How do you meet women after college?

NonchalantlyIgnorant · 2013-06-24T20:05:04+00:00

Farmer's market, Grocery store, Yogurt place, Movies, Dog parks, Parks, Malls, Town square, Sex shop, Yoga class, cooking class, ballroom dance, salsa, tango, cafe, fuck the list goes on and on. They're just everywhere, so stop bitching and get out there and get some mudafuka!! Sometimes it depends on where you live though. If you live in Santa Cruz... My God you'll be drowning in a sea of vaginae, which is the plural form of vagina apparently; it won't even matter what you do there. It's almost as easy as just whipping it out. If you're in Jacksonville or somewhere like that's a sausage fest 25/8, then work on your career and get the fuck outa there! Good luck.

mommy_knowsbest · 2013-06-24T21:01:42+00:00

You should check out meetup.com groups. Pick an interest that you always wanted to learn and go for it.

Emerzon · 2013-06-24T19:36:01+00:00

The same way you meet anyone. Walk up and talk to them.

Ambassador_throwaway · 2013-06-24T19:55:31+00:00

Part of me has wanted to go back to school and pay for yet another degree just because meeting people/women in college is stupid easy.

I too feel this way but it's really my own self-imposed limitations: - I never interact with anyone at work because my office is in a remote building with 3 other people and most employees are 50+ - Why meet new people when I'm out when I have a great group of friends with me? - A woman will just appear in my life - Too high of standards for women - Etc...

However, that being said and like Emerzon says, just go up to people and talk to them. Surely you have a coffee shop, grocery store, target, etc... where people are in the suburbs.

robot_army_mutiny · 2013-06-25T06:20:42+00:00

It's tough because the good ones get married. You don't see thousands of pretty girls a week like you did in college. You may work with a few, you may not.

Here it is - you have to have an active social life. Go out. Go out a lot. Not just to bars, but do all sorts of things. Go out by yourself if you have to. Talk to everyone. Be social. Depending on what you are looking for, you may meet women you like in bars and clubs at night, or at coffee shops and parks during the day.

Looking for quick lays, slutty girls? Go to bars, get really good at cold approach. Looking for a girlfriend you can introduce to your mom? Go to parks during the day, or coffee shops, book stores, malls, etc - places where people congregate. The more upscale, the more attractive the women. But you still have to be good at cold approaching - luckily, it's a ton easier in day game. No bitch shields to break through.

Take some creative classes if you are shy. Ceramics is the best class you can take - it's very sensual, and everybody gets to know one another fast. Language classes are good too, because you have to embarrass yourself by trying to speak in a foreign language, so everyone's guard gets dropped.

Otherwise, have friends, do stuff with those friends. Every friend you have is a link to at least one or two pretty girls. Just go to all the stuff you get invited to, don't be a homebody. You'll never meet anyone sitting at home. Unless you want to do online dating, which is heavily based on looks and is very much a buyer's market for the women (attractive women have their choice of men, unless you are tall and good looking you'll have to settle).

recyclablebantha · 2013-06-25T03:58:49+00:00

What would /r/seduction suggest for me on how to meet women?

Partner dance scenes can be golden. (Example: salsa, lindy-up, blues dancing, argentine tango, etc.) Dance scenes can be like a second family while also providing you a social pool to date from.
Caveat #1: You shouldn't go there unless you have a legitimate interest in the respective dance. If you go there without regard for the dancing, and solely for pickup, you'll probably be singled out and ostracized.
Caveat #2: Some of the better dance events are probably going to be closer to the city, rather than the suburb. That said, I regularly commuted 30 minutes or so to most dance events. And happily so.

I am in the suburbs and a good train ride away from all places with a lot of women. I do not want to train into a city for the sole purpose of talking to girls.

Why not move out of the damn suburb, man? This is not even necessarily about "talking to girls," it's about having a life. If you can't have a life in the suburbs, that's a problem regardless of any lack of women to pick up on. What other interests do you have? Are you able to pursue those interests in the suburbs?

And think about it: even if you find one out in the suburbs, what are you going to do out there. If there's nothing to do, are you really going to want to date at venues/places out there?

dbaker102194 · 2013-06-25T04:19:15+00:00

Bars mostly. But literally anywhere you see a woman is fine.

maybenexttimecollege · 2013-06-24T19:54:56+00:00

Train into a city to do things for yourself but talk to women while you are there. I don't know. It seems like you base a lot of pick up on situational things and you are talking yourself out of it. I think that would be really fun to go into a big city like the way you are describing. Plenty of women there too. If you don't get out there you will not meet anyone. Any bars in your suburbs? Malls? Coffee shops?

coralto · 2013-06-25T00:10:53+00:00

I can't believe no one else has said this. Friends of friends! There are infinite circles of new people that you can meet by meeting someone, meeting their friends at a gathering/party/night out that they invite you to, meeting a new person there, and so on. Do the same for people you meet, invite them to parties and introduce them to people if you think they're cool, and you'll never run out of fresh faces.

SupaStud · 2013-06-25T06:30:22+00:00

Don't use "best places to game" as a crutch for any reason not to talk to a female anytime - anywhere. If you're not in a good "pickup spot" but see a good opportunity, then take it.

There's some good advice in these comments, but do not involve yourself with any of the online dating sites. You won't be doing your game any favors, and you'll mostly be finding very sub-par women (any woman worth your time doesn't need a dating site to find a date).

2013-06-25T13:15:07+00:00

At concerts you would actually enjoy.

slcjosh · 2013-06-24T22:57:46+00:00

Find a cheap ass hotel room and get a buddy to go into the big city with you for the weekend. Start as early as possible Friday afternoon. Start at happy hours and afterwork crowds and just let the momentum carry you into Friday night, Saturday, an Sunday. Head home Sunday night. Seems like a fun activity. Fuck it get a whole crew of friends together and do it every weekend. It would be a ball.

scottocs · 2013-06-24T20:18:33+00:00

You could try pof.com or okcupid.com.

Besides that, anytime you go to the store, gas station, restaurant, etc, just try and remember to talk to girls :)

Dragonsnake422 · 2013-06-24T20:11:46+00:00

Go to any campus near by and just day game. Noone will care and if anyone ask just say you're visiting a friend. There.

knoekie · 2013-06-25T14:27:20+00:00

I would suggest to go do something you love. Maybe you can try a sport? I play volleybal and there are lots of girls and guys playing it..You don't have to be good at it, just be present! But you could also go to a bookclub or whatever other stuff you like. The bonus point is that you will have something in common and you have something to talk about :)

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-06-24T23:06:30+00:00

Have you actually graduated from college yet? It doesn't sound like it, it sounds like you're guessing what will happen in the future.

Once college is over, you have to life a whole lifetime out in the real world. Out there, it's pretty close to 50/50 men/women. Women are everywhere you go.

DJ_Timelord13 · 2013-06-24T21:52:46+00:00

Other than okcupid, try fetlife for kinky social stuff that cool lead to fwb or a real relationship.

slcjosh · 2013-06-24T22:59:19+00:00

Oh and don't forget to dress appropriately. If say decent jeans a nice shirt for the after work crowd. Good thin about that is you can leave it for the evening, dress it up with a blazer or scrap t all for something more casual back at said hotel.

puntingbaxter · 2013-06-24T21:38:21+00:00

It's your attitude that is stopping you from meeting women. College made it very easy to interact with women, it put it on a silver platter for you. Now that you actually have to do some work you complain about it.

Sorry to introduce you to real life, you may have just graduated college, but out here adults work for things.

Title	How do you meet women after college?
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