How important is Physical Attraction?

PhantomDream09 · 2015-02-13T22:45:11+00:00

Physical attraction is essential. If you don't desire the man you are dating, then it doesn't matter if he's the most amazing person in the world - you will be left feeling restless and dissatisfied.

Bakerofpie · 2015-02-13T22:51:16+00:00

Nope nope nope, move on. If you aren't attracted to him after 10 dates you probably won't ever be. IMO it's better if he's lacking a little bit in some area of personality than lacking in the bedroom department. If he talks through the movie and eats popcorn with his mouth open you can just go to the movies with your friends. If he doesn't like discussing your love of underwater basket weaving you can find friends who do. What you can't do is find someone else to have sex with when you're in a relationship.

TalkToHusband · 2015-02-13T22:29:46+00:00

Physical attraction is very important. If you aren't physically attracted to him you should stop seeing him.

little_red_ · 2015-02-14T01:12:44+00:00

I'm honestly surprised by the number of people who question this. Yes, someone you plan on spending the rest of your life with you should absolutely be utterly and undeniably attracted to them. You should hunger for them. Why settle for someone who you are attracted to less than someone else?

wantonton · 2015-02-16T18:07:49+00:00

It will matter tremendously to him. If he ever figures out that he cannot, and never has, inspired your desire the way other men can/do, he will quickly get to the point where he cannot stand to look at your or think about you.

sheago · 2015-02-14T02:59:02+00:00

Why are you wasting his time and money, how would you like it if someone baited you like you are to him. It's really dishonest.

tryanotherJuan · 2015-02-13T23:13:52+00:00

Yay for reading "The Surrendered Single."

I think physical attraction can grow but it can't be created. If you find him at least reasonably attractive, it can grow over time as you get to know him better. However, if there is no attraction at all in the beginning, it's unlikely to ever develop.

Sometimes you will meet great guys and it just won't click and you won't find them attractive. That's okay. You are a good girl, he is a good guy, maybe you just aren't good together. Chemistry and attraction need to be there.

Just be kind and respectful as you end things. I know from experience that if you've been dating without much luck it can be frustrating to finally meet a good guy, but then find you aren't attracted to him. Just end it kindly and you can both part without hard feelings.

eatplaycrush · 2015-02-13T23:43:51+00:00

Yes, that is quite a large problem.

pcadrian · 2015-02-14T14:01:08+00:00

Chalk it up as a loss. You want the man that is "good" but also makes your vag tingle ;)

Brown_eyes30 · 2015-02-17T13:56:58+00:00

This can only be done face to face thru conversations. Don't try to get to know others over matchdotcom. I know lots of people meet thru social media and it's a first pass as to screening. In person ...is the only to feel the chemistry and essence of someone. These things we cannot label are the glue to the relationship. Just a glance can heal a bad day or solve an issue between the parties. Good Luck.

sterlinghtsmi · 2015-02-14T02:46:56+00:00

Physical attraction is Twin Towers important!! If you are not genuinely internally hot for your partner, those towers(the relationship) is going to crumble!! This goes for guys and girls.

Title	How important is Physical Attraction?
Author	yellow_goddess
Upvotes	9
Comments	17
Date	February 13, 2015 10:26 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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