Too self conscious about my average height, its killing my game

grindforthegold · 2022-07-14T14:56:30+00:00

You just have to be 5’9

if you’re 5’7 you can wear lifts

above 5’9 if you aren’t getting play you’re either unnatractive facially or your game is wack

GordonGecko69 · 2022-07-14T17:21:46+00:00

The biggest player I have ever known and my wing man for like 5 years was 5’3” on a GOOD day. But he had GAAAAAAAAME.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-14T12:32:11+00:00

The problem is not your flaws, the real problem is your attitude about your flaws.

Having a “flaw” isn’t as bad as the girl realising you dislike yourself for your “flaw”. As soon as she feels that you aren’t comfortable in your own skin, that’s game over.

Because women are not perfect and flawless, they don’t expect the guy to be flawless… In fact, it would be suspicious if the guy was seemingly flawless and somehow decided to be with a flawed girl like her.

Why would someone flawless desire a girl with flaws like her? Suspicious.

That is why the problem is not your flaws they can overlook it because what matters is the whole package not just one thing.

If you have other redeeming qualities, like being able to get her to laugh, and have fun, if you are smooth at flirting, if you look presentable, then that’s enough.

You don’t need to be a 10, and just because you aren’t taller than her doesn’t mean you are suddenly a 1 or a 0 to her.

Also take in mind that women test guys about their perceived flaws, to see your character and attitude.

So if you are worried the girl will notice your height, then be ready because she will indeed notice it but not to disqualify you, but rather to see if you are comfortable or not in your own skin. Your reaction will tell her more about yourself than anything else.

example:

Her: “I don’t usually date short guys”
You: “Why? Do they reject you as well?”
You: “Bigger towers than you have fallen”
You: “Do you want a tissue for the tears?”
You: “Are you challenging me, hold my beer”
You: “That’s racist! -1 point for you”
You: “And I only date tall girls”

Any of those answers is better than being apologetic and defensive like:

“I mean yeah, girls don’t usually like me”

or

“I mean looks aren’t everything, and I have a good job”

“Oh ok, we’ll i guess i’m not your type then”

Any of these lame answers are self destructive, you only come across as insecure and not charismatic at all.

So it all depends on your attitude, always keep a smile no matter what flaw the girl might mention you have, and treat it like a test on your character.

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-07-14T12:18:01+00:00

Out of curiosity, what would be the best possibility?
Let's say you get 1 wish, to have the best 1 night stand, the best 1 week long adventure and the best life/family/etc with someone, in the highest and best manner. What exactly would yo choose?

Stay grateful, Romantic_Adventurer.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-07-14T16:00:39+00:00

I'm dating girls who are taller than me, I'm dating girls who are older than me. guess what. if you make a problem out of it, they gonna agree, if you don't give af about it just joking around like you're too tall for me or you're too old for me then they won't care about it at all

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-15T04:18:36+00:00

I don't think height is going to make a difference for you as much as trying to date from work. Don't date from work, its unprofessional and could get you in trouble.

Not a serious job or career?

Why not set boundaries for yourself now. It something I think women can appreciate, and if you had an interest in a girl from work, you would try to meet her friends, first. Then try to date them, instead while she chaperones.

Title	Too self conscious about my average height, its killing my game
Author	LatterRow
Upvotes	1
Comments	29
Date	July 14, 2022 11:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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