Severe inner game deficiency

dandy23_ · 2025-11-07T20:01:15+00:00

I think you should start with small steps. For example: first on the street when you see girls, start by asking for directions and end with a thank you and a slight compliment. Repeat that process a few times, to gain some confidence. Then you can try to climb, little by little. I hope it helps you 👋

Rhino3750ss · 2025-11-07T21:15:39+00:00

Believe me when I tell you that patience is the answer because it's one of the biggest demonstrators of preselection.

Women will say they are all about height and money, but their actions show that they prioritize behavioral traits.

Your sexual urgency is written all over you when you interact, and women see that as you not being selected by other women and they can feel nervous or unsafe, and it creates a causal loop where you get rejected or don't approach in the first place and you become even more urgent.

Change the order of your processes to become patient. Instead of feeling then acting then thinking; you change the order.

Think, act, then feel.

THINK about how you can outwardly display patience, such as slowing your cadence and lowering your tone and controlling your body movements.

ACT by outwardly executing the displays of patience you thought about.

FEEL more patient on the inside.

fluxginshanks · 2025-11-07T22:10:27+00:00

I climbed out of that hole buddy; it took a long time; I didn’t have money, zero confidence to ask a girl out; lost my virginity at 25…. I climbed out by throwing myself into the environment I wanted to be in, I started taking walks to the bar, I eventually started going more frequently just to see people; then I started to talk to them and eventually I learnt to talk with them and as time goes by you see other guys pick up girls at the bar; you learn a trick or two and now everyone asks me how I meet so many girls….. If I might add buddy.. please consider working out and getting in shape; you dont have to be a bodybuilder just raise your testosterone levels and libido and confidence … something that’s becoming more deficient in recent years due to our modern lifestyle… do that and simultaneously start inching your way into the place you want to be as far as females are concerned… oh and one more thing if you have a stressful job or personal life, learn to be more present when you’re in the presence of others so it doesn’t drain you… work and life does tend to take the gas outa you, I leave my work thoughts for the workplace and my home thoughts for home and when I go out I’m present and in the moment

InvestigatorFull1364 · 2025-11-08T05:10:17+00:00

Here is my inner game guide for daygame (bird’s eye view): https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/11/07/how-to-get-laid-with-daygame/

Here is an inner game guide for the approach part itself: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/08/23/the-initial-stop/

Here is one about approach anxiety: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/05/02/approach-anxiety-is-a-feature-not-a-bug/

All for daygame though

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-11-07T20:11:27+00:00

Sign up to a social hobby class. Any will do, acting is the best for game though. The more hobbies the better. Then talk about your hobbies.

You'd benefit the most from understanding and practicing chain association and free association. It's talking non-stop by using a word from a previous sentence or from a wordthat comes from your subconsciousness.

Here's an example (note that this will all be said in high energy, loud, fun kind of way):

Oh, hey, nice to meet you. You look like kind of a doll. Ever played with dolls when you were a kid? I didn't because I was a stupid boooooy. You know how it is. I mostly just had plush toys. Tomorrow is going to be a nice weather so I'm going to play volleyball with my buddies. Are you sporty? You look sporty. Personally I love exercising. Did you know that you have to up the protein intake to get muscles? Yeah, everybody knows that, but not everybody knows that the most efficient way to get protein is from food, not specified protein products. I'm a sports neeeerd. Waaaaargh! Ahahah. So how did you en up sitting here?

If you think none of it made sense, it's okay. It's supposed to be like that. Girls free associate all the time. They talk wildly different topics that have no logical flow behind it.

So just say stuff. Practice talking like this to the wall. You must be able to flow freely for at least 5 minutes to show that you're about giving (the energy, the fun, the conversation). Some sets you might actually end up talking for 5 minutes before it warms up enough for a dialogue conversation. So yeah, practice practice practice.

becomesharp · 2025-11-07T20:19:17+00:00

First get a therapist and make sure youre not suffering from major depressive disorder.

Shadow__Account · 2025-11-09T14:08:17+00:00

You have the funds, start therapy. Create a circle of good friends with whom you can discuss these things. Work work work on your relationship with yourself. You need to build self love self value and confidence.

Hitting rock bottom is good, it motivates. Otherwise if you were in that everything is fine mode, nothing would change.

Minimize social media, instant gratification, drugs, partying etc.

Try to be bored, try to think a lot, try to analyze, try to feel.

Figure out your values.

Get in touch with yourself and what you truly want and value.

Learn how to fail and that its not good or bad it just is, everything just is.

See how everything just opens another door, not necessarily good or bad.

Read a lot.

Learn how to listen to people and thereby learn how to really connect and build real relationships.

Create healthy boundaries and respect yourself.

Etc etc.

Learn to enjoy the road/ride, learn to let go and accept things the way they are.

If you realistically can accept where you are right now without comparing to others etc there is only a road upwards.

MathematicianSea9149 · 2025-11-12T14:57:38+00:00

I feel like I can relate. When I crave intimacy the most is when we’re also the most unattractive. I’ve been taking a break after my most recent bad date (there were several I should have been able to close the deal but I feel like I came off as too needy/urgent). That was a couple months ago. Luckily I’ve been real busy with other stuff personally so the break has been almost easy. I think that’s the key - find other commitments to keep you busy for a while. You still need to get better at talking to women, so here are several ideas I’ll throw out there. Improv class. I took a couple and they were fun. Talk to shop girls. I’m not huge on cornering girls when they’re essentially “trapped” at work, but it can be fun to banter and practice. Find a place to shoot the shit with some guys. Yes I know it’s different than talking to girls but it can build your conversational skills.

Title	Severe inner game deficiency
Author	Adhdeeznuts50
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	November 7, 2025 7:26 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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