When may I be myself?

GoGetter0130 · 2024-05-22T17:00:02+00:00

You won't like this harsh truth, but you can't really show them the type of love you're referring to. Because in every relationship there is the "adored" and the "adorer". You want to be the "adored" in a relationship with a woman. She has to like you at least a little more than you like her. It's just not possible for it to be equal because men have to lead. It's what women are attracted to for security. So if she's adoring you then you can't act like you're all mushy in love with her if you want to keep her. Acting mushy is contrary to being the adored. The reason that women want to be the adorer is because they are attracted to men that are better than them. It wouldn't make logical sense for someone better than her to be all head over heels in love with her. It's the harsh reality.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-22T18:10:54+00:00

You show them love when they earn that love, whcih happens by evaluating whether she is better than other girls, invests more in you than other girls, tries to please you, complies with your requests, makes your life easier, is submissive to you etc.

So you need to make her feel like your love is a reward you give them when they earn it, rather than something you want from them even if the haven't done anything to deserve it.

Treat your love like it's a price that is earned by whoever filfills your expectations and proves to be a good girl and which is taken away when she is not a godo girl or doesn't try to please you or fulfill your expectations.

Think of it like you are their boss in a company and they are your employees, you only reward them with an extra pay when they work hard and get great results, if they don't work hard or get shit results they get fired.

Same with women, when they work hard you reward them with critical escalations, love, sex, dates, etc, when they don't work hard to impress you or please you, you lose interest and move on to next girl.

In other words, your "love" must be conditional, never unconditional.

Londondry012 · 2024-05-23T02:48:21+00:00

It's doesn't matter how you wanna love her. What matters is how SHE wants to be loved. Putting girls on a pedestal is giving her what YOU think she wants.

The reason most relationships fail is because most people are self-absorbed...they fail to enter the world of their partners. Find out what she wants, and do that. If you really love her you would fulfill her idea of love, as she should to you.

It's not about your fantasies, it's about hers. Her desires need to be met, and you are the candidate. So take your role and do a good job.

Some girls want adventure, some just want sex and others want intimacy and commitment. That's why you should always be willing to walk away, otherwise you'll find yourself taking a role you aren't comfortable with.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-23T02:41:16+00:00

I'm not a simp.....I'm kinda getting desperate...both lost interest in me.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-22T18:52:38+00:00

What ever your Looks rating is 2-3 points lower girls . You will basically loose all personality points so she should still feel like she is wining in life .

A quote I remember is “You can date a 10 , but you can’t love a 6” - now that I think about it he was calling me ugly . That mf .

Also certain girls will not be against this . Though by xp they are too low a number to find .( something like 1 in a million )

Since you asked a general girl question . The general answer is never .

I know it sucks . But life is life .

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-23T19:12:38+00:00

Yes you can show love to a woman but you have to be prepared to walk away that's what not putting the women on a pedestal means.
Also don't be regurgitating other peoples views go out and see if theyre factual.

epimpstyle · 2024-05-22T19:09:02+00:00

"Not put the women on a pedestal" means to talk normally to them as a buddy of yours and not treat them like they were a quin.

You pretend you don't care ONLY when there is a group of girls and the girl you like is in the group. If you go straight to her, her friends will take her away, but if you pretend that you are not interested, they have no reason to tell her "let's go to the bathroom" or "let's go smoke", in fact they will go to the bathroom or smoke, leaving the girl you like there with you.

You know some concepts but not well enough to use them.... this is not good and if you are not sure better not to use any concept at all because instead of being a cool guy you will become a weirdo.

EDIT: both of the concepts you mentioned come from the Mystery Method, but people use these concepts incorrectly, and then they start to blame the theory and say that the Mystery Method doesn't work.

bannedcanceled · 2024-05-22T20:19:07+00:00

You have lots of time young one. Just always be yourself and just have fun

Girlinawomansbody · 2024-05-22T19:32:22+00:00

You shouldn’t be acting any type of way, you should be showing how you truly feel. I understand being careful and protecting yourself, especially if you fall in love too quickly. But if you’re holding back part of yourself how can you expect someone to really know and love you? If you feel some way then show it, be vulnerable. Good luck!

Title	When may I be myself?
Author	D4V3_4V3
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Comments	24
Date	May 22, 2024 4:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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