When I moved to the US for college I was scared shitles and way out of my element. Through trial and error I managed to have a booming social life and girls. Most of my tips are practical in nature, and I hope they help you guys.

  • Hugs, lots of hugs. Getting physical is important and I found out that if I established some sort of physical contact right at the beginning of the interaction I was more likely to utilize touch in the conversation. If I sensed that a girl gave me an extra hard hug I would drop one arm and pivot her to my side with the other and leave her there as we talked. Try not to have a silent hug, say something like "so nice to see you," "nice to meet you" so the hug becomes a casual part of the whole conversation.

-Quality trumps quantity. I'm an introvert at heart, so I get worn out hanging out with people for hours and I tend to get quiet and not as fun. So I started giving 100% energy and attention for a shorter duration of time when I was with people, and then just go home to recover and later go out again. Once I did this I realized that my success with women skyrocketed and they started inviting me to hang a lot as I became the fun guy to be around. Making yourself scarce also raises your social value.

-Be obvious about being attracted to a girl. Most of my friends with benefits came from girls I met in classes. I would engage them in conversation after class and make it obvious with my body language that I was into them, having strong eye contact, getting into their personal space, and ultimately telling them that I found them sexy. If a girl reacted negatively to me telling her I found her sexy I would just smile and say "somebody had to tell you, good job" and it ended up in at least a friendship.

-Pretty, smart and driven girls are the best candidates for a friends with benefits arrangement. Usually these girls are so driven academically that they do not have time to have a healthy dating life, and are surrounded by 'nice' guys who won't make a move. After physically escalating I would tell them I wanted to see them in a casual manner as I was busy and so were they.