Does arrogance exhibited by girls towards boys harm boys' social development?

mads-80 · 2009-11-19T07:27:48+00:00

I had a teacher in middle school who constantly made bad remarks about guys and graded them harsher. When a guy said something wrong in class she would berate him for not being as 'smart' as the girls and if a girl answered something incorrectly she brushed it aside. Whenever there was a better method of doing something, she would call it the 'girl' way to do it. I mean, I get that she was reacting to years of the same thing going to school in the 60s and 70s, but a lot of the boys in the class probably left feeling inferior and some of those girls, actually many, I still know a lot of them, would grow up to be entitled bitches.

kanuk876 · 2009-11-19T04:38:13+00:00

Girls also learn early on that they can behave however they please and there's little boys can do to retaliate.

This is quite evident later on in life when you realize that females are constantly pushing the boundaries of emotional abuse... seeing just how far they can push a male before he breaks. And of course, the moment a male fights back, they're seen as being the abusive one.

luciansolaris · 2009-11-19T03:44:39+00:00

I don't believe it to be an inherent issue with the young girls.

Want to know what I think does this? Flip to the Disney Channel when the girly shows are on, like iCarly and Suite Life and watch in horror!

My future children (if Disney hasn't tainted all the potential mates already) will NEVER watch television. I will not have the propaganda stream (cable/satellite) in my house while I have minor children!

Sarstan · 2009-11-19T20:08:27+00:00

I promise this connects.
Listening to Love Line the last month or so, I've been terribly fascinated by how many people that call in have sexual traumas, whether they notice it's good or bad. I'm also fascinated that it seems it's either pushed under the rug or it's just shrugged off, which both cases are severe problems when it comes to all the ways these traumas surface.

That in mind, this topic is a great example of how boys are systematically being destroyed and as they grow older, they don't correct this issue, only taking it as is. I have co-workers that I tell are putting "the pussy up here" and I raise my hand to eye level "when it should stay down here" and move my hand to the groin level. Every one of them are totally whipped, put bluntly. One had a divorce, but he still goes out of his way to take the kids to school and has come in late to work many times to take care of them while she enjoys her lack of work. Another has to literally check in roughly every two hours with his wife. It's comical but also heartbreaking at the same time to see this 20 something year old man having to call in to his wife so she knows he's at work and not cheating on her. This is two cases out of 4 men I work close with. I can assure you that the other two have little to no control of themselves or their wives. I once mentioned my Playboy subscription and they all nearly jumped out of their seats in giddy schoolboy nature, daringly asking me "Doesn't your wife get mad?" I reply with "Why would she? It's just some nice articles with a few nude women." I might add Playboy is great. These aren't some desperate women off the street. They're often successful women who appreciate themselves enough to display it.

I digress. The point is as long as us men don't step in and take control, further letting young boys know that girls are NOT allowed to walk all over them, then it's only going to get worse.

retnemmoc · 2009-11-20T02:15:05+00:00

This is such disturbing discovery on a psychological and social level that I don't even know how to structure the arguments and questions in my head that could categorize and understand all the implications of what mistyriver has presented.

this is doctoral thesis material.

rmbarnes · 2009-11-19T10:14:16+00:00

I think father's need to teach their boys to stand up to this sort of thing. Trouble is I'm guessing that about 1/3rd of all the boys don't have a father in their life.

2009-11-19T21:54:20+00:00

In a society where it's appropriate to sell t-shirts that say "Boys are dumb. Throw rocks at them" I would say "Yes, it does."

I still remember the rhymes from my childhood. "Girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice, and boys are snips of snails and puppy dog tails." From the very beginning, I remember hearing about how girls were superior at everything that they did. "Boys can't hit girls! If a girl hits you, you can't hit her back!" The list goes on. I remember having no self confidence. When a boy had confidence, he was 'arrogant' and 'conceited.' Girls were supposed to be confident, though. At least that's how it was in California, which still is a 'liberal' state. Now I live in Texas, and have noticed that the attitudes of small town folks here is just not like that. I found that there's actually more mutual respect between the genders. But that's another thread...

Cassio · 2009-11-19T15:53:44+00:00

He can never live up to whatever standards they aren't clear about with him.

It is sad when adults have that kind of behavior, but it can attack either side. It just is the perfect example of bad parenting.

kragshot · 2009-11-19T23:51:39+00:00

If that is the case, then we as men have to step up and organize ourselves to combat this, by showing our boys and young men how to become men.

We need to start or get involved in mentoring programs that will help instill confidence and social values that are not dictated by feminist dogma. We can also get into existing programs and show by example that we can stand up and be confident men who are not cowed by overbearing women, but can give and demand respect for who we are as men and human beings.

What say you all to that idea?

2009-11-19T11:20:12+00:00

Does the arrogance of feminism towards males harm boys' social development? Absolutely. We have a generatin of boys who think being eunuchs is just fine.

Worse, because of feminism the role model student is now the good girl and as a consequence more than have the boys flunk out of school, and among those who get into college more than half flunk out. Males have become the undereducated class and no one gives a damn about it. If half the girls were flunking school it would be a national tragedy.

We have teachers who are taught that what most would call normal boy behavior is a mental disorder, being male is a mental disorder! Thus the call for drugging. ADD is not a student problem. It the inability of teachers to cope with normal childen, most of the time it is the inability for female teachers to cope with normal boys, and there in lies the sexism. The amount of requests for ADD testing is directly related to the number of female teachers in the school. In private schools with all males teachers ADD is essentially unheard of.

Boys are the target of feminism because they are the weak males, and unfortunatley it is working.

2009-11-19T16:20:19+00:00

Young girls are bitchy with everyone-- but trust me, the flack they are giving the boys is nothing compared to the social viscerating they do to each other.

sinsyder · 2009-11-19T07:06:16+00:00

To quote Jay-Z, "99 problems but a bitch ain't one."

catlebrity · 2009-11-19T22:40:24+00:00

You notice that little boys are socially awkward and decide the problem is ... little girls? What evidence do you have for this except your perception that most of the girls act "haughty"? If the girls really are acting "arrogant," do the boys even notice this?

Could it be, might it be, possibly, just perhaps, that the boys are socially awkward because, uh, you know, they're little kids?

Title	Does arrogance exhibited by girls towards boys harm boys' social development?
Author	mistyriver
Upvotes	44
Comments	43
Date	November 19, 2009 3:36 AM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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