22:59+00:00

And not only that, it's quite possible you didn't even make any missteps. It's possible that upon reflection she feels it's just not a match or your wants aren't compatible. And that's OK! Like you said you aren't always gonna have a click with every girl you engage with. That is why having a lot of irons in the fire is so important.

tab13092 · 2018-04-06T16:33:14+00:00

Excellent post.

That's one thing I can't stress enough; reflection. You stand to gain far more from internalizing/reflecting and finding the positive take away then you do sulking and downing on yourself.

Got out of an 8 year relationship, and upon getting out I realized almost instantly that I would fare much better if I took the time to just deal with the aftermath rather then sulk and avoid it. Sense then, I've dated a handful of women (its been about a year, and I've focused more so on self improvement then dating) and every time when things have stopped working out I have felt pretty indifferent. Bummed, sure, but I've used it as a learning experience and each time after things work out better.

I've tried to tell a few good friends this, as they constantly run in to the same sort of issues, but they don't seem to grasp the concept I guess. Oh well.

EctoplasmicLapels · 2018-04-06T17:22:18+00:00

Rejection is better then regret!

i_need_help_bro · 2018-04-06T19:37:26+00:00

Am 29 and still get rejected since birth...

2018-04-06T18:00:17+00:00

That's what's so cool about having an abundance mind set. She rejects you, you say it's cool and you hit up the next woman and ask her to come join you for drinks/movie/event/come over.

theXcepshin · 2018-04-06T18:47:48+00:00

Rejection is awesome. It means you tried.

Mispict · 2018-04-06T18:45:11+00:00

Something i figured out recently - you can't take what someone else is attracted to personally. It's not about you, it's about them and their likes and dislikes. And sexual attraction is so nuanced and fickle. It's actually a fucking miracle people get together.

_hct · 2018-04-06T17:40:26+00:00

Thought this was r/applyingtocollege cuz of the title lol

2018-04-06T19:04:14+00:00

OP, check out the book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson. Fantastic read that really elaborate on the point you’re making.

2018-04-06T20:11:41+00:00

You mean I shouldn't call her a bitch?

2018-04-06T23:10:33+00:00

You sir, are getting savagely closer to "getting it".

Always, rejection is better than regret.

jama_maxwell · 2018-04-07T01:21:35+00:00

I feel shittier if I don’t approach a girl than if I do approach a girl and get rejected.

reytortilla · 2018-04-06T20:52:24+00:00

Rejection is your best friend. It's the best tool to save your time and move on to the next girl!

1vibe · 2018-04-06T21:14:32+00:00

Thrive on rejection

savvyxxl · 2018-04-06T21:47:40+00:00

I generally dont mind rejection, it happens. The one reason it does bother me is because i've lived in my hometown pretty much my entire life so everyone knows eachother so when you date someone the odds are they know half your family and most of your friends and its just awkward to try to ask out people who are friends with people you know or people youve dated.. its really hard to ask out the friend of a girl you once dated.

Helmet_Icicle · 2018-04-07T00:44:45+00:00

Rejection isn't just okay, it's optimal. The majority of interactions are going to end with rejection. The sooner you find it, the sooner you can move on to the next situation. Determining incompatibility is 90% of early dating.

If you were satisfied with how you dictated yourself, then you should necessarily be satisfied with the outcome because it's likely something that wasn't under your control anyway. Also, she might have hot friends and you're only going to meet them if you keep cool.

TruthSFree · 2018-04-09T22:30:49+00:00

Good for you Bro. Mad Props.

_hct · 2018-04-06T17:41:10+00:00

Thought this was r/applyingtocollege cuz of the title lol

LimitedContributor · 2018-04-07T13:26:17+00:00

Nah, bro. Nothing good comes from rejection. Not to be negative. These women are probably fucked left and right and you had nothing to offer except, to be considered a threat to them. You never want to be the test dummy. If you fail, its because you were the worst version of yourself.

Rejection, is not positive and it will f with you in a complicated way.

Title	PSA: Remember, rejection is okay.
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Date	April 6, 2018 3:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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