Why does the average female have such a low number of partners?

recyclablebantha · 2015-07-21T18:48:43+00:00

I was under the impression that the majority of above average females (5/10+) were racking up massive numbers from the time theyre 15, yet the average female has only 4 partners? How does that work? I thought half-decent women were supposed to be constantly getting sex while the average guy is like some lonely cave dweller?

You were basing your conclusion on incorrect assumptions, as you have guessed.

You are aware that guys are always trying to get sex: We're generally in the role of Initiator. They choose who they approach, and they generally approach quite a bit.
You know that girls are usually falling into the role of Gatekeeper. They don't usually approach or have much direct impact on who approaches them, but they choose who gets in from the pool of guys that do approach them.

This is just culture and I'm merely describing reality, not trying to make value judgements about what should be.... etc. But knowing both of the usual roles for guys and girls, we all know that guys are generally trying to get at girls, and girls are generally deciding who gets in and who doesn't.

So what you are doing here is assuming that any girl would be having sex all the time, simply because they are the Gatekeepers. What you aren't taking into account is the fact that the girls have a limitation too due to the different consequences that women face after sex.

Guys generally reaffirm their potency through promiscuity: they're "studs" if they have a lot of sex. But girls who have a lot of sex have to deal with the negative label of "slut." Girls and boys will call a girl a slut if she sleeps around. A girl often even faces a drop in her self-esteem if she's the only one who knows about it. So girls generally reaffirm their potency by withholding, being picky, having standards. It's not fair..... it is what it is.

So guys and girls both have limits on their sexual activity.

letsgetrandy · 2015-07-22T03:19:27+00:00

When a man tells you how many people he's been with, divide by 3 for the true number.

When a woman tells you, multiply by six.

white_gelt · 2015-07-21T20:52:51+00:00

I'm curious - where did you get the number of partners an average woman has had? At what age are we talking about? Every woman I'm with has had more than 4 - and that's just talking about the ones that they count. There's a lot of non-intercourse partners and I think a lot of women have had intercourse partners that they don't really count, etc.

DaygameCoach · 2015-07-21T21:15:01+00:00

Where did you get your data? They may not tell you their true #....and even then "sex" and sexual activity may not be black and white terms.

CharmFormula · 2015-07-22T08:54:39+00:00

Women have a vested interest in lying about how many men they have slept with. Women more than anything else do not want to be perceived to be sluts. So they are never going to tell the truth about how many men they have slept with.

rmbarnes · 2015-07-22T00:05:13+00:00

The average figure is for women of all ages. Each successive generation since the 50s has got more promiscuous. This means that many people in their 60s may only have had 1 - 2 sexual partners, and they drag the average down. You're right that many girls these days are hitting double figures by the time they're 20. I'd imagine the average for the under 30s age range is way higher than the average for the total population.

Title	Why does the average female have such a low number of partners?
Author	aneurysm-p
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	July 21, 2015 6:29 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3e3nd0/why_does_the_average_female_have_such_a_low/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/why-does-the-average-female-have-such-a-low-number.1391363 https://theredarchive.com/post/1391363

Comments