What change will impact me most? What change impacted YOU most?

SecondThreat · 2015-03-13T21:12:04+00:00

Working out. It won't necessarily help you with women directly (although it helps with confidence), you should do it for your health. Its great that you accept yourself, but again, do it for your health.

Edit: Forgot a comma.

Fedora09 · 2015-03-13T22:00:39+00:00

GYM! I recently became single after a 6 year relationship, and I was definitely feeling down. But nothing has helped me more than the gym in terms of my mood, and confidence. When people started to notice and kept asking hey, are you working out? You are getting buff, the feeling was amazing.

hjjslu · 2015-03-13T22:01:11+00:00

Look everyone in the eye when talking and listening to them, especially women.

The_Sneaky_Guy · 2015-03-13T23:17:13+00:00

Abundance mentality and outcome independence; I feel like they go hand in hand. It really makes a difference seeing the bigger picture. You gotta have fun outside of just getting a girl at the end of the night. It's really hard to always do so, but try your best.

You gotta have fun regardless of what happens. Girls see everything (give them some credit), and seeing this kind of independence puts you in pretty good shape.

RickyRockyDude · 2015-03-15T10:18:20+00:00

Overcome approach-anxiety by asking girls for the time, or similar things, and then gradually ramp up the challenge, until you're doing apocalypse approach.

After doing this my conversation game actually got a lot better! This was because I had always known in the back of my head what I should say and do in situations, but I would instead look for safer options because I was scared, and as a result not know what to say/do. After doing this I stopped being scared of people and rejection in general, so I would just say/do whatever came to my head; people usually enjoyed these actions and I never ran out of things to say.

jmatre · 2015-03-13T21:50:30+00:00

Get over the "freeze up when it comes to spitting game".

-Ratel- · 2015-03-14T01:15:30+00:00

If I have no interest in a girl, I am probably the most interesting person they will meet all month.

If I am interested in her, I'll likely have subpar game, and get a number only to later that night recieve an "I'm not interested/seeing someone" text.

That's what you need to change, to bring your natural and funny self out when you are meeting girls you are already into. It is probably a psychological issue, where you have some underlying beliefs and assumptions about yourself and relating to women in a sexual context that is keeping you to be just yourself. I would split my work on inner game stuff and going out (50/50%). Losing weight / getting fit is great (and you should do it), but is useless if you just can't properly interact when interested.

PS: Unless by being funny you mean being the groups clown with needy undertones, in that case you have more work to do.

Title	What change will impact me most? What change impacted YOU most?
Author	greenflame239
Upvotes	13
Comments	9
Date	March 13, 2015 8:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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