Why Attraction Has an Expiration Date

B-Rabbit · 2015-04-09T16:08:10+00:00

Oh man this brings back memories. I used to get to a decent point with a girl, but then I just hovered at that stage of attraction. Until things got cold and I was left confused and unsure of what happened.

Skiigga · 2015-04-09T16:09:46+00:00

I feel like that article was written about me. I still kick myself everyday for not asking this one girl out who I flirted with all the time last year. She was one of the hottest and most popular girls in my high school, so I figured I had no chance. I would bet a million bucks if I had acted at the right time we could've dated, but I was a fucking pussy and didn't do anything.

GluteusMaximus90 · 2015-04-09T15:19:13+00:00

This was an interesting read. Looking back at college's days it kinda explain stuff.

iukenbo · 2015-04-09T17:12:17+00:00

Oh man. This one hit me right in front of my face. This was this girl that I was seeing until today. When I asked her out earlier, she was already making excuses although she was very ecstatic a few days earlier. Turns out she already have an M.U. who she was seeing. Made me feel anxious again.

TheSicilianDude · 2015-04-10T18:49:32+00:00

I remember reading this article a few years back and it was a total game-changer for me. Like night and day. I always scratched my head when girls who seemed really interested would go cold. I would complain and picture myself as the victim, but then Chase pretty much spoon-fed it to me: I was going waaaaaay too slow. I wasn't being bold and making a move early on. I was lollygagging and just waiting for something to happen.

She's waiting for YOU to escalate. If you don't she'll move on.

c00kiecutter · 2015-04-09T18:09:05+00:00

Cool article. I liked the bit about girls taking responsibility for guys liking them or not.

Edit: While generally, I believe that you have to act in order to maintain attraction, I don't think in has an expiration date per se. You just have to do your part to keep the attraction alive. This is also especially important after you've slept with a girl, e.g. dating or you just want to keep seeing her.

MADBARZ · 2015-04-09T18:20:45+00:00

As someone who got somewhat heartbroken over such a situation only a few months ago, this is a great article. I feel way better about what happened, and I'm glad I took the chance of taking action as opposed to rolling over and letting her get away without risk.

I did my best to keep up communication, to make plans with her, to keep what we had going, and maybe I came off as clingy, but I gave it my best shot.

musicmatze · 2015-04-09T19:53:32+00:00

This article explains why my latest... well, lets name it "success" was actually a success and not a failure... now I understood why it worked... thanks for sharing!

Title	Why Attraction Has an Expiration Date
Author	cbman87
Upvotes	190
Comments	16
Date	April 9, 2015 9:43 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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