Should I join a fraternity?

waynebradysworld · 2015-08-11T17:03:04+00:00

Do it, do it, you, do it

cmiovino · 2015-08-12T02:41:47+00:00

I had a Greek roommate... no, really, from Greece. He was very against 'greek' campus life, so I took a disgust at fraternities and sororities. This was all pre-TRP. He labeled it as 'paying for friends'.

However, it is a fact that college campus game has much less to do with traditional SMV principles (wealth, degree, job) since most students don't have most of these by default. Girls tend to prefer guys with high social status in the college rankings... aka, your place in frats.

I'm not saying that you can't just cold approach in bars in be successful, but I am saying that having notable social status and knowing people in college can really benefit you.

I'd say go for it, but remember to do your studies and actually graduate on time. Your real SMV will benefit from this after college. I had 8am classes and studied alone in the library M-F. After 2/3pm on weekdays, I totally cut off studying and socialized. Around noon on Fridays I was done with school work until Sunday night. I paritied and socialized all weekend. Ended up with a 3.9GPA and MBA at the end of 5 years.

Back to your original question, yes fraternities are a major game changer and can easily help your game.

FuckTheZer0 · 2015-08-11T17:25:08+00:00

If you really want to, do it during a semester where you're not that busy. You're going to be busy as fuck during your rush semester, it's probably a lot better to focus on the stuff you already mentioned first.

redadactyl · 2015-08-11T19:18:00+00:00

A Thousand Times Yes. Besides putting studying over drinking, joining a fraternity is the best thing you can do during school to ensure long term success and a healthy network.

fnordsnord · 2015-08-11T19:26:23+00:00

If I had it to do over again, I would do it.

At 51, I've realized that the single most valuable thing I brought away from my university experience (other than the N-count) was my network of personal contacts. And it's too small.

Mind you, a frat can suck away your time, energy, and brain and hurt your academic performance if you are not careful, but there is NO better way to meet and get to know other men. And their fathers. The Dads of guys you are going to meet in frats are going to be intelligent, influential, and well-placed to help you on your way to success.

Be that guy who knows a guy.

RememberingAlpha · 2015-08-11T19:36:30+00:00

Yes. Absolutely.

I a came to college overweight, undersocialized and beta as fuck. By my senior year I was spinning 5 plates and ended up in an LTR with the hottest of the cheerleaders, all because of the social proof that came from being a) a member of my chapter b)president of my chapter c)president of the Interfraternity council, d) president of the honors fraternity.

You will make incredible friends, who are more likely to be alpha's you can learn from. I cannot stress the value of this enough.

Fraternities give you an automatic boatload of social proof and resulting SMV. Most of the hottest plates are in sororities, and will usually only date/party with fraternity guys.

Additionally its amazing on a resume, you do meaningful community service work, and perfect the alpha life style. Seriously, fraternities attract and breed alphas. You pick up the alpha lifestyle much more quickly. I cannot stress enough how beta I was when I pledged, and ended the king of campus. The social networks you gain access too are second to none. Get involved with the IFC, and you will be king.

NidStyles · 2015-08-11T23:42:34+00:00

You should be working on your GPA and your coursework, not chasing tail and being a moron.

hatertauts · 2015-08-12T02:07:30+00:00

What major are you?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-08-11T17:41:33+00:00

As a guy who was in a house, I would recommend it. The guys I keep in touch with from my undergrad days are mostly my fraternity brothers. You just have to be careful not to pick the drunk/dumbass/stoner house to rush, or a house where they haze the shit out of pledges for no reason..

One thing to consider is that fall semester sophomore year is prime time to rush (some schools are set up differently, but usually there's a fraternity rush both semesters.) You don't want to be doing it as a junior.

I played a sport and was in a house, so it can be done. I think it may actually focus you more.

Good luck, either way.

EGOtyst · 2015-08-11T21:32:09+00:00

Eh, sure. Do it for the right reasons, though. You are paying for your friends and a great social life, that is about it.

Title	Should I join a fraternity?
Author	machinegunbear
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	August 11, 2015 4:57 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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