Got beaten up

Key-Pace7150 · 2021-04-05T01:00:06+00:00

First things first, be honest with yourself, did you escalate things? What role did you play in your ass whooping? There’s probably some responsibility you’re avoiding to take.

Next, start going to the gym and training BJJ or Muay Thai. Seriously. Not because you want to go out looking for fights, not to be more alpha, but so that when shit hits the fan it’s you who’s in control of the physical situation not some other asshole.

Lastly, go to the party. If he’s there he’s there. If you played a role in escalating things go up to him when you see him, “hey man, I know we had beef last week but you got me good and made me look like a bitch lol. Let’s let it be and move on with our lives.” And then let it go and use it as an opportunity to grow.

NDN2004 · 2021-04-05T00:53:32+00:00

Dawg if your not a fighter, don’t fight. The red pill does a lot of things but one thing it doesn’t do is make you a fighter. Just because a guy isn’t red pill and you are doesn’t mean he won’t kick your ass in a fight.

As for your social proof? I’ve lost a few fights when I was younger to some bigger kids who tried to bully me, never got knocked out I always put up a fight and I’d always go try to fight them on sight. But I wouldn’t recommend doing this maybe just accept your loss like a man and go shake his hand when you see him next time and tell him he beat you fair and square and leave it at that

Dathtain · 2021-04-05T01:44:00+00:00

Lmao just yell who knew I was thirsty, pick up the water bottle, and start drinking it

Duemkush · 2021-04-05T01:48:52+00:00

Your social value is not worth your life. If youre partying with guys that want to fight, you should get away from those circles. Its so easy to get fucked for life, especially when youre not trained. One wrong move, badly landed punch and someone could die. Not to mention weapons or getting pummeled by the guy's friends when down.

Most people will see guys fighting drunk as retarded, not alphas. Always try to de-escalate and if it is inevitable, you need to hit first and end it as fast as possible.

wkndatbernardus · 2021-04-05T02:13:53+00:00

I had an incident like this in college. I went to a small school and everyone heard about how this dude gave me a black eye. Everyone was talking, "oh snap, wkndatbernardus got his ass whooped." Thing was, I got some good shots in myself so, he wasn't interested in pocking the bear again. In the immortal words of Mr Miyagi, "win, lose...no matter. You make good fight, earn respect." If you sand up for yourself, that's all that matters at the end of the day.

If he shows up at this next party, you should look at it as another opportunity to not back down. This is the crucible for your manhood. The final round in Rocky I is a great example of this. Apollo Creed can't believe he's battered this guy to shit but he's still coming. I'm not saying you should willingly submit to an ass kicking. I'm saying standing up to his assholery is the key.

TravisScottNL · 2021-04-05T05:45:05+00:00

Learn a martial art. (BJJ . judo , Muay Thai/kickboxing or MMA.
Don’t get too wasted if you’re with so many strangers.
Be prepared if you see him again

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2021-04-05T01:43:21+00:00

Stop getting drunk you fucking shit head.

1a. Learn to shut your pie hole mouth.

Learn how to fight; BJJ, Boxing, Muay Thai.
Stay out of fights.

lonelyshark911 · 2021-04-05T01:48:58+00:00

Agree with the other comment. Don't attempt to fight guys if you've never trained or even got fight experience. Guys with fight experience will always be at a super advantage to those who just hit the pads too.

You can show up to the party - I bet he apologizes or you become friends after this.

Being tall is great for most martial arts. You could do boxing, muay thai, or even bjj and be at an advantage with those long limbs of yours. If you've never done it before you'll feel confident just after a few weeks.

donaxi · 2021-04-05T10:45:42+00:00

Well, if he disrespected you and you stood up for yourself, that's a thumbs up in my book even if you got your ass kicked. That's life. Only way to stop bullies is to stand up to them even if you get fucked up. I promise you people respect you even if you got your shit kicked in, because you're not a pussy.

Now, you can hide from the guy and stay home, or you can go to the party. You shouldn't instigate anything, but if he tries to AMOG you again, stand your ground once more. Try to stay more sober this time. The only way to get over your fear is to face it head on.

vix029 · 2021-04-05T05:57:57+00:00

Im 16 and got beaten up by 15 people all at once.

From experience, TRUST barely half the people who were at that party will remember in 2 weeks time.

And if they do, fuck them, you do your thing and train so next situation you can properly defend yourself. Also never get too drunk be aware at all times and know how to react.

2021-04-05T08:49:00+00:00

I have PTSD now

Lol so everyone just goes around diagnosing themselves now? And if you really did fight him again and get beaten again it would be stupid.

Fighting is even dumber and you should have done everything in your power to not fight, including running away, especially over some whimsical slight as 'disrespecting me'. Now look at your reputation to everyone who saw what you got.

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-04-05T00:42:42+00:00

How did he beat you? Could you land a shot?

SSStringer_Bell · 2021-04-05T08:46:42+00:00

Always walk away when you can. Imagine losing a tooth or an eye over some dumb shit

SteveSan82 · 2021-04-05T11:14:41+00:00

Stop drinking alcohol

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2021-04-05T03:19:30+00:00

This is why we don't fight. You're now a loser to those 15 people, that guy will forever pick on you until you drop his ass, and you have ptsd. Go to therapy and work on yourself. Stop wasting time and your sanity on these shitty parties.

ChrisBumhead · 2021-04-05T10:38:10+00:00

Go with a baseball bat and scare the shit out of him

lolomotif12 · 2021-04-05T12:14:27+00:00

Learn how to fight.

CombatPunk88 · 2021-04-05T12:15:05+00:00

Getting into a fight while you're drunk and probably don't even know how to fight is dumb af. Before I give advice, I need to know what he did to disrespect you because you conveniently left out this details?

__Lord_of_Light__ · 2021-04-05T13:03:42+00:00

I would get a baseball bat and smash his ribcage in. But that's just me.

ragersolodolo · 2021-04-05T02:19:52+00:00

Omg when did this subreddit turn into “telleveryoneaboutmylifeproblems”? Bruh nobody cares, fix your issues yourself.

LifeTopic · 2021-04-05T02:48:38+00:00

Go apologise to him you prick. If you were being disrespectful to him you deserved it. Telling him a simple "hey man, I was drunk af. I didn't mean to disrespect you like that, I'm sorry" and then shake his hand and bury the hatchet
Go learn a martial art, some posters said BJJ. BJJ is good, learn some judo or boxing on the side too.
Don't get drunk like that and don't start fights

Rexai03 · 2021-04-05T08:26:25+00:00

At the party, you go to him, look him in the eye, tell him you were drunk and that you are sorry, then shake his hand.

Now you not only saved face, but you also mended a rift between yourself and another person. Who knows, he might even turn out to be a friend.

At the very least you'll have one less enemy. And if he refuses you, he will be the ass and douchebag, not you.

(I will probably get downvoted, because it's not alpha-punch-kill enough for most people on here. So bring it :D )

Title	Got beaten up
Author	cringeboy123
Upvotes	19
Comments	67
Date	April 5, 2021 12:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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