When did you start getting success?

TonyDCoaching · 2024-06-30T11:45:31+00:00

I went out 90 nights in a row back around 2007 before I finally pulled a hottie from a house party. It was a real grind because I had high levels of social anxiety. Then I'd say it took about two years before I felt extremely confident at cold approach pickup.

Pegmaster6969696969 · 2024-06-30T11:13:15+00:00

Hmmm, I started on February but my success so far has been pure luck I'd say.

Also, "pain period"? Bro I've been in this pain period since high school lmao

ExpensiveGrave · 2024-06-30T16:15:21+00:00

Some say to this day I never did.

Honestly, my success has had a much more stronger correlation with improving my physical attractiveness than anything I ever did socially. Work on your looks is my suggestion.

A lot of women won't comment on shit until they're already in bed with you. I slept with a woman this weekend that I have known for a couple months. We've only seen each other in person a few times. Met at a party of a mutual, invited her to one of my parties, and then invited her out to a social event where we could dance. It becomes very obvious during this third interaction that she's actually into me.

Later that night, she's telling me about all the ways she thought I was/am hot. "Ugh, I remember at the party, that white shirt you were wearing that was fitting so nice." (Most of my clothes are made to measure) I didn't even think I looked good. I just wore normal clothes! I had started cutting down and it was one of the first times I could actually fit back down in my made to measure clothes. Before, my waist had gotten too big from dirty bulking. (And this cut I'm on is killing me)

I think I'm ugly and that I dress mid-level but nothing special. But, some women be brain broke and think I'm physically attractive and dress really well. This is in NYC too - the land of a very well dressed man and very physically attractive one too. So, anyway, my point is: You have to pay very close attention to what women are saying. I'm sure she said something to me during my party but I probably just brushed it off as some other general pleasantry comment when it was likely more like, "No, really, this is making me wet." Keep an eye out for those things... hard to tell the difference, IMO. I get a lot of pleasantry comments - so it makes it hard to spot the difference.

Ok_Ad_367 · 2024-06-30T15:45:09+00:00

When I fixed my teeth, I got a better haircut instead of a buzzcut and fixed my hairy eyebrows. Then, I took better pictures for dating apps.

And finally of course game for texting to set up a date smoothly and how to act on the date. But those were just the final 20% tbh the first part was 80% of my success

Distinct_Bluebird_93 · 2024-06-30T13:51:41+00:00

you need to define what success means, also you need to be realistic - you wont be a massive player straight way. "consistent progress" should be what you define as success, are you better than you were 3 months ago.

fours stages of competence

(1) unconscious incompetence - most dudes, no clue what they are doing wrong

(2) conscious incompetence - you know what you are doing is bad, you are improving (OP now)

(3) conscious competence - you can see your actions are bringing success

(4) unconscious competence - every thing is natural and easy to get results

olliedathird · 2024-07-01T04:51:47+00:00

Never

norwegiandoggo · 2024-06-30T11:30:26+00:00

How do you define success?

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-06-30T14:30:52+00:00

When I stopped trying so hard

MouseAware809 · 2024-06-30T13:13:18+00:00

How are you defining success?

When I first dipped my foot into this before sorting my life out (this stuff should compliment your life, not define it), me and 2 friends were using Mystery Method.

We were going out 2 nights a week. As far as success went, we took it chunk by chunk. Yay I approached = success. Yay, the conversation lasted longer than the last one = success. Yay I got a phone number = success. Yay I had a date = success. Yay I went home with someone = success.

I found it was more about noticing what I was actually doing well. Rather than dwelling on other stuff.

Also, have you tried daily meditation. And also read "Psycho-Cybernetics".

YouAreFLegend · 2024-07-01T02:29:22+00:00

When I stopped to care about it :)

Title	When did you start getting success?
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Date	June 30, 2024 10:58 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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