FR / STFU failure

HornsOfApathy · 2025-06-29T03:46:26+00:00

Yet another time I have to say: Good sex is your responsibility.

Codenamerondo1 · 2025-06-29T01:41:39+00:00

lol “I threw a hissy fit that my wife hinted that she wanted foreplay in the most straightforward yet gentle way possible and it ended with me accusing her of baby trapping me” is fucking hilarious from someone that thinks they have any advice to give

Please continue to tell on yourself

Bigmachiavelli · 2025-06-29T02:28:10+00:00

This is more than salvageable. You just gotta put in the work. It sucks right now, but she just needs to be reinvigorated sexually. Falls into the "captain of the ship" thing.

You should have given her foreplay and gotten to it. This next sentence is very important. Not all sex is for your pleasure. Most of it but not all, sometimes you have to help someone (your wife) else get off. She probably has done the same for you many a time

Read The sex god method and kama sutra. Make sex a sport for yourself. Find ways to make it interesting by making it interesting. She will cooperate and reciprocate.

Next time, STFU, write your thoughts down then talk to a therapist. Good luck

SteelSharpensSteel · 2025-06-29T10:57:45+00:00

What do you want? It’s one of the main questions here. All I see here is someone who is letting life happen to them. Someone who is whining that he didn’t get a cookie from the cookie jar, then throwing a tantrum when he didn’t get his way. I have to ask, how boring are you? If you have boring sex over, and over, and over, and over, sounds like you’re pretty damn boring in life.

Look, if YOU want to go get divorced, go get divorced. But if you don’t, and you have that single fuck saying hey maybe this isn’t the best idea, then perhaps you should take your wife out and talk to her like a normal fucking being and calmly lay out your vision on what a good marriage looks like to you and see if she wants to be a part of that. If not, no harm no foul, and start the process. If she wants to, and I’m going to assume she does, then you probably would get a better response from her. Then go home and give her the best fucking of her life.

And also, my viewpoint is that if my wife said to me, I’m going to divorce you within seven years, I would be like, ok, all threats are honored, and I would go see a divorce attorney to see what my options are. They may not be great, which is fine, but at least I wouldn’t be blindsided either way. Who knows, you may have a great marriage in seven years, or not. Maybe you could make a good marriage. The odds are better than your average AskMRP poster going to the gym.

Kurtegon · 2025-06-29T05:33:54+00:00

How's the intimacy other wise? You could just be conditioning her to physical touching=sex. Be playful and teasing, shower together but not in a sexual way etc

Direct_Charity_2575 · 2025-06-30T19:29:52+00:00

“Brother, brother, brother…”

..man this is a painful post. The whole thing where you got mad that your wife was naked and asking you to warm her up is killing me in particular.

I recently came across this Spotify playlist called “Marvin Gaye’s Clueless Ass” – aptly named because so many of his songs are questions: What’s Going On?, What’s Happening Brother?, When Did You Stop Loving Me?

Looking at your history of posts, it’s like a Marvin Gaye playlist, you seem to ask others for guidance on everything - relationship, alcoholism, counseling, should I/should I not got a divorce, even how to Own Your Shit.

You also seem to be stuck and making no improvements to yourself, you just gripe about your wife. You are mid-forties and seem to take no action to make things better and need others to make major life decisions for you.

“Mother, Mother...”

We are not your mommies - instead of asking us what you should do to prepare for a far-away divorce, I’m going to ask you, what are you going to do to make changes for yourself? Maybe you should get divorced, but only you can answer that -but know that if you do, it’s only going to solve the problem of her, and not going to solve the problem of YOU.

“War is not the answer”

In the meantime, quit flipping your shit at your wife. As others have advised me, your anger is focused at the wrong person. Use that energy to get right, do the work and take actions.

I’m getting worse and worse at STFU

How does this work when you’ve been doing MRP for years? How do you get worse at STFU?

“Tell me, what’s going on?”

InChargeMan · 2025-07-01T19:50:57+00:00

Retard, she wanted you to say "No pain, no gain" then proceed to fuck the attitude out of her. She wants a man who fucks. Not a guy who can only get starfish sex once or twice a month.

MikeSilencer_ · 2025-07-01T04:44:13+00:00

I bet you didn’t had the balls to tell her to go on her knees to blow you, after she said she’s sore down there. Lmao

Wrong-Appointment-13 · 2025-07-03T01:24:00+00:00

“Had an explosive argument with the wife today”

Not having frame, arguing is optional and your situation was perfect for agree and amplify. Don’t waste your time arguing and this is a perfect example of why.

“The kids were at camp all week and we’d planned to make the most of it in the bedroom, the kids being awake or in the house is a big stressor for my wife”

This is negotiated sex or at best a covert contract. Let me guess you went out of your way to put them into camp so you could get sex.

“She said I could eventually warm her up and she’d go ahead, but after she told me that I didn’t want to proceed.”

Think we found the reason sex isn’t as wild as it used to be. You turn a basic sexual favor into a blow up fight/divorce talk. You want good sex then listen to her when she flat out tells how. Basically she put up a neon sign saying stop skipping forplay.

“I was able to talk her down some, but this tells me divorce might not be that far away if it comes”

Oh no what are you going to do (shivering). No frame, she says divorce and you role over and show your belly. Trying to convince someone to stay after a divorce threat is just about the worst thing you could have done. Now anytime she isn’t getting her way she is going to play that card.

How to prepare? accept 1/2 of everything goes to her and your going to get limited time with kids. Far cheaper in the long run just to accept this as fact. Speak to a local lawyer and get a free consult, and go prepared with all your financials and assets. I recommend everyone do this even if you’re not planning on going through with it. Then follow their instructions. You been here any amount of time you know stay plan is same as the go plan.

mabden · 2025-06-29T01:28:57+00:00

Hire a divorce attorney to draw up separation/divorce papers.

Have a sit down with STBXW.and tell her why wait, and hand her the papers.

Here's the hard part, Shut the Fuck Up. Focus on yourself and being the best dad for your kids. Grey Rock her. Read the side bar, and once through, read it again. Up your workouts. Restart/start hobbies.

brique879 · 2025-10-05T20:46:50+00:00

Your wife is going to say a lot of bullshit and a lot of the stuff will be forgotten in a week or two. Focus on being attractive and putting in the work. Go down the list is your car and house good, is your style good, gym and diet dialed in. You can turn this around pretty quick there’s been some good advice given here too.

Title	FR / STFU failure
Author	BraveNewWorld1722
Upvotes	9
Comments	39
Date	June 29, 2025 1:06 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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