Tips for nun mode?

CranberrySoftServe · 2023-06-21T11:57:45+00:00

“ (for example, I’m liberal and am drawn towards very conservative men for some reason)”

This isn’t related to nun mode, and may not be to our experience but thought I would share. I experienced this in a way as well. Then I stopped consuming social media and most news and began to realise that a lot of my past liberal leanings were only present in my brain because I had originally held conservative beliefs, but after expressing them had been so shamed by so many sources that I tried to mask them and force myself to believe things I didn’t. I’ve been coming out of that a lot over the past yearish and realising I’m a lot more conservative than I originally realised. May not be your case but it’s something to think about.

VelhenousVillain · 2023-06-21T12:28:40+00:00

I think your plan is great & as someone who has been there, albeit for different reasons I just want to throw up a word of precaution. I joined back in 2000 before social media & cell phones when I was 18 & I was NOT prepared for all of the male attention. I'm not ugly, more girl next door & maybe the female average for the military has improved in 20 years, but as someone who was never approached in high school to being hit up on multiple times a day by men from every nationality, it really threw me off. There were easily 10 males for every female back then, perhaps it's less now.

I did end up getting married before my 4 years was up to a pretty conservative man & we've become more so over the years, especially as children came on scene. Probably no one would describe us as such back then. We're Christian now, & a book I've gotten for my girls is Preparing to Become a Helpmeet, by Debi Pearl. The gist of it is is basically what you're doing, improve & work on yourself doing what you love & after that look up & see who's around you doing it as well, you're likely looking at husband material.

SeminoleDollxx · 2023-06-21T16:34:10+00:00

Totally plan to date after boot camp. There is nothing wrong with dating in A school from a pool of paid, ambitious, in shape, fully std tested men. Pick a good one who wants a full relationship and enjoy the experience a serious relationship gives you to become a good wife.

My daughter joined the Navy. The recruiters told her to not date on base eye roll. I'm like so you finally get into a pool of ambitious young men with money and clean physicals ...and plan on not dating? Meanwhile just meeting dudes off the street has none of those basic guarantees.

She met a guy in boot camp. They wet to the same base. They became friends. Then bf gf. They've been dating 6 months and it's the best relationship she's had so far. I told her LOL!

I'm married happily and have a good deal of experience as a traditional woman. I remind my daughter to still remain feminine as I have with her father.

AutoModerator · 2023-06-21T02:13:55+00:00

Title: Tips for nun mode?

Full text: Hello all! I’m seeking advice on making nun-mode as useful as possible.

I ended things with the guy I was dating (he turned out to be a great guy, just not the right fit), and now am planning on going nun-mode for approximately the next two years, and I’ll explain my reasons for doing so.

First and foremost, I’m planning on joining the military. This means I’ll spend the next year preparing and training and while I could date during that time, in the next year I’ll be spending 3 months with no phone access (basic), and 6 months after that with very minimal free time (secondary training, pretty much). This is not conducive to dating, and I can’t imagine that a military future would appeal to many men.

Note: I am NOT looking for any feedback on this decision; I’ve spent a lot of time carefully considering my options, and for a variety of reasons this is what I feel is the best choice for me. I do plan on only four years, so I’m hoping to date in the latter 2 years of my enlistment.

Secondly, I need to improve my choice in men. My first boyfriend was not good to me, and although my second boyfriend treated me very well, he didn’t exactly seem like a good choice on paper. I find myself drawn to guys that I know would not be a good fit for me long-term, so I need to figure out why that is (for example, I’m liberal and am drawn towards very conservative men for some reason)

Third, I had significant anxiety in both of my relationships, and I want to figure out why and how I can fix that.

Goals:

Invest time in journaling and evaluating my taste in men, to hopefully improve so I can pick men better aligned with my values (any advice/resources would be great!)

Learn about relationship anxiety and identify my areas of insecurity (any book recs?)

Get better at doing makeup and hair (nun mode, why not?)

Any resources, or suggestions on goals to add would be wonderful, thank you! I’m 21 and will be 23 when I plan on exiting nun mode, which I feel is young enough that I’m not worried. Thank you all for your time!

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bluemorningstars · 2023-06-21T11:01:18+00:00

I’m not sure if this is what you mean by “nun-mode,” but I made a choice to be physically and emotionally celibate a few years ago. It was genuinely the best thing I ever did! I went about two years this way, and during that time period I became so confident, became more beautiful, etc. I ended up meeting my current partner (also the love of my life, hopefully future husband :)) at the end of the celibacy and the timing seemed curated by God haha…

So to start I completely support this decision of yours. Our lifestyle goals seem different (military, etc) but the thing I tell all my girlfriends about being celibate is that no matter where you are or what you are doing it can be so healthy and beneficial to personal growth. I would just focus on the things you want to develop during this time. You mentioned getting ready for the military- that’s of course a great thing to focus on. If you want to get better at hair and makeup, amazing. A celibate period is the best time for a “glow up” in my opinion- that’s how it was for me. I recommend just doing a lot of research on the areas of life you want to improve upon. Maybe even take up a new hobby? I got really into gardening and improving my skills in the kitchen, because I was so focused on my personal growth. I also watched a lot of YouTubers, such as Mrs Midwest who creates content about femininity, personal growth, beauty, etc. I found her a great source of support material.

Also I’m here if you have any questions! Good luck on your journey! Xoxo

Title	Tips for nun mode?
Author	Latter-Cranberry4508
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Date	June 21, 2023 2:13 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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