Something that often gets neglected in posts about text game: How do you text after you've already been out on a date?

pianobrah · 2016-08-05T17:36:47+00:00

If you want to text her, text her. If you do not want to text her, don't text her.

Boys play texting games with girls. Men do what they want to do.

smasterofpuppets · 2016-08-05T17:43:42+00:00

Text her. But not too much. You don't want to seem clingy. You also don't want to come off as if you have nothing going on in your life other than her.

Partyintheattic · 2016-08-05T18:27:20+00:00

you think too much, just text her how you want. make sure you think about WHY you are texting (are you clingy, anxious, or do you just like talking to her and genuinely want to keep a conversation going).

Psychocist · 2016-08-05T20:51:23+00:00

Short texts here and there are fine, just don't get into endless conversations about the meaning of life. Banter, tease/build anticipation and setup logistics/plans over text and leave the meatier stuff for in-person.

Even in a relationships you will generally text like this.

crash1082 · 2016-08-05T21:10:36+00:00

I'm in this situation with a girl right now. If I text her she texts me back, if she texts me I text her back. It's not like we text all day just a couple things here and there. If she seems interested in texting you, you should be able to tell.

Stop worrying about it and do what you want just don't be needy and send texts expecting a response.

aswjacob · 2016-08-05T20:47:13+00:00

I have a free text guide I can give you. PM me

Mouthpiece · 2016-08-05T21:33:54+00:00

What you do depends on what you want. When you say you want a relationship, how does texting her instead of talking to her in person move you towards that goal? What does it mean to you to have a "relationship"? And what role should text messages play in that?

SublimeCozen · 2016-08-06T00:13:50+00:00

Something I've found is to actually pick up the phone and call her instead of texting when making plans. Shows you have confidence, works well to trying to setup 1st dates

BasketCase559 · 2016-08-05T17:25:58+00:00

A little affirmation text, such as "Had a good time the other night. We will do it again some time" never hurt, just don't fall into the habit of texting her just to talk. Only text with a specific purpose, whether that purpose be to set up a date or just let her know that you're not blowing her off. A little goes a long way.

Cc99910 · 2016-08-05T21:30:00+00:00

If you wanna talk to her then go for it. As other have said, there's no point in talking if you have nothing neat to talk about. Save the most important and interesting stories for your dates

CharliesDaniels · 2016-08-05T23:02:34+00:00

I'm not a big texter so I normally just text her telling her I had a great time with some flirty banter then tell her I'll hit her up in a few days to set something up.

break_card · 2016-08-06T02:02:06+00:00

Get her to text you first. Could take a week, could never happen, but it's a fucking power move and you'll have the upper-hand.

synthpop · 2016-08-06T15:43:42+00:00

never hurts to wait a couple of days before making the first text. in most cases if the date went well she will text you first with some sort of simple affirmation.

post-date all women have their radars set to "clingy detector" so avoid clingy-texts at all costs. she doesn't need to know how much you're into her, she doesn't need to hear you're after a serious relationship. not yet anyway.

personally, I like to do a "callback joke" text a day or two after the date. best way to gauge interest.

n00b_f00 · 2016-08-07T12:49:01+00:00

After a date. If I liked it. I'll send one pinging text within the next 24 hours to let them know. "I had a great time. We should do it again." Then go radio silent until I want to set up the next date.

As time goes on I might text a bit more frequently. Ask her a question and have a short exchange if we haven't seen each other in a few weeks. Or just more normal texting habits in a steady relationship.

nskg · 2016-08-05T17:59:08+00:00

Do it, you won't

Title	Something that often gets neglected in posts about text game: How do you text after you've already been out on a date?
Author	Smegmachine
Upvotes	38
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Date	August 5, 2016 4:50 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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