What's the play coach?

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-05-22T23:43:52+00:00

Be a free thinker and look how flawed another dude's argument is.

"Don't do cold approaches because women don't want to be approached at the store, work or gym unless you are 10 out of 10"

Now this is premise, but where is the evidence for this that women don't want to be approached at those places? Every girl is different, there are some women who do, some women who don't. There is no evidence if the majority want to or don't want to. So where is this conclusion coming from?

Probably from certain tiktok videos that go viral aout a woman complaining that a man approached her or something, so he puts two and two together and conclude that's it. This video went viral and thus this is the definite proof that the majority of women don't want to be approached at all.

If this was a scientific method it would be very flawed because it's anecdotical evidence, which is ironic considering he later said "80% of guys with no insight into what actua lgirls thoughts are and anecdotal evidence to support their theories". Then that includes him because he is using anecdotical evidence too.

There are also viral videos of women complaining they don't get approached and how they wished they would. And the reason why that happens is because everyone is different, not everyone thinks alike. So your behaviour shouldnt be based on what you think the majority want, but based on what feels real to you regarrdless of who approves or not.

Same goes with another who commented a bullshit argument like "I think the viability of cold approach depends a lot on the culture. It might be perfectly normal to go and speak to a stranger in one city and not another".

This is a appeal to normality fallacy. Claiming that you should only do things if it's normal on an specific city assumes thaty ou need to be sheep like everyone else and conform to socail norms because apparently anybody who dares to go against the norms will never be accepted by anybody. And that's not reallity. People are different, some will accept it some will not. Your job is not to seek valdiation from people, just find people who naturally like you while bieng yoruself.

The only thing that can make women feel unuease about you is if you are not fully convinced that approaching them is correct and perfectly fine. Not because they have a strong opinion about it, but because they feel your hesitation and self-doubt and get turned off. If you are doing something own it, but if you doubt you should do it then don't do it. Women want you to be certain about yourself, regardless of what you choose to do or say, so any sign of isnecurity is what turns them off, not the action itself.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-05-23T00:44:49+00:00

The best places would be places with low consequences. So big public busy areas (city centre) or the club

I have a post called "top 10 approach anxiety excuses" or something like that, in there it addressess "bothering others" and how to fix it

Good first step on working on yourself. I would say get the pictures long term for your IG, not your dating profile. Especially as a beginner handing our your IG to your cold approaches and then letting them see your interesting life is a DHV.

How you can develop confidence is after you approached 2000+ women.

becomesharp · 2025-05-23T02:06:51+00:00

OP, go out and ask 10 women for directions to starbucks. I know that sounds stupid easy, but that's the point. You will probably be shocked at how difficult it is. If it's easy, cool, then ratchet up the difficulty. But you want to start small so that you don't give yourself excuses to not do it.

Graceful_Mindxo · 2025-05-22T15:02:12+00:00

Just don’t do cold approaches. If you’re going to, the best place is at university. If you’re too old for university — don’t do that either. Women don’t want to be approached at the store, work, or gym unless you’re 10/10 looks and rizz. So that means you need to find a hobby you enjoy where women will also be. Then just flirt with zero expectations and you’ll find your person

epimpstyle · 2025-05-22T19:09:57+00:00

No, you won't do this soon, perhaps in 2-3 years (at best).

Title	What's the play coach?
Author	TheWWESupercardGuy
Upvotes	3
Comments	31
Date	May 22, 2025 2:54 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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