Stop Being SO SERIOUS

The_GentlemensGame · 2019-12-26T21:06:19+00:00

TLDR;

One of the biggest mistakes guys make with girls is that they START TAKING THINGS TOO SERIOUSLY, whether in the initial approach or later on down the line
Instead, just focus on giving her a fun experience.
Instead of being all logical and serious, REMEMBER that at the end of the day, you're there to have fun with a girl. Joke around with her. Tease her. Keep it light and positive. ALWAYS try to genuinely have a good time with her.
You dont HAVE to tell a girl how much you like her when you first meet. She'll ALREADY know you're interested. Women intuitively know these things, its common sense for them
By doing this, you're appealing to her EMOTIONS, and she'll learn to associate those fun feelings WITH YOU.
In order to have this carefree, non-serious attitude that women love so much, you have to learn how to respond to whatever she says with a light-hearted, non serious attitude.
By light hearted attitude, I mean that you must have an attitude that shows her that you're not fazed or bothered by whatever she says. Here's an example: If she's giving you a test like “wow you must be a player, I could tell”. You might respond with “Yeah, maybe, maybe not. Why? Are you interested in me? Wow! you're so flirty..” while keeping a smile on your face.
The best way to develop the skill of not taking things too seriously, is by practicing it everyday with strangers. You should be friendly, and light hearted to EVERYONE, wherever you go.
So have fun with women you come across on an everyday basis: waitresses, cashiers, bartenders. Joke with them, tease them. Once you build these skills, you'll undo that bad habit of always taking things too seriously, and you'll see how easy it is and how open most women generally are.

Wakan_Tanka · 2019-12-27T01:05:35+00:00

I guess the Joker really was on to something.

S1mply_Flawless · 2019-12-26T22:57:02+00:00

Pretty sound advice. Keep it light. Keep it fun. Everything else shall fall into place.

hdbeann · 2019-12-27T03:29:17+00:00

I'm a girl and I find this helpful 🤷🏼‍♀️

Podvac · 2019-12-26T23:03:55+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I needed it

burncushlikewood · 2019-12-27T04:21:45+00:00

And another thing, don't suck up, you can be fun without being fake nice to people. Women hate guys that are a doormat for them to use. Just be yourself and keep it positive.

wirelezz · 2019-12-27T04:59:03+00:00

Good stuff

SithLordJediMaster · 2019-12-27T07:54:36+00:00

"Why so Serious?!"-The Joker

Kikok02 · 2019-12-27T15:00:10+00:00

Say that to someone that naturally has a serious/angry resting face, as I do, even tough I’m pretty chill on the inside. I’ve been told several times by strangers that, before they got to know me better, they felt judge by by hence getting into an automatic defense position keeping us from making any kind of connection. Love that real quick

1Likngood2 · 2019-12-27T17:02:56+00:00

As a man, I find that flirting is not always my repertoire because I sense whether the girl or woman has other things on her mind than wanting me or anyone else being in a fun mode.

Many females enjoy the flirting and don’t really take it seriously unless I or someone persists but then she has given or not given the green light for it to continue.

I guess what I’m saying is that everyone no matter who initiates the flirting just use some common sense and don’t go overboard. You might wind up being left out in the cold before you know it.

Nickbane23 · 2019-12-28T01:04:35+00:00

When you tease and be playful it also weeds out the girls who either are taking it too seriously or take them self’s too seriously.

lilyros2 · 2019-12-27T10:40:12+00:00

try the pomodoro technique. break down what you need to do in 25 minutes sessions. After each session check it off and take a 5 minute break. After 4 sessions you can take a 15-30 minute break. Rinse and repeat.

Lord_Augastus · 2019-12-27T14:04:17+00:00

As an engineer.... Impossible. I try, when i do people gravitate towards me, but still i never switch off 😔

Title	Stop Being SO SERIOUS
Author	The_GentlemensGame
Upvotes	357
Comments	30
Date	December 26, 2019 9:06 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/eg0zao/stop_being_so_serious/
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