I feel everything it’s pointless

MotiMorphosys · 2019-10-15T23:33:06+00:00

Better than feeling everything and it's pointed.

MusicSports · 2019-10-15T23:53:58+00:00

Are you the rock of your house emotionally or financially? If it's only emotionally and your mother and sister can support themselves, you need a break from something to develop a sense of outcome independence. You're 23 and you should not be working yourself to death in a profession you hate.

If they can't support themselves financially but it's not for reasons that they are disabled or prevented from working, you need to set boundaries and have a plan to get out of the situation. This situation has ruined some of my family's lives because of overcomitting and being guilted into helping family that only pulled them down with them and in the end everyone lost either their money or their sanity and money.

If you're supporting financially and emotionally, and there's legitimate medical or other reasons why your sister and mother can't care for themselves(idk how old your sister is but if she's 10 that's a legitimate reason why she needs help), I can't help you and you need a stronger more experienced man to guide you.

[deleted] · 2019-10-16T03:06:44+00:00

You’re coming to grips with the fact that we’re all truly alone in life, which tends to hit like a ton of bricks. I’ve been there too. At one point, I was working three part-time jobs, taking 20 units, and paying for school on my own; no one gave a shit about me and it was depressing. My work-load forced me to be disciplined, hardworking, and efficient: it also made me tough. Keep grinding and level up. Life tends to get harder, not easier, but you’ll get used to it or you’ll start your own company or something that will shift your existing paradigm.

DJ878787 · 2019-10-15T23:22:59+00:00

I’m in the same boat man. I’m just trying to hold it together before I hang myself.

BurnoTaurus · 2019-10-16T02:58:11+00:00

You talk about people leaving you and then say the life you built for yourself is crumbling... wtf life have you built for yourself? seriously look at the people around you and ask yourself "if it werent for convenience and proximity, would I have met these people? would I have continued going out of my way to be their friends?"

As you get older and pursue more of your interests, you will become a different person. Your friends and family will all do the same. I have friends right now who Im in the process of drifting apart from. I dont find the things they have to say interesting anymore, we dont live in the same area, we used to meet up for a D&D group that I no longer see the point in attending. After that, I gradually stopped seeing any of the group members since, the group was really the only thing we had left.

Theyre all still trying to cling to the sort of life they had in highschool.

rockstarsheep · 2019-10-16T00:37:32+00:00

Have you had an honest sit down with your family? That is to say, your sister. Can she get any sort of job to help with the finances?

More importantly, what is the goal you’re going for? What’s all this effort for?

BajaGhia · 2019-10-16T01:25:06+00:00

Ok dude, you have to change.

You are at max load, i give you less than a year before you implode.

Estrogenoxygen · 2019-10-16T04:49:07+00:00

Life b4 29-30 is rough, imo

Redditgoodaccount · 2019-10-16T07:23:29+00:00

I keep telling myself that everything will be fine, that I can do anything, that I can change who I’m if I want to.

It's true, you're not lying to yourself, it's absolutely true there's nothing more real than this sentence. But you should stop thinking and DO.

But I keep losing people in my life, first my ex girlfriend, now my friends are also growing apart

So what? You know that only one person that you will never lose? Yourself, that's where you have to invest. It's a safe and guaranteed investment. People comes and goes. Tat bastard in the mirror will stay. If it wasn't like this, if the people was always the same it would be fucking boring like eating steak everyday.

I want to kill every part of me

Do it, build a new one.

I’m going to the gym nonstop cause that’s the only thing that let’s me cry and be myself

Good but not best. There are other things you MUST cultivate to reach excellence. Read, learn to do something, hobby, become good in something most men aren't and that you might enjoy and be it possibly social (dancing, music, fight).

Your actual state of mind is a consequence of the poor life you are conducting, that's why you are sad about the people, because you expect joy to come from them and no, Dorothy , buckle up that's not Kansas.

Come back with a report in 3 months from now.

riskitit · 2019-10-16T07:28:28+00:00

stfu, ive never even had a girlfriend

SeasonedRP · 2019-10-16T10:12:16+00:00

It may seem pointless to you now, but you're laying the foundation now for what could be an extremely successful life. It's clear from the post and your comments that you're dedicated to being financially well off. Save and invest as much money as you can. The job you hate is a necessary evil, currently. When your side hustle starts paying off, you can ditch the day job and devote more effort to building a company. People like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs probably went through the same frustrations you have when they were young. A good first step would be to stop supporting your mom and sister. They aren't your financial responsibility. Get your own place, even if it's tiny and not ideal. A change of environment will give you a fresh outlook. Something I've observed in my own and others' lives is that when you are driven and making positive advances, there will be people who will leave, that's just how it is. They are used to the "old" you and can't relate to what you are trying to accomplish. Don't worry about it. New people will enter your life and you'll relate to them much better.

Haytch1234 · 2019-10-16T11:29:23+00:00

Youre over worked. You are burnt out. Hence why you feel this way. I did something similiar 2 years ago. Say job and night job 3 time a week and gym and seeing a girl. Saved lots of money but I fucking got over it.

You need more flexibility in your life. If you hate your job with a burning passion then work on getting that sorted out.

Dont fuck your mental health for money or other people.

AceMav21 · 2019-10-16T23:53:26+00:00

Abandon them.

BajaGhia · 2019-10-15T23:44:43+00:00

Hiw you going to the gym nonstop if youre working 630 to 930?

Hate to say this, but you need to quit going to the gym or change jobs for a bit. Get some time on your hands to study and get some kind of a quick education that will get you in the door to something that will get you more education and more money. For example, you can get a phlebotomist certificate pretty easily and start working at a hospital or some sort of medical center that will pay for you to upgrade your skillsets and make more money. Then you can become a CNA, then upgrade to the next thing.

Title	I feel everything it’s pointless
Author	Inyox
Upvotes	15
Comments	47
Date	October 15, 2019 10:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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