I'm lost man

FridgeCape · 2017-05-03T15:58:29+00:00

“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.”

― Masaru Emoto, Secret Life of Water

EMPIRE_OF_THE_CLOUDS · 2017-05-03T17:43:02+00:00

You want to build, to have purpose in this life, to create or belong to something larger than yourself it seems.

My outlook is that life itself has no meaning, value, or purpose other than what we personally ascribe to it. We are force-fed a preconceived idea of what our purpose in life is, and what is deemed valuable or worthless.

Look into yourself and define what YOU value in this life, what YOU want to build or belong to. Relying on others to define your purpose in life is why so many men are enslaved today.

You are rich and dodged a huge bullet with your fiance. Reflect on how bad it could have been, read some of the stories on here have men being bankrupted by wives who ran off with their children and filed for child support and alimony to further break the ex-husband. Take the time to consider the path you are on, and the destination you want to work to. Then take the path that you choose.

There is an entire world of possibility open for you, and you are caught up on it not going exactly the way you planned. Life isn't fair.

Cheers motherfucker.

dlp21 · 2017-05-03T15:45:06+00:00

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VanDerVaart · 2017-05-03T14:46:14+00:00

Save up and go the Cristiano Ronaldo life and try to get a surrogate pregnancy. Pass on your genetics and not have to deal with a woman. The only issue is that I'm not sure how guaranteed it is that courts won't revoke custody and make you pay child support. Hopefully the law becomes a little more clear as more cases such as these become apparent, but you could do your part in that regard and open the path for other men to pursue, which they undoubtedly will. Women are only useful for their capacity for birth, literally every aspect of them is a drain.

redchords · 2017-05-03T16:53:27+00:00

Can you imagine if you married her? You'd be in hell. Im sure it shook you up, but that doesn't mean you have to stay that way forever. Find something you like to do and spend your energy on that. Be happy you weren't weak enough to overlook her flirting.

mercwithamagicsword · 2017-05-03T18:39:52+00:00

Pick a thing, and start there, want to learn martial arts? Photography? Cooking? I pick a thing every year and try to learn it to near mastery. People are consistently amazed at everything I can do. My struggle right now is trying to find "crucible moments" as I call them, basically trials that present me with the possibility of death so that I can learn who I truly am when it really matters.

curiouslyengaged · 2017-05-03T19:01:00+00:00

Create - create art, music, software, business. So many things you can do with your life that give you meaning more than being in a relationship. Spend time with friends, travel - procreate isn't the only thing you need in life. Procreation has become very risky (50% chance to procreate and lose half of your wealth)

mrp_1844 · 2017-05-03T15:17:25+00:00

How do I rebuild from here? What do I build? And what for?

Start prepping. Major disasters are coming.

bdf39 · 2017-05-03T15:19:07+00:00

I like to invest my time into helping others. Getting involved with a men's only group at a church and seeing what volunteer ops are available. Having a kid only for them to later abandon you seems like a real challenge.

fuu999 · 2017-05-03T19:20:40+00:00

It's all about sexual value. Before, women would have been happy to find an average attractive guy who would support them.

Nowadays, the state provides. Women don't need your support anymore. They want the best of the best genes they can get. And they try their best to fuck around to get those best of the best genes that do not exist.

The_Man11 · 2017-05-03T21:09:41+00:00

Get a motorcycle.

burtcoins · 2017-05-03T15:15:11+00:00

What do I build? And what for?

good question.

embaira · 2017-05-03T15:45:03+00:00

Surrogate pregnancy is probably the way to go.

Joel928 · 2017-05-03T18:25:38+00:00

You're going to lose friends when you take the Red Pill - good friends, old friends. I cannot stand to listen to many of my old buddies talk about their ridiculous Blue Pill problems anymore either - they're absolutely pathetic, and worse, I realize I used to be just like them.

Easier said than done - but find your purpose, man. Find your passion and pursue it with wild abandon. This, and routine exercise, will solve more of your problems and provide you with more clarity than you can imagine.

If you don't know what your purpose is, dedicate any and all free time that you have to figure it out. Throw your TV out the window and just THINK. What brings you joy? What SHOULD, not could, you do? On your death bed, what will you truly regret not doing?

jcazone · 2017-05-03T20:42:51+00:00

You should be petrified to know this women had so much control over you. After one year you still under her spell, that's scary. You should think about the power she had over you and never let another women have that muck power again.

mentalidade_logica · 2017-05-03T21:16:57+00:00

Make no mistake about it that getting involved with any woman nowadays is like playing deadly Russian roulette with your wealth, health and freedom for little or no benefits.

You are rich, travel then or help others as you can.

