Radio silence after first date

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-11-12T19:23:50+00:00

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megaloops · 2024-11-12T05:48:07+00:00

Most likely she’s not thinking about you at all like you are with her. When a woman is interested in you she’ll make time for you. When you try to make plans and you get those “maybe” or “i’ll have to see if i have time” responses you’ve already lost. On to the next one

SplashGodNate · 2024-11-12T05:42:27+00:00

A sign that a woman is no longer interested is when she doesn’t set a specific time and date to meet in the future. She usually says something vague like “we’ll see” or “let me think about it” or makes up a bunch of excuses.

Sorry bro, always make sure to keep options open and move on to the next!

Dwerg1 · 2024-11-12T06:04:57+00:00

You might have missed something you did that might have turned her off or this might have nothing to do with you at all.

Whatever the case may be, if she's not making it easy for you to see her again then she's not interested, that much is certain.

Dandys3107 · 2024-11-12T06:49:04+00:00

I guess her interest droped drastically but she enjoys getting attention. Probably you didn't put out much romantical and sexual escalation and focused too much on friendly talking. As you can see yourself, you are the only one that cares about making contact. If you can't progress with your relation, you are doomed. Go next.

PeterLamb87 · 2024-11-12T06:26:56+00:00

In my opinion the interaction was busted after the first date, im asuming you were the one texting her daily, im I wrong?

I would stop interacting with her as of now and move on, but if you like the girl there is no damage in giving her some space and then ask for another date, if she radio silence your ass, or ask you to have patience, or says no, then move on.

LizzoBathwater · 2024-11-12T06:40:21+00:00

Anything less than a total 100% in yes from a girl is a goodbye from her side. I mean think about it from your perspective too: if you want to hang out with a girl would you put her on delivered for days and make it seem you don’t give a flying fuck. The only thing you can do in these cases is give her distance, maybe she will come back maybe not.

That aside, you had a chance on the dates, and clearly something didn’t stick. You must improve your execution. What did you guys do? Where did you take her? Did you build tension, escalate, include physical touch and most importantly if not sex, did you at least kiss close?

KoleSekor · 2024-11-12T13:36:22+00:00

If she senses you don't have other options, she will lose attraction.

Lonely_Computer_2058 · 2024-11-12T14:20:13+00:00

This is just common and why dating is a numbers game. I wouldn’t worry about it and just keep moving on.

byulkiss · 2024-11-12T05:38:49+00:00

She probably found another guy she likes more than you. Hate to be that guy but thats it.

Basically she was value testing you in the dates and you failed. You didn't demonstrate the traits of a high-value male to her. Maybe as a friend you are everything she is looking for, but as a romantic partner she didn't see it in you.

Have you done anything specifically in person to maybe give her the ick?

Marighnamani27 · 2024-11-12T08:03:38+00:00

I think you might have texted her much more than her and turned her off. That's why, calling is better and then asking out on the date should be the next. Texting to get to know each other is a bad move.

LawdyHowLayLooYa · 2024-11-12T06:45:18+00:00

She said have patience and you’re not honoring that. A healthy woman isn’t going to want a guy to be her pen pal or texting buddy.

I’ll just give it to you straight, you’re too available. There’s no mystery. No anticipation about when she’ll hear from you next. Because you guys talk every day. She knows you have no other women in your life, and what woman wants to be with a man who doesn’t have options?

You’re depriving women of the very thing they crave. The emotional highs and lows of dating and courting. Wondering if he likes me as much as I like him. That sort of thing. Women will rarely admit it, but we love the mystery. Obviously, only up to a point. You can’t go ghost on us. But you are depriving her of her own emotional rollercoaster when you’re always available to her. She said to have patience and what she was communicating is that you are coming off desperate to see her and have nothing else going on in your life. This comes off as potentially threatening because we don’t want to be your whole world. We just want to be an accessory to your already amazing life. So back off of her and let her come to you. She needs time and space to wonder about how she actually feels about you, and you hitting her up all the time or even just texting back and forth just plain ruins it. That’s the god honest truth. Hopefully you use this information to correct your behavior and find ways to occupy your time that doesn’t involve women so we can see you live a life you’re proud to live and enjoy doing.

Title	Radio silence after first date
Author	ashuftasar
Upvotes	13
Comments	28
Date	November 12, 2024 5:36 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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