A couple of days ago, I posted this: http://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2opcw2/if_you_think_were_getting_it_on_tonight_without/
Summary: Wife demanded apology for something that didn't deserve an apology, is holding out on sex until I apologize.

Since I'm very new at this, it all feels so unnatural, and makes me think I'm doing everything wrong. So, in case anyone's interested, here's the latest. As always, any advice appreciated, and, sorry for the wall of text.

Yesterday, Wife called me at work with a bit of an emergency. She lost her keys and couldn't get into our place. And had our baby with her. This is the second time this has happened in less than a week. Last time, I ran home from work to let her in. This time, I told her I couldn't, I had to work and then go to the company party, and that when she figured out a good solution, to let me know. She couldn't figure it out and started crying, getting upset with me, etc. I said, "if you continue to act like this, you're on your own." She immediately composed herself, apologized, and blamed it on the fact that she was anxious, felt bad that she was doing this to our baby, etc. I said I understood, but it's no excuse to talk to me like that. "You're right, I'm really sorry. Can you please help me? I don't know what to do..." I told her I've got it under control, then sent my keys with a courier. Problem solved, and I felt like the captain.

After work, I went straight to the company party, back to radio silence. Came home after she had gone to bed, about 4 hours after she expected me (pretty drunk...), and she woke up and asked me how it was. I said it was awesome, I couldn't believe how hot the women at work looked when they're not working, and that it was fun flirting with women I usually only have a professional relationship with.

This morning, we both woke up a little before our baby, started to get a little frisky, but then Baby woke up and we had to stop. I told her I was gonna go into work late this morning, so that after Baby was fed and happy, I could give it to her like she's been wanting. She said, "that sounds great, as soon as you apologize." "Hah, like you can resist." "Ecofriendly, why can't you just apologize so that we can have some fun?"

I immediately get out of bed without saying anything, not upset, and hit the shower and start to get ready for work. At this point, she's pretty upset and keeps giving me shit. I turn to her and say, "I have two things to say, and then I'm through talking about this. 1, sex with you is not a negotiable instrument. It is a privilege I earned when I agreed that I wasn't going to have sex with any other woman (a little very subtle dread). 2, I'm not going to apologize to you when I didn't wrong you in any way. Having said that, (turning toward kitchen area) Mr. Container, I'm very sorry I left you all alone to sit in your own filth for a few days. I'll try not to let it happen again." And with that, I left for work. I've had to communicate with her via email for things that need to get done for the household, but that's the extent that my communication with her will be today.

The thing I'm having the most trouble with is, the point of all of this is to get more sex. If I just apologize, I'd get sex. So shouldn't I just apologize? My response to my own question is that I might get sex this one time, but I'm playing the long-game here, and if I beta this situation, it means less sex in the future. Is that a correct analysis?

Again, sorry for the wall of text.