Give yourself some time to heal.

You want kids, then adopt or pay for a surrogate mother.

Trollmaster112 · 2017-05-03T16:46:24+00:00

GET BIG!

bench 200 lbs by the end of the year. After that I'll give you your next goal

Muginns · 2017-05-03T21:56:50+00:00

Lifting is the first thing you need to do. Come on bruh, get with the program. Seriously, get fit, then you will realise what you've been missing. Don't get a disc herniation in your low back though. That is a bitch.

RetiredTimeHo · 2017-05-03T22:22:14+00:00

Dude come on this is pathetic. Did you not have a fucking identity before you met this bitch?

bgny · 2017-05-04T03:18:26+00:00

Is your life over without a woman in it? Are you no longer defined without a female partner? Is there no meaning or purpose for men without a woman? Since you have more time now without having to endlessly entertain a woman how about some reading to start with.

black_mirror_cheat · 2017-05-04T03:20:36+00:00

leave something behind for the kids

Fuck that. Think bigger. Leave something behind for humanity.

fuu999 · 2017-05-04T05:29:25+00:00

I feel the same way, I still don't know what my path forward is, but I have been thinking a lot about starving babies in Africa type stuff.

dlp21 · 2017-05-04T08:33:20+00:00

Copy pasting a comment I just wrote for different thread because I think it's applicable: "Reading through the comments, they mostly seem to be filled with good advice, but I think I have something to add that hasn't been covered. Regarding your "who I thought was a NAWALT", there is no such thing as a NAWALT. There are simply feminine traits that are present in just about all women, which can manifest in different ways. Not that I personally categorically advise against relationships, but I think that that instead of there being 99% that are X, with the possibility of finding one who is Y, instead there are traits X1, X2, X3,... scattered around in different levels in AW, because AWALT. Then the prerequisite for a relationship would be those levels being set in both of you such that a mutually beneficial relationship can be continuously negotiated."

geocitiesuser · 2017-05-03T18:36:02+00:00

Think that's bad? I can't relate to blue pills, red pills, or neckbeards. I'm a fuckin unicorn and hate everyone :)

bannerlord · 2017-05-03T21:19:28+00:00

It's just your ego being hurt

you just can't believe that even being rich/have planned life ahead of you your fiance would still cheat on you

maybe you didn't work hard enough to keep her? maybe you are boring her?

Nah A-FUCKING-WALT

weaklion · 2017-05-03T22:18:14+00:00

Funny how that works. I am dreaming of at some day having enough money so that I have enough time so that I can primarily do stuff that interests me. I have no shortage of ideas to keep me occupied.

So given that you say you are 'rich', maybe some kind of venture capitalism (if you have larger sums to spare) or financing projects (either for potential profit or altruism, however you like it) might be something?

SgtMGTOW · 2017-05-03T22:55:44+00:00

Eat a fucking cow, start lifting weights, and watch the gainz come in.

Joking a little, but serioulsy fitness translates into so many other areas of life. Everyone needs strength.

Strong people are harder to kill. - Mark Rippetoe

misterbadattitude · 2017-05-03T23:21:32+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWVsQVxsl0o

Watch this, especially the part from 24:40.

eltonl · 2017-05-04T00:18:45+00:00

I personally try to improve myself, I'm passionate about learning so I use my spare time to study study and study, I like also to practice some sports. I dont know where you live but if you can play some kind of sport with men is very good. I used to play soccer (dont do now due lack of time) and it was one of the best moments of my life, you talk about shit, you can be yourself, you laugh a lot, you keep your health o. So my advice is that, find a hobbie.

eltonl · 2017-05-04T00:19:09+00:00

I personally try to improve myself, I'm passionate about learning so I use my spare time to study study and study, I like also to practice some sports. I dont know where you live but if you can play some kind of sport with men is very good. I used to play soccer (dont do now due lack of time) and it was one of the best moments of my life, you talk about shit, you can be yourself, you laugh a lot, you keep your health ok. So my advice is that, get yourself a hobbie.

Hernes777 · 2017-05-04T01:14:31+00:00

Women are very good at hiding their true selves. Some men don't know the women they are marrying and then find out the very night after the wedding when she suddenly turns into a cold bitch with divorce soon following.

Onkel_Adolf · 2017-05-04T05:43:39+00:00

Smartfones are ruining modern relationshits. Any broad can instantly find hundreds of desperadoes to fawn over her and compliment her endlessly. The only answer is to join a Muslim village high in the mountains, seriously. They keep their bitches in line.

Title	I'm lost man
Author	dlp21
Upvotes	67
Comments	81
Date	May 3, 2017 2:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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