We often hear about looks, status, height, frame, game, and all the various things that comprise a man's attractivness. MLD puts it as money muscles game & frame, and it's a good abbreviation when one needs to be quick when discussing the topic, but we can do better. Below is a quick primer on what formulates the amalgamation of a man's attractiveness to women:

SLFM&G

* Status

* Looks

* Frame

* Money

* Game

And they're listed in that order for a reason as it's the largest impact to smallest impact on how women will perceive you.

 

Status. Status, fame, clout, however you want to describe it, if you have the sky high social status you WILL have a good time and very little issue with women. Now that being said, even Tom Brady got dumped so it's not everything. But key takeaway is that if you only had one piece of the puzzle, this should be it as it has the biggest bang for your buck in the modern sexual marketplace. Preselection and social proof have never been more important and impactful for men.

Looks. This one is obvious. If you are a Chad, then all you largely have to do is show up and not put your foot in your mouth much like someone of sky high status. And even if you do, it'll be interpreted in the most charitable way possible in most instances. If you were ugly, instant creeper vibes. Chad, "aww, that's so cute'. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Good looks also feeds into your perceived status.

Frame. Frame, aka your mental point of origin, is in my opinion the third most impactful factor in that it keeps you sane and out of trouble. Women test men, it's just a fact of life, and if you can't deal with women's tests in a masculine way (and ideally having a bit of fun while you do it), your perceived attractiveness will drop precipitously. Simple as that. Like good looks, a rock solid frame that keeps you strong-minded not constantly seeking rapport also feeds right into your perceived status.

By now you should recognize a theme here.

Money. Money is often attached to status as men of sky high status tend to be wealthy, but it's not always the case. You do not have to be Mr Moneybags to get women, and nor should you ever lead with your money. Why money is important is down to two primary factors:

1. Women are still attracted to the hallmarks of a good provider. Just the way they're wired. And...

2. Modern women are attracted to lifestyle. I blame social media. None of us have to like it, but that's the culture in which we live. Deal with it.

Again, demonstrations of wealth such as a Lambo or Rolex are nice and feeds into your perceived status, but don't overdo it. Otherwise you risk being perceived as Mr Flashy Look At Me, which is try-hard and actually harms you in the long run unless you WANT to attract the worst kind of gold diggers.

Game. Game is the very last aspect of what makes a man attractive. And if you have the above elements in spades, then you really don't need what most of us would consider "good game". The problem is that most guys DON'T have the above and that's why they latch onto game as the be all end all solution to their problems with women. If you fix the above elements of your attractiveness, you'll quickly find you don't need "good game". For attractive men with the above elements in spades, good game is actually being able to do 1 simple thing:

• Not putting your foot in your mouth

Sure, you may need to give yourself permission to escalate if that's been a hang-up of yours, and there's some pieces of being social that many guys are missing due to lack of socializing growing up (eg. too many video games) or being on the spectrum, but those are not the same as purposely trying to attract women (think PUAs). Guys who lack large pieces the above elements of what makes men attractive, those are the guys out cold approaching and risking coming off as a dancing monkey. Don't be that guy. Instead be an attractive guy by doing the work and becoming the best version of yourself. Do that and you won't have to "attract" women. See the difference?

 

Summary:
You'll know your status is right when you have female friends that are happy to introduce you to their social circles and people are pitching you on business opportunities.

You'll know your looks are good to go when you regularly get the coy looks/eye contact, smirks, and other visual approach invitations.

You'll feel when your frame is right because you won't be perturbed by your wife, gf, or plates' shenanigans and they start blowing up your phone when she feels you pulling away--women get needy, not you.

Money, well... don't lead with it. Having some displays of wealth and abundance does help as it projects a lifestyle they may want to be a part of, but again, DO NOT LEAD WITH IT. You don't get to brag about the penthouse, but your friends can. You don't get to brag about your baller ride, but your girl...friends can. You get the idea. Have the indicators of abundance, but don't draw attention to them. Those are for your friends to do to sell YOU to others. Good friends/wings should understand this.

Game is ultimately the least important factor of a man's attractiveness and yet it always gets the most attention on places like reddit and PUA forums. Once you make friends with naturals and high value men, you'll quickly realize how little "game" there really is to be attractive and successful with women.

 

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