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[–]eureka123 24 points25 points26 points 13 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
When a woman asks if you want to sit next to her, say yes.
[–]locotx 19 points20 points21 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Also if she asks . . "Are you are a God?" . . you say YES !
[–]eureka123 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's what I was going for :)
[–]MasterChaff 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Will that chick be toast?
[–]locotx 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"What did you do Ray !?"
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lesson learned
[–]AveofSpades 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Sitting across a table from someone is a subconscious, non-verbal communication of an adverserial situation as there is a physical barrier between you.
I've said it ad nauseum here, this book is a must read for beginners, and pros.
You'll learn non-verbal communication and improve your game 5 fold.
[–]thepoene 9 points10 points11 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What about a Chess date?
You. I like you.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
yeah the whole date it felt like there was some kind of wall between us. Even eye contact was awkward
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Eye contact should never be awkward.
If you ever feel awkward making eye contact you need to work on it.
[–]jackzander 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cool mantra bro. In reality, most people do feel some awkwardness with prolonged eye-contact, and many don't think much of it.
Keeping grounded with how normal people operate is a good way to gain insight and build rapport.
[–]michaellane 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
First date= take them to shoot pool. If they dont know how it opens the doors for touching. If they do then you joke around when she goes to shoot. Also gives all the time in the world to talk and get to know someone.
[–]beep41 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Try sitting diagonally is the table allows for it.
[–]backtothegame 14 points15 points16 points 13 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
Why do a restaurant date for a first date at all? If you're still qualifying a girl that's a pretty big commitment and this is coming from someone who's a big eater.
[–]pingas 8 points9 points10 points 13 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Restraunt = Bad because no kino Movie = Bad because no eyecontact/bodylang
[–]SemajSemajSemaj 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Damn, I had plans to take this girl to both. I will just have to rethink my plans now.
[–]jackzander 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Rethink girls. You don't have to take them on dates, especially at first. Just play with them.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
what would you suggest?
[–]thepoene 18 points19 points20 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
uhmm Coffee?
Frozen Yogurt?
Anything where the both parties can leave at anytime..
Bad First Dates: Camping
Walk to Remote Cabin with no cell phone reception
Tour of Sex Dungeon
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
women are usually pretty impressed with my sex dungeon actually.
[–]wanking_the_monkey 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
rock climbing, picnic, longboarding, going to the beach, movie at your place, invite her over for dinner/movie, dog walking at the animal shelter, etc. Requisites: ability to talk and kino her in a comfortable environment where there are things to do other than watching eachother eat.
[–]yournotright 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I uhh... Just invite girls to meet me at a bar. Is that so wrong?
I think the idea is to enjoy a versatile life. Oh, and with women sometimes.
[–]rmbarnes 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sofas and alchol = win
[–]Vecoma 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bar isn't bad. A club is though.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
What would you suggest?
[–]backtothegame 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
See: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/131k7t/fr_date_no_escalation/c7112p9
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 13 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
well im 18 and american soooo
[–]Icouldshitallday 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You've got to get a go-to-spot. Yes, you are 18, and that's not completely your fault, but 9/10 guys that ask chicks out at 18 are going out to dinner. At 18 (I'm 27 now) I would take chicks a local elementary school playground. Hear me out on this. Y'all have the whole playground to yourselves and it's dark. It adds a bit of excitement because you're trespassing and who doesn't still love to swing and act like a kid on an awesome playground. Factor in a 12 pack or a bottle of wine (you should be able to easily obtain alcohol at 18) and you've got a can't miss recipe. Kino is so easy on a playground.
P.S. Don't get caught, and F-closing on the playground is awesome.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
"Hey baby, wanna go to a dark playground at night so I can get you drunk?"
[–]AmateurSanta8 points 13 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
You dont ask. You lead.
Don't hate: Masturbate.
[–]Icouldshitallday 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're right, "Hey baby, wanna go to Olive Garden?" is much more Alpha. Just trying to give you some advice that's proven solid for me. Take it or leave it; obviously you're leaving it.
You can add sarcasm to a girls idea of a perfect date and make it sound like a shit idea. It's all on you, YOU have the ability to make anything cool simply because you say it's cool.
[–]backtothegame 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
See: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/131k7t/fr_date_no_escalation/c71fays
[–]Drunken__Master 9 points10 points11 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I was a server for a number of years and it was ALWAYS the biggest assholes that sat next to their date instead of across from them.
[–]domokunosan 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I am not an asshole and I prefer to sit next to the girl. We aren't trying to seduce the server, we are trying to seduce the girl. In other words, your experience is irrelevant.
[–]Drunken__Master 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
a) If you're an asshole or not is subjective
b) if the girl has any intelligence at all she will certainly notice how you treat the server
c) no experience is irrelevant
[–]domokunosan 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, I am usually very nice to my server and I always tip very well. My two older sisters were servers in high school, college, and grad school so I learned proper server treatment etiquette. My point is that sitting next to a girl vs. across from her has nothing to do with whether or not you're an asshole. I can sit next to a girl and be a very nice person, or I can sit across from her and be an asshole. So this specific trend which you have noticed is irrelevant to whether or not someone else should try this strategy. I really prefer sitting next to a girl, it's more comfortable for me.
[–]KingCurtzel 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Came here to say this, just looks bad.
[–]wantmywings 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You should try a hookah bar. You only have to be 18 to go, you can sit next to each other the whole time, share one hookah, have coffee, and also have appetizers while being in a relaxed environment.
[–]dannymcoy 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Problem is finding a date that smokes shisha! Otherwise an awesome, chill place.
[–]habaroa 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I just went on a dinner date and we didn't sit side by side but the restaurant was Tapas style so it was not awkward whatsoever. I actually enjoyed it and she said she had a fantastic time and we are going on another date soon.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good job buddy
[–]clox4wilcox 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No way, sitting next to each other is awkward. You have to turn to look her in the eyes, its just weird man.
[–]athijezar 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stumbled over this through a series of links, but just wanted to say that sitting next to a guy while eating is great (even preferable) if I really like him, but if it's just someone I've just met or haven't gotten terribly friendly with already, it feels over-intimate and awkward.
[–]magicroot75 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I went on a first date and we ended at a bar sitting across the table. She said she felt like it was interview style so I quickly told her to jump over to my side. She did but I didn't kino. Date quickly ended.
[–]craftyjasper 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I see a man and woman sitting on the same side of a table or booth, my first thought is always, "Wow, what a controlling douchebag that guy must be." Don't really know why, but that's what it looks like to me. I'd rather make eye contact.
[–]SemajSemajSemaj 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You.Said.No?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah. Im learning lol
[–]SemajSemajSemaj 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hahahaha It is totally fine! Everything seems so overwhelming sometimes and like you have to react instantly, But if you take a deep breath and just let everything go, It all slows down and you can be yourself.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Her: Do you want to sit besides me.
monkeymagoo: NO!
Sorry but that's to damn funny.
Also yeah a restaurant is a little to much for a first date.
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