Thoughts on “standing out” with your outfit?

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2026-03-30T16:31:40+00:00

It's peacoking 101. Do it.

I used to peacock a lot. I was known for the eccentric designs of my shirts and always caught attention and comments especially from women.

Peacocking is a great tool for the game.

abcsofattraction · 2026-03-30T16:36:25+00:00

Standing out is the right instinct but the execution matters. Wearing a 90s oversized fit ironically isn’t a style identity, it’s a costume. There’s a difference between having an intentional aesthetic and just wearing something weird hoping someone finds it charming.

Here’s how to actually think about this:

First, decide what sexual avatar you want to project. Rocker, bad boy, hipster, suited up, jock, streetwear, whatever genuinely fits your personality and the environments you’re in. That decision shapes everything else. Your whole outfit should express one coherent identity, not a random mix of things you found interesting.

Then build around one statement piece. One item that stands out, whether it’s defined by its design, color, or material. Everything else in the outfit supports it without competing. A bold jacket with clean basics underneath. An interesting watch with a sharp but simple fit. The statement piece does the work. The rest frames it.

For color, remember LMD: Light, Medium, Dark. One of each across your outfit creates visual balance without looking like you’re trying too hard or not trying at all. Add one or two accessories, a ring, a chain, a watch, something that signals attention to detail. That’s what separates a guy who got dressed from a guy who has style.

The practical payoff here is real. Most men are style neutral, which means they’re essentially invisible in terms of passive attraction. Having an actual aesthetic identity, even a simple one executed well, can bump your perceived SMV by one to two points.

That’s the difference between being below her fuckable line and above it, which makes every approach easier before you say a single word.

Don’t be a boring normie. Pick an identity and commit to it.

AlastairXXL · 2026-03-30T20:04:29+00:00

I think peacocking works as it gives girls an easy way to start talking to you

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-03-30T16:18:10+00:00

Look good, look sharp, look fit, look alt. Clothes above your belt should fit. Wear a chain at the very least. Whatever you do, make sure it's true to your values and looks good. If you're wearing a shirt, keep the top two buttons open as it shows sexual confidence.

jackthehat6 · 2026-03-30T17:08:28+00:00

cape, furry hat, 8 inch platform boots, single glove.

You'll have your pick of the girls

KeithBanters · 2026-03-30T21:46:12+00:00

It's called peacocking. If you have the swagger to, then do it.

djdante · 2026-03-30T22:37:53+00:00

So yes, dressing in a way that makes you stand out certainly can work. But it's absolutely critical that you dress in a style that's coherent with who you are and your personality.

I got into pickup all the way back in 2003 - and back then, I was dressing up in a way that was relatively unique - wearing vests, a cravat, fedora hat, this kind of thing. It sounds lame now, but back then nobody had been doing it much, and it was just a way of dressing up and being more fancy in a way that no one else was doing. But the thing is, I had a certain type of swagger that matched it, so it never looked out of place.

But then I started dating coaching in 2008, and a lot of my clients started copying my dressing style - because they would see women approach me and start talking to me and interacting with me more than they were used to seeing. They wanted some of that too. For some guys, it worked a treat - but when you take an awkward, shy guy and dress him up like that, it just looked like a bit of a pathetic joke, and women responded accordingly because they could see that he couldn't 'pull off the look confidently'.

So find a style that matches you and your personality - it's true most guys don't dress up enough. Most guys can do so much with clothing. I really mean it, so much! But yeah, you've got to explore a little bit and be creative..

I ran a boot camp in Vegas two years ago, I didn't do anything exotic or strange, but what I did do was dress up a lot, so I was wearing a suit without a jacket, a vest, pants, really good shoes, a quality collared shirt (think Bradley Cooper in the Hangover part 1). Since nobody dresses up much anymore, being dressed like that made me stand out. And again, it definitely helped.

djdante · 2026-03-30T23:54:07+00:00

I'd recommend two things

1) start hunting around for "styles" - google images, Pinterest, online clothing stores.. start screen grabbing any looks that appeal to you, especially if the models seem like they match your body shape and skin pigment roughly. Just spend hours exploring.

2) if you ever have a weekday off work - go to a shopping mall. Bounce from men's clothing store to men's clothing store and in each one ask the girl working there something like "hey, I'm not great at clothing myself and want to find a style that will look great on me". Each girl and each store will give you great ideas . Take photos of yourself in different outfits. Don't buy anything that day - just use it as an exploration and learning opportunity.

If you do both those things , you're going to have a very clear idea what kinds of styles you are personally drawn to and feel like YOU

southparkslope · 2026-03-31T01:52:45+00:00

I dress this way regularly but it takes more than clothes to pull it off.

Why not try instead of asking for permission. The fact that you’re asking for permission and thoughts signals to me at least that you’re not able to pull it off.

Indianbro · 2026-03-31T05:20:37+00:00

A nice Leather jacket is a guaranteed compliment. Also something I noticed recently, trouser chains around the belt loops

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-03-30T16:13:55+00:00

I think it's all about confidence but also not overdoing it. Because you will be noticed, but it depends what the first reaction will be and how you manage that.

Ive seen guys who stand out with their outfits and are great at it because they know how to match clothes very well and better than most, try new outfits that is colorful, etc. and they wear it with confidence. Then women notice and their first thought is "i like that guy's fit".

Ive seen guys dress a bit goofy and role with it and girls find it funny, but you can't stay straight faced you gotta goof it up if you are going to dress goofy.

If your going for the baggyness, again it could work just know there might be looks whether positive or negative you can easily make it work if you have confidence.

Like if i wore baggy shit and a girl came up and was like "dude the 90s called they want their pants back" id try to come up with a snarky remark like "i dont care what you say im so comfortable right now my legs can acutally breathe. I can put my wallet and phone in my pocket without feeling like i it's stabbing me right now, etc". Hell if you can guy like a beeper or something id get that too and just pull it out lol.

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