Text back or not?!

CumNuggetz · 2015-02-02T18:17:42+00:00

Woaw, almost all of these responses are horrible. It's almost like you want to punish her for having a busy weekend. OP the girl texted you saying she had a great time and would like to meet again. How could you interpret that as anything else than "she is into you"? You asked if she was free for the weekend, she was not, some people like to do stuff. Wait until the weekend is over, see if she texts you, if not, text her on like Tuesday and close the second date. Assume attraction until proven otherwise. Having a busy weekend is NOT a sign of her not being attracted to you.

poonishapines · 2015-02-02T15:42:45+00:00

She could, in fact, be busy. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Ask her when she's free, so you can see if it works for you too.

LakersLady · 2015-02-02T16:07:23+00:00

Just say, "sounds like fun, have a great time." AND DON'T TEXT HER BACK. No drunk texts, nothing. Let her make the next move, don't be texty. If you left an impression on her, maybe she texts you throughout the week or maybe she drunk texts you. If not, just wait til after she gets back.

nashvapes123 · 2015-02-02T17:04:49+00:00

thanks for the quick responses everyone. I went with SirWill line of messaging. I said " No worries, sounds like a good trip have fun. Sorry bout those seahawks" as we had been txting durning the game. I guess we will see what happpens

SirWill · 2015-02-02T16:15:48+00:00

Reply with this,

"No sweat, have a good week!"

Do NOT initiate after this. I cannot emphasize how important that is.

hutxhy · 2015-02-02T16:31:39+00:00

Gimme some more info... Were y'all drinking at all while on the date? Generally a girl will NOT text you - much less initiate - if she's not interested.

I would respond with something along the lines of "alright, we'll get some _____ when you're back" and leave it at that.

brandonkiel27 · 2015-02-02T18:15:37+00:00

dont you dare ask if shes interested or not....

CharlieTango · 2015-02-02T22:32:21+00:00

Does she live/work nearby? Maybe try to slip in a coffee run or lunch date. If not, dont be pushy. She said she wants to do it again so play it cool, text her next weekend and see whatsup. Dont focus on setting a date so early. Dating isnt about stipulations, just casually find a time when shes free and ask if she wants to join you in x-place or doing x-activity

willpower101 · 2015-02-02T23:00:33+00:00

Hi fellow Nashvillian. I don't game or anything, but I like to talk to people. My reply would simply be:

"Word! HMU when you get back into town and we'll grab pizza!"

Or if you're really into her, I'd ignore that completely and jump to a convo about where she's going and keep up intermittent text with her. If she digs you, she'll be happy to see you when she gets back. You can make the above plans while she's out of town and have her anticipating.

EndOfTheUniverse · 2015-02-02T23:57:03+00:00

A humorous tip addressing this: http://youtu.be/V0hlpctj0qs

bl1y · 2015-02-03T03:44:00+00:00

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heisenbergsayschill · 2015-02-02T18:42:48+00:00

This doesn't mean she isn't into you. I know that automatic doubting of excuses, that's poison. Don't do that! She's probably actually busy. just tell her to have a good week and that y'all should do something some time next week! Then don't text back until she texts you or the following week!

drum_playing_twig · 2015-02-02T17:22:34+00:00

Text her and say: "Ok please let me know when you're back. I really want to meet you again. Any time works for me, just let me know, ok?"

Do the opposite of the above and you'll be fine.

skinisblackmetallic · 2015-02-02T17:47:54+00:00

I would just wait & text her in a few days.

2015-02-02T21:19:10+00:00

Keep texting her until she blocks your number. Then move on to the next girl

flightmac · 2015-02-02T17:27:21+00:00

Lack of leading here.

Don't text a girl the next day and immediately get into when your going to see her again. Understanding why is important. She knows you want her, she is a girl, so the best thing to do is play it cool and make her second guess herself.

Good thing you followed SirWills advice. But next time don't even get yourself into this situation. I would have waited at least a few days to even text her after the 1st date, and it would have been something cheeky, not fact finding (ie what are you up too this week?). Don't ask a girl what she is up too, it kills attraction. Lead. After a few days give her some options based on YOUR schedule. Even if you have NO plans at all make it sound like you are only free on a few days that given week.

Title	Text back or not?!
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Date	February 2, 2015 3:25 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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