Why is being a virigin so looked down upon?

TooHoly999 · 2018-04-01T03:45:00+00:00

It's just a milestone that everyone's supposed to pass. A guy in my friend circle got ribbed all the time because he didn't have his license. He wasn't less of a man because he couldn't drive or anything, it's just that everyone else had their license and it was something to banter about.

Sex is just a little bit different though because humans have been designed to want sex badly. In the Paleolithic period, archaeological evidence suggests that only 20 percent of men actually mated with 80 percent of the women. This means that the men with the highest sex drives had their genes passed, and why dudes have huge sex drives today. The women couldn't mate as frequently obviously because of pregnancy.

So, if I haven't had sex by a certain age, not only have I missed a significant milestone, I've also not fulfilled my archaic biological imperative. I may rationally know that it doesn't matter, but the mammallian brain has to compete with the reptillian brain and its hundred thousand year head start.

The tribal mentality that men have forces them to jocky for position in a covert hierarchy. We have to find out who the top 20 percent of men are so they can fuck all of our women while we squeal and masturbate in the corner. Just millions of lines of obsolete code that hasn't been patched yet, that's all.

raraiza15 · 2018-04-01T03:49:17+00:00

Just to give you a little encouragement, it’s very possible to learn about sex (through means other than porn— not a good method) so that you at least have some sort of idea going into it. This is the route I took as I was very inexperienced up until about a year ago. I took in as much information as I could, mostly from books/articles and whatnot, and to my surprise after i finally did lose my virginity I was told that i was good, and the girl was very experienced with sex already. So I considered myself lucky. Just try to learn as much as you can from reputable sources and try to not beat yourself up about it. Then once you start actually having sex, you’ll only get better from there.

Edit: Meant to let you know that if you ever need some advice I’d be happy to point you toward some books and other resources (which I recommend more) or I could give you some tips myself.

CollaterLDamage · 2018-04-01T04:25:18+00:00

you can read books like the "kamasutra" and " she comes first" but i wouldnt make that a focus for a virgin. Thats like saying you want to know how to do parkour before you know how to even stand.

when you got the girl lined up, then you can focus on technique. just like the same seduction tricks wont work on every women neither will each sex style. some girls want to "make love", some want to "have sex" and some want to "fuck". these all mean essentially the same thing.planning sex techniques is for people who can either pick women up regularly or are in an LTR

SyrusDrake · 2018-04-02T02:43:41+00:00

I can't tell you why others look down upon virgins but I can tell you why I hate myself for being a virgin.
To me, being a virgin is just the ultimate expression of a whole load of underlying problems. If nobody is interested in me sexually, that means nobody sees me as a potential partner, meaning I lack all the qualities someone desires in a partner: appearance, personality, intellect, humor and so on and so forth.

Basically, it's comparable to retail. If there is an item that doesn't get sold, the problem isn't that that item is "unsold". The problem lies in the factors that prevent the item from being chosen. And if all the other items of the same product do get sold, it usually means the unsold item is defective in some way.

That's how I see me. Being a virgin doesn't bother me. It bothers me that that means I'm undesirable, defective...

ReallyGrounded · 2018-04-03T21:23:16+00:00

It's looked down upon for men as they get older because it shows you're not desirable. It's a way for the woman to know, evolutionary, am I making the right choice? Did others see him as worthy to reproduce with? Did someone else see something in him that I didn't?

dztmn · 2018-04-01T02:31:26+00:00

women want a man who knows what he's doing, and chances are a virgin doesn't. generally, women prefer the finished product in most aspects, they don't have much patience with turning boys into men.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-04-01T02:50:39+00:00

Because men are supposed to lead in a relationship. A virgin man doesn't know what he's doing and doesn't have the skills to lead during sex. Its irritating when a woman doesn't know what she's doing either but at least she's "trainable".

Title	Why is being a virigin so looked down upon?
Author	that-nigga-will
Upvotes	6
Comments	18
Date	April 1, 2018 2:10 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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