In whatever scenario arises, whether it’s with women, career, confrontation, conflict, or adversity, the guy who is in control of his emotions and stays calm is the one who always comes out on top.

Think of the men in your life who truly impress you— the ones who have great people skills and are successful in most facets of their life. Are they hotheads? Do they get emotional when they encounter rejection, or do they handle it and move on like a fucking man and without dwelling? Are they insecure, controlling, and rigid? The answer to these questions is likely a resounding ‘no’.

Being calm and centered doesn’t mean avoiding conflict, it’s just approached differently. It’s being confident enough to state boundaries without anger, to de-escalate confrontations with other men without ego because you know you can handle yourself physically.

It’s being able to encounter a beautiful women and maintain the same level of composure as you would talking to the elderly lady working the register at the grocery store, because you treat all women the same, and don’t put some on a pedestal.

Stay cool, maintain your composure like James Bond, throw in some humor, and at the same time don’t take yourself too seriously and you’ll come out on top.