Tired of being cheated on

NationalMouse · 2025-09-20T15:20:24+00:00

Ghost him and move on. You don’t owe him anything or any explanation. Make birthday plans with other friends and keep them, it will kill him knowing that he hurt you and you were so quick to move on that he will regret ever hurting you and being such an idiot. Telling him that you know will only give him, a known liar, the chance tell more lies and try to convince you to stay. You deserve more! Sorry this happened. Sending love 💕

mrsobservation · 2025-09-20T02:43:09+00:00

I’m not trying to invalidate you, but are you sure he cheated? Paranoia from trauma sometimes can sometimes cause us to distort reality.

lightmilktea · 2025-09-20T01:27:03+00:00

I'm sorry about it. May I ask what your video evidence is of?

onthewaytoMD · 2025-09-22T03:37:57+00:00

Update: I’ve been cold and distant since he returned . Thankfully we don’t live together, I told him I needed to study so we can rain check my birthday plans. He kept pushing and asked to come over and bring me the souvenir he got me (it was a fridge magnet) . I told him everything, he got defensive and asked me how I saw those videos since I don’t have instagram . I said it doesn’t matter, then he said “it’s a friend from college and they met at the conference and he didn’t tell me because he wanted to prevent this and he knew I would behave this way” and they only hang out together after the conference days.

I asked about the airbnb .. he said her hotel was out of town, so she came there within sessions and nothing happened. I told him I don’t believe him and he was trying to defend his actions, saying he made sure to call and text often while there.. i told him I don’t want to continue the relationship. He said he understands I’m upset so let’s try to talk tomorrow when I’m calm.. then left. He sent a bunch of messages but I’ve blocked him now. This hurts but I’d be okay! I’d go through this!

AudienceLow8421 · 2025-09-20T16:48:25+00:00

Now that he’s away is a perfect opportunity to leave. I’d ghost the hell out of him.

Taters0290 · 2025-09-21T01:42:54+00:00

Confronting in person implies you want to work things out. You’re vulnerable, and he will take advantage of that. I love the idea of leaving the still for him to find and ghosting him. That lets him know he’s busted and you don’t care enough to bother confronting him.

I’m so sorry this happened.

YoyoPeaches · 2025-09-20T01:13:35+00:00

I'd leave. He doesnt respect you

tiredalotl · 2025-09-20T19:41:30+00:00

I’m so sorry to read this; this experience must hurt like hell right now. In the long run, you will be much happier once the bandaid is ripped off and the pain has subsided. There would be more pain for the rest of your life if you stay with a cheating, lustful, loser. You’ll never feel emotionally safe or fulfilled.

Plenty-Run6061 · 2025-09-21T06:46:24+00:00

You’re strong asf, we’re all rooting for you! Please keep us updated and let us know how you’re doing 🩵🫡

AutoModerator · 2025-09-20T01:10:35+00:00

Title: Tired of being cheated on

Author onthewaytoMD

Full text: My boyfriend cheated and I’m in so much pain. He knows how my ex cheated and how that messed me up and he promised never to do that to me. I have video evidence of them, but I haven’t confronted him as he’s still away at the “conference”.

We had to much plans for things to do when he returns, as my birthday is coming up in a few days. Yesterday he called at bedtime and we spoke normal, I even made a joke “cross your heart and hope to die that you’re not out there with some other woman?!” . He said “I cross my heart and hope to die that I’m not with anyone” and proceeded to tell me how much he misses me.

Sorry I’m all over the place with my writing.. I just hate that I’m reliving this experience. I’ve read tons of posts. Some say don’t confront, just leave. Some say to ask him.. what do i do?

Today, I still haven’t confronted him. We spoke on phone and I tried to hint some stuff. He says “what are you talking about? I haven’t done anything wrong, I’m so exhausted and don’t have time for this etc.. so I end up apologizing and soothing him.

Anyways, he’d be home tomorrow(Saturday)night and on Sunday we have plans for my birthday. My plan is to drop this on him at dinner and then quit things right there… what would you do? I need advice..

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Anonymous_Unsername · 2025-09-21T04:34:31+00:00

I hope you waited for your Birthday present from him first!

LateralThinker13 · 2025-09-22T14:01:27+00:00

The women can address if he's cheating or not. I have a related, relevant question for you: Are you meeting his sexual needs?

This isn't a defense of him, understand. I don't excuse cheating at all, and I can't stand it. On the other hand, to quote Chris Rock (he does a great routine on this) "But I understand". You do need to reassess what, if anything, you may be doing to either a) encourage this behavior, or b) seek men who are inherently unfaithful.

Because too many women today believe it's fine to deny sex to men (intentionally or otherwise), or simply do not realize that most men's libidos are an incredibly important part of their relationships, and if their needs there aren't met by you, they will be met outside the relationship sooner or later. It also doesn't help that the average woman has zero clue how men completely separate sex and love.

I mention all this because, if you don't address this and it's part of your issue, it's only going to happen again and again.

Title	Tired of being cheated on
Author	onthewaytoMD
Upvotes	6
Comments	46
Date	September 20, 2025 1:10 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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