Realisation

LM10JBPE · 2020-04-19T13:57:10+00:00

So true bruh, it's like you have to let them work for you attention/compliments/validation...if you're giving it away for free, there's no fun in that for her and it's a huge turn off. It also conveys low status, she gonna go for a guy who is more challenging to her.

Like you say, Be confident around highly beautiful girl/women, there's NO league, so no girl should be out of your league.

rustedsteellove · 2020-04-19T19:28:00+00:00

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy and How to be a 3% man and then Models by Mark Manson. They will boost your confidence and help you

MrMemper · 2020-04-19T15:31:25+00:00

Haha. acting like you’re entitled is totally different than actually living this way. Telling yourself you are the prize and making efforts to believe it are different than living that way. Behaving like you are cool and confident is different than living that way.

The barrier is you and putting silk hats on a pig still has you a pig. You’re self value is probably quite low and you probably seek validation outside yourself and you’re probably afraid of women.

An actualized man has these things but doesn’t even think “I have self value therefore...”. Or “I am the prize here therefore...”

No. He doesn’t have anything. He just is. A lion doesn’t know he’s a fucking lion. He just “lions”

maddisser101 · 2020-04-19T18:38:10+00:00

This goes off of the other popular post that you need to be busy. You shouldn't shower with compliments or act like she is overly bodacious. Never, ever lower your position and put her on a pedestal. This is why a lot of people do not go for nice men/women. They know they won them over. No one wants what anyone else can have.

nongo · 2020-04-19T18:57:01+00:00

Act like you’re teasing your bratty little sister. Except she’s not your sister and you’d eventually want to sleep with her. Be playful and crack jokes.

TishthaDish · 2020-04-20T03:47:28+00:00

Maybe I am weird, but when I have a choice between the guy who shows me a lot of interest and the guy who acts like he could take me or leave me, I CHOOSE THE INTERESTED GUY 100% OF THE TIME.

JDeezyNYC · 2020-04-19T15:16:01+00:00

You already know.

Make them chase YOUR validation. Not the other way around.

Huzzy07 · 2020-04-19T17:45:55+00:00

Lol as a woman DO NOT ACT ENTITLED TO WOMEN THIS IS THE WORST ADVICE and all these dudes backing each other up NO. just work on yourself man maybe read some books workout get a job

mr_Tobbor · 2020-04-19T17:09:27+00:00

It's a quarantine romance? Didn’t you know basic rules of game?

nicegollum · 2020-04-19T23:48:44+00:00

Attention whores exist. I learned this my 33 years on earth

Mr_82 · 2020-04-20T02:14:39+00:00

It's good advice, but also pretty basic: essentially it's "don't put the pussy on the pedestal." Maybe I was like that once-I really can't recall-but I think most men find this difficult to really integrate into their behavior or mind. It's perhaps easy to say and difficult to do. But that's why practice is important, and why I think it's a great idea to just go out and say lame shit to strike out and get comfortable with it. Even though our modern PC world makes that seem riskier, they've also made it more necessary than ever.

If you do find it difficult advice to follow, really think about all the privilege women have relative to yourself, and how many terrible things women do in just an ordinary day without criticism or deterrence (indeed, they're often encouraged to act bad; many girls intentionally act bitchy, for example, like it's part of their personality or they have a default right to do so. "Strong," to many women, means "bitchy asshole") from 99% of our society.

purple-cockroach · 2020-04-20T02:24:53+00:00

Me too Done this and every single of them fly away

And on more When i see a pretty girl idk but it’s like some program running in me and i can’t be myself After ten second when she is gone then everything go back to normal It will be happen to every very hot one i see

jjkl7 · 2020-04-20T19:52:13+00:00

Fallacies at work in analogy of lion and pig (at least in the context of how it was discussed - I havent read source of info/analogy and that is why I wanted to know what the book was):

In re: to analogy - 1. Dicto simpliciter (sweeping generalization/stereotype) 2. Argumentum and antiquitatum (appeal to tradition i.e. traditional/antiquated gender roles) 3. Non sequitur (it does not follow- i.e. reasoning for role and result of having more success with women) 4. Argumebtum and numerum (argument appeal to numbers) That is the case here unless scientific research was done with imperical evidence/unbiased data.

Fallacies in terms of commentors response to my questioning/comments about the whole thing:

Fallacies of ethos 1.Argumentum ad hominem (disprove any credibility by attacking a person's character)

The part I find most amusing about entire interaction:

Blown away that comments to me were berating me as a weak male who couldnt get laid. LMAO. I am a not a man. I am a women. The irony is rich and at multiple levels.

boot_leg_therapy · 2020-04-21T04:33:07+00:00

I disagree slightly. I think the following is the best stance to have:

Know that you are a catch
know that she is a catch

I think we run into problems when we start seeing dating as: I am not worthy, or she is lucky.

Instead, the most confident stance you can come from is being solid and loving within yourself, then also treating whoever your object of desire is with kindness. There is no better than or less than.

I get worried when people say that "nice guys come last." As a woman who is moderately attractive, I really like nice guys... a guy who is confident within themselves and then kind to me. I do not, however, like pushovers... that is the anti-pune is shows a lack of self-worth.

TheKillerNut · 2020-04-19T15:24:06+00:00

Eye opener, thanks.

dornwaar · 2020-04-19T16:11:01+00:00

I love the part of where you say calm down. I always keep in mind views are subjective and besides the visuals what else is there to offer

Title	Realisation
Author	Huzzy07
Upvotes	205
Comments	44
Date	April 19, 2020 1:05 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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