Widespread, traumatic gender-based violence is so much more common than we think

igotchugirl · 2020-07-30T11:27:12+00:00

Damn, this hits home.

Just yesterday, I had a conversation with my boyfriend about how I don’t feel like he put in the work to process the issues he had in the beginning of our relationship when he was what FDS would call LVM (this was way in my Pick Me days). I told him that, if I could go back in time, I would not have chosen to date him. And now he’s a quality partner, but I hate the idea that I helped him get there. It wasn’t my job to do, and I need to see that he’s deeply self-reflected on why he was that way in the first place. He claims that his feelings for me were so strong that it turned him from a fuckboy to someone who moved across the country to be with me, but that seems like kind of a cop-out.

The point is, it’s not our job as women to fix the men who hurt us. They have no excuse to not fix themselves and stop hurting us. Not because they find “the one that’s worth not hurting,” but because ALL women deserve to not be hurt.

sarahbae03 · 2020-07-30T02:16:39+00:00

Screen shotted.

Summerisle7 · 2020-07-30T02:31:38+00:00

What is gender based violence? Do you mean male violence?

peculiarbuttonz · 2020-07-30T17:06:44+00:00

Ah yes. Sounds like my STBXH that I had arrested for assaulting me in February. And still to this day he's hurting and preying on women with children and low self worth. And his family is blaming everyone except him, paying for his lawyer fees and telling him he can just try again. Said every man in his family that have had 4 marriages and finally settled on an easy woman because the men were getting old and needed someone to take care of them.

Dear Lord.

We need to be the generation that raises better humans and better men.

zepiphany4leaf · 2020-07-30T13:15:44+00:00

Soooooooo true. I took a screen shot and shared as well. I try to explain this often but this seems clearer than my ways of putting it.

Allaboutb1 · 2020-08-01T11:14:31+00:00

It’s the story of our fucking lives.

Title	Widespread, traumatic gender-based violence is so much more common than we think
Author	artemisdonna
Upvotes	393
Comments	14
Date	July 30, 2020 1:03 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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