What I didn’t wrong ?

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-05-24T08:44:52+00:00

When we were together, we were quite tactile—I'd kiss her on the cheek, hold her hand, touch her shoulder, and put my hand on her knee. However, I never kissed her on the lips.

This is where you went wrong. You met her on a dating app months ago and didn't make a move.

If you don't show interest on a date, women are going to assume you're not into them and go elsewhere. By the time you told her you were into her she lost romantic interest.

Next time, make a move.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-24T09:27:38+00:00

What I didn’t wrong ?

What I didn’t wrong - is something beyond even my english .

Hi Reddit,

I prefer God or daddy , but I will let it slide this one time

I met a girl on a dating app.

Do we need to even continue . Unless you did anything but fuck . That is what you did wrong .

We met in person several times (about 7-8 times) and talked every day.

Ok . There problem solved . Question answered .

You talked everyday and you went on 8 dates with a girl you met on an app .

Why is there more text ?

I felt we had a good connection,

And this means nothing .

When we were together, we were quite tactile—I'd kiss her on the cheek, hold her hand, touch her shoulder, and put my hand on her knee.

This means even less .

However, I never kissed her on the lips.

This means a lot - in a negative way .

She would share everything happening in her life with me, whether it was good or bad.

Bad thing . And bad for you to let it happen .

Look I’m trying to be nice , but you are making it really difficult .

She even asked me to go on a trip with her, and we talked about the future together.

You didn’t . OMG , wow … that is the dumbest trick to fall for . We do it as a literal manipulation tactic .

And there goes the last of my niceness . Sad times .

To this point you are friend zoned hard (WasteBin zoned is the correct term )

I have 0 idea what could be the problem .

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nMN4JZ8crVY

A few days ago, I finally told her that I liked her.

Wait ……… it took you 8 weeks for that . But you knew her dogs birthday ?

She will destroy your little nerd ass .

You are friends stay friends .

Her response was brutal. She said, "I’m really not comfortable because I am not ready. To be honest, I see you as a friend."

Boooooom . Yes fuck you dumb connection and kino .

Translation “Hahahah. NO . You are not sexy , but I like talking to you “

She also mentioned, "I don’t have anyone to hang out with because I no longer have my friend from New York and I can't deal with my current friends right now."

“Your only value to me is - that my friends are gone , if they come back I won’t need you “

She added, "I'm seeing other guys... I've been seeing a guy regularly for a few months and it's not serious between us."

“I met a sexy men (Jamaal is his name now ) , Jamaal didn’t sit there listening to be bitch , he turned me on , Jamaal is sexy , you are not . But I need to bitch to someone . So stay until I find another nerd “

She also shared, "I'm still very sad because of my breakup two years ago. It left me with wounds."

“It left me with Holes , and Jamal fills the up .”

And

“Don’t blame meeeee . I was hurt - and you will buy this bullshit cuz you want to “

I’m really confuse and betray.

Why ?

If she saw me as just a friend, why didn’t she tell me about her dates or this other guy sooner?

Aaaaaa . You didn’t force the ishue and she wanted a “Emotional waste bin “ to tell all her problems to (Her friends aren’t there)

I feel really confused and hurt by all of this.

Why ? You acted like her friend . You were treated as such .

Now, I just move on and didn’t reply to her

Boy you are such a dick . That is no way to treat a friend .

But yeaa , that is the right move .

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-05-24T13:17:09+00:00

Girls will feel uncomfortable and even unsafe when you suddenly change course. You conducted yourself as a friend then proceeded to try to make it something else.

I bet you were kind and thoughtful hence why she told you a lot about her life and started talking about the future.

I bet the guy she is seeing didn't make a fraction of the effort u did to get to know her. She probably hooked up with him just because she thought he was hot or was someone that could be detached enough to fulfill the abandonment complex or trauma bond that she most likely has which a prior guy created.

She says it isn't serious because HE ain't taking her seriously, he stayed detached. Learn from that guy.

Do not try to romantically date women you meet on apps. No woman on earth actually needs the internet, so think about why they actually put themselves on there.

Spiritual-Smoke-9498 · 2024-05-24T14:13:02+00:00

Ghosting her (or anyone) is a bad move, which makes you an asshole. You were using her to have her as a girlfriend, and now that it didn’t happen you throw her under the bus.

In short :

You don’t love yourself You are not free You are manipulative You are immature You are not safe You are weak You are low status You are scared

She says she’s sad because of her break up so she can’t have you, but she’s sleeping with other guys… so she’s crafting speech precisely because she’s talking to you

It also means that you were important to her, even tho I don’t really agree with the well I’m lonely and friendless so you’re the one filling the hole, but you didn’t fill the hole you wanted, and didn’t fill the hole she wanted

Overall, this story look like a very bad Disney movie. That means you are doing what you think you should be doing, and more likely, doing what you think others thinks you should be doing, so it’s already a disaster. So it’s becoming increasingly hard to help you because even if I did gave you the best tips and actions, you’d still be following a checklist of what you should be doing.

