When It Feels More Like Work Than Fun?

takingthe_ · 2013-01-05T07:14:35+00:00

Honestly, I look at it like I do working out or getting better at mental math. Most of it is regimented practice so you get better as you do and do as you get better. Enjoying work, also known as doing something productive which you also enjoy, defines you as a person.

It seems to me you have an inner game problem, and I think you already recognized it. By looking at your comment history, I don't think you're really burned out, it just seems like the same once-in-a-while frustration we all succumb to from time to time. Just like any discipline, let it be your cheat day and don't give it a second thought. Just make sure you do something positive elsewhere in your life like watching classic movies, learning about astronomy, or whatever the fuck productive means in your dictionary.

Remember, sometimes it's just regular anxiety. Hell, I have anxiety with doing my own business work! This anxiety you're feeling is similar to the appoach anxiety you feel with girls--it's all about how you mentally phrase the situation. Are you going to treat this day as a setback or is it just you taking a breather on your way to the top of Everest?

RcskaSedd · 2013-01-05T07:01:38+00:00

Sometimes, what i beleive it is ok to rest and be little burnt out and relax for abit and enjoy my favorite hobbies (Draw, guitar, read, ect). I understand and also imagine how you feel when you said you feel guilty about not going out, sometimes i feel guilty too, you should not judge yourself or feel guilty not going out, unless you want to madly improve yourself and want to constantly get results than whatever, it all depends what you want, for example with me, i began my seduction journey in a hardcore way, approach, flirt with alot, screw up a lot, made needy mistakes, get flaked, lost a relationship ect, its when i wanted a better relationship with myself, i started focusing on my hobbies and taking care of myself, i noticed women were attracted to me without even trying, because i had fun with my hobbies. It may sound like a cop-out but i'm not really seeking anything from women right now, just a better relationship with myself. Does any of this make sense to you? hope that helps

2013-01-05T07:05:42+00:00

One thing that is said on this sub a lot is pursue your goals, have fun, better yourself. Try this; do not go out to meet girls. Go out to have fun, go out to pursue your goals, go out to better yourself. To do these things does not mean going to the bar/club/party, it means going to the gym, to sports, to social clubs, to hang out with your friends, to go shopping for food/clothes/whatever. When you are out doing what ever you ENJOY you will be happy. When you are doing something that makes you happy, you are happy, and when you are happy and you see a girl then approach, if you want to.

J32926 · 2013-01-05T15:58:02+00:00

If I'm getting burnt out or I really just don't feel like taking someone home, I like to try out creative, bold, and overly direct opens that I can just have fun with. My goal could be to get them to buy me a drink, tease them, or just play out elaborate lies. This is always fun to me.

cma6250 · 2013-01-05T18:26:34+00:00

I'm in a stage where I'm re-evaulating my goals. A couple months back, I was going out to meet women almost every day, just to find and meet women. Bars on the weekends, stores on the weeknights, it got to the point where I just felt frustriated and annoyed with the experience. Then, I stopped going out, except for the weekends, after that I was just working a lot and stopped going out altogether. A few weeks ago I wrote a list of things I'd like to do in 2013, and started listening to David Wygant.

This week was the first time in a while I felt organized, I've joined a gym and started swimming, decided to go out twice a week (with the intent of becoming a regular at two local places), plus the gym 3x per week. For me it's now about building a life and including pick up in it, it's not about building a life that revolves around pickup.

witha_ph · 2013-01-05T09:23:35+00:00

Something I like to remember is that you should have other interests outside of this. Go engage in something else you enjoy - it's making you a more rounded and interesting individual (and progressing your goals with women) and combating your burnout at the same time. It's not all about going out.

Methaxetamine · 2013-01-05T10:39:28+00:00

My friend is great with girls. He gets pussy all the time, but you have to ask yourself how badly you want the girl/lifestyle. He works out, gets expensive haircuts, clothes, always gets his eyebrows done, knows several instruments, buys shit girls like (got his gf of several years a dildo), has a massive ego, always hangs out with his friends and constantly cheats on his girlfriend as well. Even has a friend who takes the girls he is finished with (all are within average, and most are cuter than my girl). Hes the epitome of seduction, and he works hard and loves every second of it. We both made massive amounts of money together working in marketing and hes blown most of it.

I'm the opposite. I have a cute mean and bitchy girl I can stand (for the most part) and have sex with whenever I see her. I fuck around with other girls on occasion but do not try to find them. I avoid social contact as much as possible. I hate attention, crowds, and drinking in general.

Hes an alpha and I'm a WIP. You find what will fit into your life. I am not happy where I am, but because it is my nature, I remain there. For lack of better term, I think my girl as my regular... as we are not official, he however is, although it doesn't make what I do any more noble.

Be prepared to put work into what you want. You have to want it badly to get to it. Ask yourself what you want, and be prepared to work harder than anyone else who wants the same thing. Or you can fall into a comfortable slump like me. She has been off somewhere else for two weeks and I haven't seen any other girls, mainly because I am weak and didn't work hard to get other girls. I have 6 girls interested in me, two live far enough for me not to think of but constantly communicate with both and plan to see them, one is a 5 hour train away, one I thought was too fat, another is very busy most of the time but I've been hitting up, one I felt was too loose. The last 3 I could have messed around with but didn't because I was too comfortable jacking off. Please don't turn out like me.

Title	When It Feels More Like Work Than Fun?
Author	nycprowl
Upvotes	20
Comments	16
Date	January 5, 2013 4:56 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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