Tip to break the physical barrier in a date

norwegiandoggo · 2021-12-22T18:09:38+00:00

This is funny because I just saw yesterday a girl say that going ice skating was the worst date she ever went on because she was terrified and awkward on the skates. I think other things matter more than what particular activity you do.

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-12-22T18:36:45+00:00

The problem is a lot of guys will go out with a girl and wait until the end to finally go for the kiss or something else. For the rest of the evening they basically act like platonic friends. They don’t really use sexual innuendo, they don’t break the touch barrier, nothing. Usually my best nights after dates have been when I did something in the middle instead of trying to lay it on all the way at the end.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-22T18:15:04+00:00

If you're actively worrying about breaking the touch barrier instead of just acting natural, the girl will feel it and be weirded out by you. Apart from a hug in front of the bar at the start of the date, I don't break the touch barrier until she walks in the front door of my place at which point I just go in for the kiss. The girl is always receptive to it, maybe because of the built up sexual tension from not breaking that touch barrier sooner.

JohnnyandJohnny · 2021-12-22T22:15:06+00:00

Or just playfully push her or playfully hit her and do that to everyone

_An_Idiot_With_Time_ · 2021-12-23T02:28:09+00:00

Relax. Don’t think about touching them. Just have a good time. When two people are laughing and having fun together in close proximity and there is attraction it will literally happen naturally.

aStonedPanda94 · 2021-12-23T03:26:05+00:00

Start with a hug when you first meet. Then if the date goes well just casually touch. Kino escalation. If she’s receptive, continue

willgo-waggins · 2021-12-22T22:14:16+00:00

Ideally I let her touch first and I make myself open and available to that (ie sitting at a table lay your hand palm up and open partway across - especially if she is leaning toward you while talking) to facilitate her desire for contact if she wishes it.

If you need to initiate then an “accidental” brushing against or reaching to lead or guide (say while holding a door or chair) will often work and open the flood gates.

My top preference and the easiest though is dancing. Over the course of several songs if she is desiring the contact she will generally make it known and usually somewhat obvious. Progression from there is simply a matter of determining what the limit of desired touch is and paying very close attention to those unspoken hints so that you do not overstep the desired boundaries.

ld20r · 2021-12-23T09:00:00+00:00

Initiate an arm wrestle, thumb war or high five her if the conversation is going well. All sure fire ways to test attraction.

whatisthisaboutagain · 2021-12-23T13:25:50+00:00

I think you're overthinking all of this a little bit.

You can break the touch barrier on any kind of date, no matter where you are, touching should be natural and should naturally progress if you two are in to each other. I usually start with bumping her arm if I remember something I want to tell her, simple little baby steps, if she's in to you, there's a chance she'll sooner or later start mimicking this behavior, put your hand on her forearm when talking to her if you're sitting next to each other in say a cafe, if you're walking, bump her a little bit every now and then, just make sure that all these actions appear very natural, don't overthink them, like "oh no when's the right time to bump her or lay my hand on her forearm", when going through doors, open the door and put you hand on the back of her waist, if she's playing along with all of these things (meaning she doesn't mind them/returns them).

You'll know when a date is going good, if she keeps eye contact, tries to be close to you, asks meaningful questions, likes to talk, and didn't mind all the subtle touching, just confidently grab her hand or what I sometimes do is open my hand up next to hers, signaling that I want to, that leaves her to decide if she's ready for that or not

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2021-12-25T08:28:33+00:00

You don't need to take her ice skating to hold her hand. When I meet girls for dates now, I usually give them a hug and take their hand immediately (or within the first 5 minutes).

But ice skating does sound like a fun date. Probably a bit expensive for my taste for a first date.

Title	Tip to break the physical barrier in a date
Author	mehdudifk
Upvotes	36
Comments	20
Date	December 22, 2021 5:58 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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