So yeh, go around, fuck around and find out is probably the best thing for you where you are. By taking Action, you are already ahead of the game, and you’ll get a girl that loves you for you, even in the massive painful ditch you are right now…

Your mother fucked you up. Out of fear, out of pain and revenge; she took your manliness and threw it in the garbage and it had nothing to do with you. Now you are this nail-less boy who has a hard time attracting girls, because you are no man, you are the shell of a man.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-24T09:29:18+00:00

We met 7-8 times. I'd kiss her on the cheek, hold her hand, touch her shoulder, and put my hand on her knee. However, I never kissed her on the lips.

Well, here is the first mistake. You treated her like you are her brother rather than treating her like a lover. A kiss and also sex should have happened already. by the 4th date at the very latest. And i mean it when i says at the very latest because an actual kiss should happen probably much earlier, like at date 2.

She would share everything happening in her life with me, whether it was good or bad. She even asked me to go on a trip with her, and we talked about the future together.

Yeah, unfortunately this is also platonic talk between friends. It doesn’t mean it’s romance talk. Specially if you don’t fucking close the deal with sex.

A few days ago, I finally told her that I liked her. Her response was brutal. She said, "I’m really not comfortable because I am not ready. To be honest, I see you as a friend”.

This is what happens when you refuse to make things actually sexual. You kept hanging out with her, thinking you were making progress and every day you met you were further and further away from being romantically involved and getting more and more comfortable to a platonic friendship.

You deluded yourself into thinking that you were going the opposite first platonic and then eventually romantic vibe, but that’s not how it works. Romance needs to happen early on, not after 5, 6, 7 or 8 meet-ups.

I’m really confuse and betray. If she saw me as just a friend, why didn’t she tell me about her dates or this other guy sooner?

You are confused because you don’t understand dating dynamics. When you meet a girl you want to be romantic with there is always a time frame where certain “milestones” (let’s call them that) need to happen before times runs out and the mood and vibe begin to switch to platonic.

Those important milestones are a kiss in the mouth and sex. What you fail to understand is that those things are meant to happen early on i guarantee you that most girls expect to be kissed if there is chemistry with a guy by the second date.

A few women may even give another last chance to the guy and wait for date 3 if he hasn't make out with her yet. But further than that, the mood changes and most women will start to not feel the sparks (if they had them) or be interested anymore.

Women’s mood dictates everything and it changes spontaneously. So when you ask if she saw me as a friend why didn’t she tell me, the reason is because initially she was interested until she wasn’t due to your refusal to make things happen faster.

And if you ask ok well why didn’t she tell me as soon as she felt she lost interest, so that we would hit meet for more dates, the answer is because you didn’t ask, and so she assumes you and her are on the same page about being good close friends that hang out and do friendly activities and support each other as friends and plan things together as good friends.

So when you suddenly say later that you like her and want romance she is also confused that you now so late say that when she has already move on from that and thought that you actually weren’t interested in romance, just interested in being friends.

So what you can learn from this is: Always go for a kiss by the second date the latest, and that if you don't initiate sex by date 3, then consider it over and that the woman will tell you to just be friends. Most women may even tell you on date 3 if you haven't kissed them date 2.

And no, a kiss in the cheek and touching her knee or holding her hand, does not count as romance behaviour, i dont care if you think it does. It doesn't.

A kiss on the lips and sex is the only thing that counts peace .

TerminatorReborn · 2024-05-24T15:09:55+00:00

Always go in a for a kiss bro, you want to date her, not make friends.

It might be awkward at first, but you will get the hang of it.

FelipepRntscRn · 2024-05-24T15:17:11+00:00

You acted clueless as fuck. Never made any move (and thats something every comment has told you, and you refuse to acknowledge).

She was interested in you until you showed how clueless you are. Making a Move is on you, not her.

About her not telling you, it is because she owes you nothing, specially since you never made any move. Another guy(s) shoot their shot and seduced her properly, instead of just being the emotional tampon (your approach).

Next time, make your move, first date should end on a kiss, if it hasnt happened during tje date. And escalate from there.

From_God_to_Dog · 2024-05-24T16:13:16+00:00

You dried her pvssy up

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-24T17:04:34+00:00

Wait. You were acting like a friend all that time. So you should be upset with yourself, not her.

Londondry012 · 2024-05-25T00:31:37+00:00

Rule #1: Strike first, strike hard

That's from The Karate Kid. If you don't strike hard the strike wouldn't be felt. Show intent. Be flirty!!!

Nothing is more of a sign to a girl than flirting with her.

Title	What I didn’t wrong ?
Author	Brief_Page_3314
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Date	May 24, 2024 7:57 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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