What do we really mean when we say dont chase women

Bubbly_Intention_797 · 2024-10-02T23:48:47+00:00

I was always told never chase but attract. In my previous experiences I’d get rejected by women , I’d stay confident, and then shortly after they too would come back around if interested. I noticed that after shooting my shot, these women would watch me, and wonder whether or not they were interested in me. Meanwhile I’m focused on other things. It still strange because I have women from years ago asking for a second date now. Just like you it’s confusing but flattering

appolonysian · 2024-10-03T02:05:15+00:00

Don’t put in more effort than they do. Lead but then take a step back if they don’t enthusiastically follow along. Be willing to walk away.

ThotBubble · 2024-10-03T02:20:58+00:00

lol we are lying

madmaxfromshottas · 2024-10-03T00:02:51+00:00

first thing don’t approach a group of women especially if the girl you want looks way better than the rest they’ll usually try to cock block, but once you are around the one you want just have a cool laid back type of vibe you’ll tell if she’s feeling you then you start to heat things up more.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-10-03T03:47:58+00:00

There's a lot of nuance to it.

We do need to chase somewhat. We usually do the approaching, we ask for the number or date, but we also have to give them space to put energy into the relationship as well or they won't have any emotional investment.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2024-10-03T05:42:18+00:00

It means, don't try so hard that you seem desperate. The point is to not come across as someone who has no options, because that means you're not desired, whilst also not appearing entirely disinterested. Its a middle ground approach like so many things.

Dandys3107 · 2024-10-03T08:20:11+00:00

Chasing puts you in low value frame. Girl is turning you down, questioning your quality, but you are so oblivious with her charms that you wanna sacrifice it all just for her to approve you. Her dreamed partner would not do that. He would think like this: “Ok, you don’t have feelings for me, it’s fine, but I will potentially find another girl that will see my value, so you better rethink your actions while you can”. Having that in mind, he accepts her decision with a smile and gracefully walks away.

dasanman69 · 2024-10-03T02:20:20+00:00

You most certainly have to initiate contact but you've done well by just walking away confidently. They didn't reject you, they rejected your approach in that moment and given time to think they decided that you are someone they'd like to meet and/or dance with. A chaser would've kept pestering her.

burncushlikewood · 2024-10-03T03:18:56+00:00

I'm not sure what your point or question is, yes women like space and you should make them chase you. But this works well, yea I always wait for her to text me, reminds me of the scene in 40 year old virgin after he gets her number, and he's asking when to text, they say when is the next Olympics lol. But be careful with this technique my man, because if you make her chase you too much she may become frustrated with you, so you have to find the middle ground.

redspikedog · 2024-10-03T03:24:12+00:00

dont chase/ dont be needy. As an dont shower her with compliments and gifts. Dont try to send so many text messages and replying to her every text.

So how do you not become needy or chasey when you're the man approaching the woman? Well? Push Pull and take on shit test they throw at you.

HomelessMilkman · 2024-10-03T11:30:24+00:00

'Chasing' isn't adding value.

'Chasing' is just 'wanting' and no one cares about what you want.

You want to be grounded in yourself, feeling good within and therefore have some semblance of 'fun' to offer.

GingerSnake321 · 2024-10-03T11:30:27+00:00

You ever seen the opening scene of Scream?

Lord_Asmodeus93 · 2024-10-03T12:56:17+00:00

What's confusing you exactly? You seem to get how it works.

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2024-10-03T16:55:58+00:00

It means you have options so women are chasing you indirectly and you may not even see it.

EyesReallyWidelyOpen · 2024-10-04T22:41:57+00:00

If I am having a conversation with someone who’s been chatty, I look for red flags. Not making eye contact, looking/texting on phone while conversing…little things that give off an inauthentic vibe. I get up and walk away. I don’t care. Self respect over getting laid.

…they’re often like whaaat you leaving… I don’t care to explain either.

grldgcapitalz2 · 2024-10-03T00:51:13+00:00

catcall

SunnySunshines19 · 2024-10-03T02:53:44+00:00

i love being chased 🥺

Title	What do we really mean when we say dont chase women
Author	Duke_Roses
Upvotes	59
Comments	28
Date	October 2, 2024 11:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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