5 Mistakes Men Make When Proposing

QueenBee126 · 2016-11-04T20:19:04+00:00

5 Mistakes Men Make Proposing:

Proposing To
The Woman
Who Wrote
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BellaScarletta · 2016-11-04T20:04:45+00:00

This article was suggested to me on my Facebook Newsfeed. I'm assuming it's because I'm a woman of a certain age demographic lol. I'll admit it, I clicked for the entertainment of what they might possibly suggest.

Let's Play: Spot The Cringiest Parts!

My submission is:

But women like things to be special. They don’t want what everyone else has. And what’s so special about being proposed to on the most popular day of the year to be proposed to? That Monday when she goes to work and show off her engagement ring, there will be two or three other women doing the exact same thing. And trust us, she will not like that.

I'm so silly. I've been under the impression this entire time that the part where you are special is the part where a man (you presumably love) wants to share his life with you....whoopsie!

This isn't comically cringey, but I did also hate:

Not having a ring. We understand the economy is hitting everyone hard, but you should always have an engagement ring when you propose. No exceptions.

I've actually always thought it would be really romantic (one of the many ways..) if he got so swept away in the moment that he just asked - sans ring, sans plan, just a completely unplanned "you're who I want forever and I'm not waiting another moment to ask" type situation.

I really love all the ways a poor attitude and inflated expectations can ruin what's supposed to be a special moment by virtue of what it is, not how it's done.

mabeol · 2016-11-05T14:25:49+00:00

Gratitude Moment: I love that RPW attitude that we want a marriage, not a wedding/proposal. It's so refreshing.

Trauma_Burn_RN · 2016-11-05T12:32:32+00:00

This article is ridiculous. I proposed to my husband, and it wasn't fancy and I had no ring (he still teases me about this!).

He later bought me a lovely ring, even though I would have been happy with a plain gold band, and he proposed all special on Valentine's Day. And you know what? It was the best, and it was memorable, and it's not about the proposal. It's about the decision to pick the man you can see yourself spending a lifetime with. The kind of women that write these articles are spoiled, silly little girls that need to grow up. Ugh. #rantover

jade_cat · 2016-11-06T20:27:51+00:00

Not having a ring

We understand the economy is hitting everyone hard, but you should always have an engagement ring when you propose. No exceptions. [...] Find engagement rings [below] $2,000.

Looks like somebody drank the Kool-Aid.

I'm not against engagement rings. My husband proposed to me with a ring. It was a simple ring with a CZ stone, which we later upgraded with a diamond because the jeweller cut us a deal (no pun intended). But the whole thing cost us less than CAD$400. All this "three months salary for an engagement ring" is just insane. If the man wants to propose with an expensive ring, then sure, why not. But for a woman to reject a proposal because the price tag on the ring is too low? She's definitely next-worthy.

cxj · 2016-11-15T19:00:23+00:00

The tip avoiding putting the ring in food is valid tho

Starfishlovesu · 2016-11-16T11:12:30+00:00

I think this hit me wrong just because it sounds like a bitchy gold-digger. My proposal was in a military hotel room on February 24. I was married on March 11. My rings? From a pawn shop. 150$ for the set. They're white gold/Rose gold/ diamonds. I absolutely love them, because they look unique. I've been happily married for 5 years, going on 6.

Meanwhile, the gf of one of his shipmates, told me she wouldn't get married to her man unless she got a 10,000$ canary diamond ring. She got it, they got married and divorced within 3 years. Same story with a chunk of other females I know. All got their huge, expensive flashy rings they demanded as payment, and 6 out of 8 are already divorced. The other 2 are miserable and one cheats on her guy CONSTANTLY. While wearing her 15,000 diamonds.

This article just brought up so many feelings. And women wonder why men aren't in the marrying way anymore. edited to add: I do appreciate that the "ask the father" thing was mentioned. My man did just that, he asked my grandfather. It's also the first thing I said after he asked me to marry him. "Did you ask Grampa?"

Title	5 Mistakes Men Make When Proposing
Author	BellaScarletta
Upvotes	21
Comments	25
Date	November 4, 2016 7:59 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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