For me, it’s about avoiding the friend zone. I have wayyyyyy higher success rates when I go super slow and basically put myself/the girl into the friend zone. I’m talking like 90% of the time it works. Maybe it’s because it’s more me putting them in the friend zone, but I’m not always purposely doing that. Sometimes it’s just me being afraid of coming across too strong. Either way, friend zone is a good tactic in my life. For full disclosure tho it may be because I’m fairly good looking, athletic, successful and come across as confident.