Sorry if this post is not meant for this sub but it deals with the idea of oneitis. First off, I am in no way completely over my oneitis but I have been feeling a true sense of getting over her after a few years of emotional torture. My attraction and obsession over her has been waning and I have a sense of not caring what she’s doing or who she’s with, what she thinks about me, etc. I’ve always felt pathetic about my obsession with her but I couldn’t help it. Now, my feelings are starting to make me take real action in my life and in my mind for the better. I’ve felt this way for a few months now so I do think it is real progress and not just a feel good moment.

I’ve reached this point by pretty much avoiding any unnecessary contact with her and just by living and going about my own personal life. Once I focus on myself, I really don’t have much time to think about somebody else that really is not a part of my life. I took her off the pedestal and while it was difficult to let her go, my emotional sanity has been much more stable.

Again, I’m not saying that I am completely over her but i am saying that I sense a real shift in my mind. I hope that I can eventually reach complete satisfaction with my emotions regarding my love interests. Thanks for reading!