“Your ass looks good in those jeans.” This is not a compliment. Of COURSE my ass looks good in these jeans... that’s why I wore them.

Men who give generic compliments (like “hot”, “smart”, “funny”, “sweet”) are not really seeing you.

When I give compliments to my friends, they are very specific. For example, “I think you made the right call”, or “that dress looks amazing with those shoes” or, “your new haircut is super cute”, or “I truly appreciate your use of Oxford commas”. Not random “nice” words.

Don’t fall for generic compliments that can be listed out to anyone. You are not some generic 2-d cutout. You are a whole woman who should be appreciated for your smart choices. Expect nothing less!